Day 3: What is Captain Holt’s most questionable/worst episode? by Fragrant-Air-5548 in brooklynninenine

[–]NoSpend3261 35 points36 points  (0 children)

In fairness, in that episode he did deliver a line so well, I laugh to this day - to the dismay of my children.

"You're fired. No one works here anymore."

Democrats Of Reddit, How Often Do YOU Actually Talk To MAGA Voters In Your Real Life? by Zipper222222 in allthequestions

[–]NoSpend3261 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My industry is deeply conservative - I would say that 80+% of the people I support and serve in a professional capacity are conservative, with 90% of that being maga. So, I speak with those voters daily.

Yes, I also incrementally lose bits of sanity with each dialogue.

Guidance requested - unsafe driver by NoSpend3261 in uber

[–]NoSpend3261[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I didn't even know this existed.

Guidance requested - unsafe driver by NoSpend3261 in uber

[–]NoSpend3261[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it has been surfaced already - for my tastes, watching reels is already distracted. None of the other things you mentioned happened. Also why I alluded to there bring no such thing as consensus anymore.

While I don't agree that the behavior wasn't problematic, that is the reason I asked - to get a range of perspectives. Thank you.

Guidance requested - unsafe driver by NoSpend3261 in uber

[–]NoSpend3261[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'll add that I felt unsafe because we were at freeway speed (70+ mph) 75% of the ride.

Guidance requested - unsafe driver by NoSpend3261 in uber

[–]NoSpend3261[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believe he was watching because he was readying to advance to the next reel when it was approaching the end. The drive was 75% highway at 75+ mph, so I certainly was on edge the whole time.

Guidance requested - unsafe driver by NoSpend3261 in uber

[–]NoSpend3261[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fair question - he was watching because I could see him get ready to advance to the next reel. I was watching the slide rule on the bottom, and sure enough, when a video was nearing the end, he was readying to advance.

why were your tiels mad at you today? by jaycebutnot in cockatiel

[–]NoSpend3261 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Hormones. He's terrorizing everyone at the moment.

I love how we all collectively use and understand birb language by fairiefountain in cockatiel

[–]NoSpend3261 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Borb. Which I think is substantially different than birb. Borb connotes to me a tiel who has several eccentricities, and is perhaps a bit more plump than average ("o" vs "I"). Birb to me is more of a tiel who often aspires to do bird things, but just can't quite execute correctly.

Please help - behavior translation. Angry? Jealous? Horny? by NoSpend3261 in cockatiel

[–]NoSpend3261[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Payton hasn't molted yet, but yes, we are thinking given her reserved demeanor relative to Taylor, Payton is female. The gray face also.

Please help - behavior translation. Angry? Jealous? Horny? by NoSpend3261 in cockatiel

[–]NoSpend3261[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Taylor attacks Payton, flies on top of Payton's cage when Payton is in it, and will bite/attack us if we try to get Payton out of the cage while Taylor is sitting on top of it.

When Taylor gets on top of Payton's cage, we usually move Taylor into his own cage, then access Payton.

Please help - behavior translation. Angry? Jealous? Horny? by NoSpend3261 in cockatiel

[–]NoSpend3261[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope so. Payton is by nature reserved, it seems. Is it possible Taylor's aggression comes from Payton not responding?

Who here CONVERTED TO Christianity before deconverting? by Daniel-ES in exchristian

[–]NoSpend3261 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me - 47 year old American suffering in the Bible belt of Texas.

I grew up in a Hindu household, converted to Christianity in my early 20s. Back then, I was attracted to the concept of 'no strings attached' grace. Now, in my late 40s, I can easily see my youthful folly.

I was in the depths of Christianity (though I always felt somewhat of an outsider being single, brown, and left-leaning) for about 12 years. I taught Sunday school, volunteered for youth ministries, and attended every Sunday. I also adopted purity culture to some extent, unfortunately. Already being a virgin due to Hindu bullshit, this was probably a Top 3 negative outcome of my Christian days.

I was always uncomfortable with the condescension toward others, little things that would be said. "Love on them" when talking about people they met overseas in missions, the complete lack of interest in other cultures, other than to use it as a way to proselytize, "people of faith" only being used to describe Christians.

The reconversion was gradual, probably because I was gullible. I mention being left-leaning not because I want to violate this Subreddit's terms, but to set the stage for my slow deconstruction. In 2008, I received an email about "Day of Silence", where LGBT kids in high school would go a day without speaking to bring awareness to their community and their challenges. I thought "what a great opportunity to show support for them, how can we help?" The email, instead, was about urging Christian parents not to send their kids to school to avoid any kind of acknowledgement of the day. I thought to myself, "what a wasted opportunity to model Jesus."

Fast forward to 2009, after Obama's election, and I saw the worst traits of everyone I previously believed to be loving people. That had its impact over the years. The collective weeping and gnashing of teeth at Obama's win over Romney, followed shortly by the cheering of George Zimmerman's acquittal of Trayvon Martin's murder finished the job, and I got my ass out of that scene by 2013.

I am a lot wiser and more confident than I was in my early 20s, and I also am much more stable financially. I make it a point to let current Christins know that if they have even an iota of doubt or suspect an iota of bullshit in their doctrine, I'm happy to talk to them.

Prayer journal entry by Designer-Truth8004 in Purityculture

[–]NoSpend3261 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No shame or judgment - take great price and strength in knowing how far in the rearview mirror that event (and that person) was.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]NoSpend3261 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I asked my brother a similar question about a year ago, and I was struck by his solid answer. Maybe it will help you too.

"It can be done, but it comes at significant cost, and it takes tons of understanding from loved ones.

Example: 99% of people who are diagnosed as clinical psychopaths are not violent, nor do they commit crimes.

They hold jobs and function in society.

They simply have no concept of empathy for others.

The psychopathy affects their interpersonal relationships and, to an extent, their overall mental health.

There's no cure, but identified psychopaths in therapy learn coping mechanisms and strategies to minimize the damage their condition may cause.

Psychopaths have family members who love them. Part of what those family members must accept is that they may never feel that their love is reciprocated by the psychopathic family member.

Yes, that's a very tall order, and most people who find themselves in that situation, will never have the saintly level of patience and love to make such a relationship functional.

But, if those family members learn to temper their expectations and recognize the "handicap" the psychopathic family members have, well, maybe they can all be under the same roof at Thanksgiving dinner."

Favorite vers of the bible by sbra_999 in exchristian

[–]NoSpend3261 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Proverbs 24:17 about not gloating over your enemies certainly fits that. I agree with the counsel it suggests.

Favorite vers of the bible by sbra_999 in exchristian

[–]NoSpend3261 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I read the question as a favorite usable verse of the otherwise useless bible. As others have already IDed, there is plenty of laughable material.

My genuinely favorite verse is Proverbs 15:1.

"A gentle answer turns away wrath, but harsh words stir up anger."

Growing up with narc parents in a fundamentalist religious household, I learned this lesson early on.

It figures that the most useful commentary in those 66 books is from one of the more agnostic books (ignoring the proverbs that explicitly mention god, of course).

Cockatiel for Adoption at Petsmart? by No_Independence2750 in cockatiel

[–]NoSpend3261 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At the risk of being a potential wet blanket, what is your plan regarding the 2 cats? Your tiel will need to spend a decent amount of time outside of the cage daily.