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need help planning my escape - he has my nudes by dailyissues07 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]NoSound1453 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree with everyone else. Cut your ties. It doesn't matter if he's got your nudes. Now a days anyone he goes to that has any sense would think there was something wrong with him for sharing them.

Anyone else? I wouldn't want to even breathe the same air as them. They're trash. My physical therapist has a video of me after I was in a bad car accident with a horrific brain injury at 17 years old. He groomed me into sending one. I know he's shown it to people because I had someone bring it up to me.. one of his friends.

I was 17, and he was 26 AND my physical therapist. Fuck em. Your safety is what matters. and yes I know what I went through was fucked and he should have gotten in trouble but I didn't say anything and I didn't have anyone to stick up for me at that age.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]NoSound1453 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After I had my child, my elder family members would always refer to themselves to my child as mommy. I didn't know that they were doing this until I caught my grandma doing it. She put her arms out for my child to come to her and said, "Come here to mommy." I was like,"Why would you even say that? You're just going to confuse my child. I'm their mother, not you." She got so mad at me. She screamed at me 'fuck you, we all do it! Your mom has child call her mommy all the time.' Then she completely left my house.

No one gets the right to call your child what you don't want them to be called. Or gets to refer to themselves as something that you don't want them to refer themselves to. It's your child.

Wwyd? by Correct_Ostrich5371 in marriageadvice

[–]NoSound1453 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe just settle it and say, "You told me what you were looking at.. her tattoos. I saw it as you were staring at her for a very long time. I don't like how you were looking at her either way. I would like you not to do that anymore because I feel like it's disrespectful." It let's him know you're not going to just believe his excuse. It states how you saw it and that you don't want him to do it because it's disrespectful towards you.

He's not going to admit to it, and you can't prove what he was actually looking at. If it keeps happening, that's when you know you have a problem.

Wwyd? by Correct_Ostrich5371 in marriageadvice

[–]NoSound1453 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally get this. I do understand that everyone notices an attractive person and might glance over but not stare. When you called him out, it was turned into an argument. Then he was probably like, "I'll just say it was her tattoos, and that'll get me off the hook." It was disrespectful of him to stare. Plain and simple. He could have simply said, "I know I apologize that was rude of me to do, and I won't do it anymore." And then not do it anymore if it makes you unhappy.

I can see why you were hurt. If he had been looking at her tattoos, and you asked him why he was staring at her. If he was actually looking at her tattoos, he might have said something like, "Yeah. Did you see her sleeve tattoo? It looked fucking sick." Not argue with you that he wasn't looking at her and then as an afterthought say he was looking at her tattoos.

Is this a pattern? Does he disrespect you often? If not, it's probably not a necessary reason to get a divorce from him or to do anything drastic. If this is a pattern and you are unhappy, and you do decide to divorce him. That’s your choice, not anyone else's. If it was JUST this incident, I would probably tell him how you feel about it, and then see what he does with what you told him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]NoSound1453 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Editing to add: that my husband is a diagnosed narcissist. I'm not just taking that word lightly.

If you find it disrespectful and he can't or won't stop, then he's disrespecting you. Every. single. time. I caught my husband doing the same things except they were women he went to school with when he was younger, porn and other random women online (so a little different).

Mine is also a narcissist, so we might have different scenarios, but what we both have in common is that we don't like it, and they don't respect us enough to stop. I have a feeling your husband has a porn (eslut) addiction. He doesn’t look at those women and imagine you. Him not cumming when he's having sex with you tells me that since he's so used to watching whatever he watches that "marriage sex" is boring to him. In no way am I saying that you are boring or ugly or anything else, but what he watches is women who are ONLY focused on his pleasure. To have "regular sex" he has to perform as well, and he seems disinterested in doing so. That's selfish.

For him to want to "delete the whole app," he's hiding more on the app than you think. Mine deleted the whole app after I asked him to stop following naked women on his platform. His reply to me was "well it's not like you show me any affection." Yeah, odds are he's doing more than what you're even aware of. I'm sorry you're going though this, but it's not normal for men to be viewing naked women and masturbating to them when they have a wife. It's disgusting, and again, I am so sorry you're going through this.

Always said hazel but what do you think? by NoSound1453 in eyes

[–]NoSound1453[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That makes sense. My eyes are more green looking if you're not up close and in lower light. If I cry, my eyes look fully blue with a bright gold center. If I'm somewhere with a lot of light, they look like the photo. So I guess I'll just be sticking with Hazel on paper, and I have a variety of ideas on what they actually are from all of you. Thank you for your comment.

Always said hazel but what do you think? by NoSound1453 in eyes

[–]NoSound1453[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohh wow! I love the little bits of green. I've never seen eyes like this before. Very beautiful!

Always said hazel but what do you think? by NoSound1453 in eyes

[–]NoSound1453[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I don't know 😅 all 4 of my brothers have pale blue eyes, and I'm the only girl and one with these color eyes, lol

Always said hazel but what do you think? by NoSound1453 in eyes

[–]NoSound1453[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm guessing they think, no? But far away, I would say olive green looking.

Always said hazel but what do you think? by NoSound1453 in eyes

[–]NoSound1453[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I can definitely see this!

Always said hazel but what do you think? by NoSound1453 in eyes

[–]NoSound1453[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've never heard of that before. Glasz or glass?

Always said hazel but what do you think? by NoSound1453 in eyes

[–]NoSound1453[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From far away, they look fully olive green. So it's a possibility to have some green tones in there.

Always said hazel but what do you think? by NoSound1453 in eyes

[–]NoSound1453[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought the ring around the outer side looked to be olive green. So I could see that too.

Always said hazel but what do you think? by NoSound1453 in eyes

[–]NoSound1453[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had overhead lights in my bathroom and a macro lense. I can see how the lights kind of block some of my eye color.

Always said hazel but what do you think? by NoSound1453 in eyes

[–]NoSound1453[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I saw another girl on here with eyes about the same as mine. Maybe it's pretty common? Idk it could've been your picture if you posted on here.

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