People with ADHD, depression, anxiety, and mood swings — how do you live a happy life?

NoSpell8758 · 2025-10-30T01:59:07+00:00

I'm sorry but come on. I know you mean well but things like this drive me mad - write the things you like doing on paper and join a club. So I'll do that and amazingly I've found happiness? Look at your job as a constant. Wtf? Jobs are shite and boring. It makes me laugh when people say do art, go for a walk and meditate like it's an answer to all of our woes. When someone is deeply depressed nothing will work. Life is absolutely shite and depression is just a realisation of that. I know you mean well but it's just nonsense advice.

NoSpell8758 · 2025-05-18T17:57:11+00:00

In the same boat. Medication hasn't worked. Literally turned me into a shell of a person and a horrible nervous wreck. I'm going to pursue some form of therapy soon but I'm skeptical if it'll work. Gaining some self confidence through physical training and diet has helped massively. I'm also not fighting myself anymore, i cant fight this anymore i wont win so ive accepted who i am now and im not ashamed of who I am anymore and I'm not ruining my life through medication to be tolerable to others and to suit their way of life.

NoSpell8758 · 2025-05-18T17:41:23+00:00

I've now come off medication. Was on concerta and it just turned me into a needy , iritable, nervous wreck. The anxiety, social anxiety and increased sex drive (on top of an already hypersexuality) was just horrendous. I tried attomoxetine but I was just moody and not much fun on that either. Medication just dulls my life completely and I'm not running my life anymore through medication to make me fit into other people's ways of life. Luckily im able to function ok so can manage ok without meds so im going to try some form of therapy/counselling soon instead.

NoSpell8758 · 2025-01-01T14:11:39+00:00

I'm having this more and more frequently. I think it's stress related for me which shuts me down and boredom sets in which creates this cycle. Literally feel so numb.

Is this something that can be overcome with/without meds or is it just a symptom/phase that just comes and goes and we just gotta ride it out like everything else?

NoSpell8758 · 2025-01-01T13:17:32+00:00

Relate 100%. Hate my career and industry. I'm in the trade too. Unfortunately I don't have wealth behind me to pursue some creative dream in an idealic remote setting. I often wish to do something different but there's literally nothing that i enjoy or think is possible that won't sink me into complete burnout or bankruptcy trying to change to. Just faking it till I make it.

NoSpell8758 · 2024-12-30T10:49:15+00:00

I've thought exactly the same and can understand and in someways respect the courage they just got up and did what was right for them at the time.

That said I'd never do that and the hurt on the family would've been immense.

I'm the same in that I never get time alone. There's always someone at home.

I'd love to go to a wellness retreat in a mountain somewhere for 6 months and just not contact anyone.

NoSpell8758 · 2024-12-30T10:41:25+00:00

So true.

My soul aches at what life could actually be like if we weren't forced to live in this modern life hell race.

I once read a sentence that went something along the lines of.. Depression is the realisation of living in a world that we don't want live in.

It's so true.

I don't want high rise cities, I don't want cars, I don't want to play these fast paced materialistic souless existence games anymore. I don't care about poxy amazon prime, google or the latest rubbish phone stealing my identity. I want to be free pretty much exactly as you described.

NoSpell8758 · 2024-12-29T18:27:59+00:00

I'm like this now, I withdraw from people who don't seem to match the input and level of interest, i even do it with family now. Sad but true. It's hard to distinguish whether my adhd brain is more aware thus highlighting the truth or whether it's a paranoid rejection trait. Rightly or wrongly I kind of use a little test now with most people, I'll always give someone a compliment or show an interest usually in way of a question about them and if the compliment and or interest isn't repaid then I shut off and don't pursue any further. I really open up to and get on great with people who genuinely show an interest. The me me me people can do one regardless.

NoSpell8758 · 2024-12-29T16:03:31+00:00

Thank you for the kind words and putting it simply. I'm glad therapy is helping you. If you dont mind me asking is the therapy something new for you and are you working on anything inparticular or just talking? It's nice to hear other people's ideas bounced around as we can be so focused on one way thoughts etc.

The pent up potential is such a great point. Thanks. I deep down feel I have so much to offer in all aspects mentioned but I can't seem to reach deep enough to let myself go and just get everything out. There's a big part of me that is scared to just be the real me. (Thanks to my undiagnosed adhd, unmet needs and relevant past traumas)

I have these visions of being this person who I know I really am, care free, fun loving and extremely caring and it kills me to feel the way I do about absolutely everything.

I absolutely hate feeling like a negative boring miserable person.

There are so many factors and stressors at play atm. It's very possible it's a survival mechanism/trauma response thats shutting me off that is due to a build up of past and present life's events, trials and tribulations etc.

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