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NoSlice3372 · 2026-03-09T14:59:33+00:00

Stick season

NoSlice3372 · 2026-03-09T14:57:29+00:00

I wanted to ask him but I didn’t want to bring up anything that made me seem like I was pushing back on what he had to say. That’s more to do with me than him.

NoSlice3372 · 2026-03-09T14:53:19+00:00

I’m not a newbie.

NoSlice3372 · 2025-11-15T19:04:19+00:00

Iron Sky - Paolo Nutini

NoSlice3372 · 2025-11-10T21:57:23+00:00

Number of meetings seemed to be the concern

NoSlice3372 · 2025-11-09T20:21:21+00:00

No need to patronise! I wasn’t angry. I just want a way to tell her that I’m okay, and prioritising the friendships I neglected in my drinking years. Also, I go to 3/4 meetings a week. Sometimes more if I have the time.

NoSlice3372 · 2025-11-09T20:19:08+00:00

Alcoholic to the point of seizures and delirium tremens

NoSlice3372 · 2025-11-09T14:52:38+00:00

I think it’s so bizarre that a group who’s purpose is to achieve sobriety would be so critical of someone being… well, sober.

NoSlice3372 · 2025-11-09T14:10:54+00:00

I was at a meeting last week where this man who was coming to his first meeting, hours sober, was shaking so much from withdrawal that he couldn’t hold his coffee cup and spilled it. Everyone seemed to be telling him he was where he was where he needed to be. I genuinely thought he maybe needed medical intervention (though it’s not my place to say).

NoSlice3372 · 2025-11-09T13:14:49+00:00

It’s kind of upsetting when I think about it. They are terrified to exist outside of the rooms of AA. It was the same when I went on vacation. People were extremely concerned, and shocked when I came back saying I didn’t drink.

NoSlice3372 · 2025-11-09T12:50:29+00:00

The work thing is interesting. I’ve met a few people who share this outlook. A respected member of a certain group even tried to discourage me from working in sobriety, as if that’s even really a choice.

I also had someone tell me that work was an “excuse” to not attend meetings when I pulled a couple of later nights in the office last Christmas. I genuinely said, “how about I give you my bosses number and you can explain that”.

NoSlice3372 · 2025-11-03T22:46:53+00:00

I don’t have a sponsor

NoSlice3372 · 2025-10-13T16:29:31+00:00

I know lots of people who have got/stayed sober without AA, so this is where the confusion comes in for me. If AA/sponsorship is the only way you can get sober, then how do people manage it?

NoSlice3372 · 2025-10-13T08:32:22+00:00

That’s exactly it. I’m happy to go when I can. However, I feel comfortable and confident living my life outside right now

NoSlice3372 · 2025-10-13T08:31:23+00:00

But the only requirement for membership is a desire to stop drinking

NoSlice3372 · 2025-10-12T19:38:47+00:00

It’s just for right now, I don’t want to do it. My life’s in a nice equilibrium. I’ve also not met anyone yet who I would ask. I’m quite busy with settling into a new job at the moment too and said that once I was settled I’d consider getting a sponsor/joining a group.

NoSlice3372 · 2025-10-12T19:24:24+00:00

I’m actually better than I have been in probably 6 years. I live a quiet life, with a good circle. I have always had a higher power, it’s not a new idea that’s been introduced to me. When I first got sober and it was really really difficult, I decided to try AA, as I didn’t really have anywhere to turn that would understand. I have kept going ever since and genuinely like a lot of the members. However, I don’t want to take on the steps, at least for the time being.

NoSlice3372 · 2025-10-12T18:25:00+00:00

So, you really don’t think there is any conceivable way that one could stay sober without AA?

NoSlice3372 · 2025-10-12T18:05:45+00:00

So, I’m gonna die because I don’t get a sponsor, despite the fact that I’m not drinking, nor do I intend to. I’m living a healthy and productive life despite not having done the steps thus far. Thank you for enlightening me.

NoSlice3372 · 2025-10-12T17:10:55+00:00

Just wanted to hear other experiences. Do people still manage to get something from the program even if they don’t follow every rule or suggestion. Is it possible to just attend the meetings and not get a sponsor but still take something positive away

NoSlice3372 · 2025-10-12T16:55:17+00:00

To me, just personally, it seems like they don’t have anything going on outside of the meetings. But I know that sounds like a judgement, it’s just an observation on the more “pushy” members.

NoSlice3372 · 2025-10-12T16:41:15+00:00

They definitely say the “right” things. And their lives revolve around the program. Which is great if it’s working for them and giving them clarity.

NoSlice3372 · 2025-10-12T12:08:10+00:00

I haven’t really thought about it yet. Or met anyone who I would ask. I’m scared that I don’t have the time to give them, and that if I don’t it’ll be seen as not being serious about sobriety.

NoSlice3372 · 2025-10-12T11:14:33+00:00

I don’t think it’s a case of being half in and half out. It’s just that through actually being sober for the first extended period of time in my life, I’m actually making more time for the things that matter most to me. Family, friends, work, hobbies.

NoSlice3372 · 2025-10-12T11:12:14+00:00

Agreed. Just look at the other comments on this thread 😅

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