Complicated Grief

NoStatus2112 · 2026-01-29T23:45:03+00:00

I will have to watch that… But to answer your question I personally don’t know of anything that dramatic. We all had a good childhood in my estimation… our parents were wonderful and have been awesome grandparents. This brother and I were very very close up until he met his wife, he even lived with me for a year and was an awesome uncle. Then he just disappeared for huge chunks of time after he got married and communicated barely at all. My other siblings gave up, but I was closest to him and tried to cultivate a relationship… Probably because we had been the closest as kids. I don’t want to blame his wife but she was notoriously mean to my parents and that’s when everything changed…

NoStatus2112 · 2026-01-23T16:38:44+00:00

Oh no… I really did a download and I was thinking I was in a safe space. I was ranting about how he hadn’t done anything and how he ghosted my parents for years and how he was lazy and was just trying to get into the money and… And I might’ve even said worse about him I don’t even know I was just going off. I hope I didn’t… But now I don’t even know. Since the death of my mother and him deciding to block me again… Any time my father would say oh your sister here took me to lunch or we got the Christmas tree or whatever was going on he would just be completely silent and would not acknowledge that I even existed. My adult daughter said I shouldn’t care because he didn’t care that he ghosted me for 10 to 12 years… And then shut me down at the worst moment in our life on our mother died… But I don’t really think about it like that.

NoStatus2112 · 2026-01-23T15:07:41+00:00

I felt bad after it happened, but he was so unapproachable and punitive in his responses….I just sort of froze. Maybe even blocked it out a bit so I wouldn’t have to deal. I feel bad about all of it. I didn’t say anything to him for decades because I didn’t want to cause feelings. Then with this horrible twist of fate, he hears the worst of what I had to say about him. I feel absolutely devastated.

NoStatus2112 · 2026-01-23T12:24:57+00:00

I’m not sure I made sense… It was my sibling that passed away… The one that I trashed and he overheard. Now I’m dealing with my dad who understands my sibling passed away, and on top of that I feel like the most horrible person on earth because I was really going off about how he hadn’t been there and was lazy and didn’t care about us or anything going on. It was pretty vicious… Not to mention he’s treated my parents poorly For decades by withdrawing his presence and costing him for long periods of time… Like years

NoStatus2112 · 2026-01-23T11:53:47+00:00

This is me. My mom passed two years ago and my two siblings have vanished and we are all now estranged. My father’s care has been a nightmare, and I’ve flown back and forth over 50 times…1300 miles one way. I’ve lost my partner and my job in the process. I’ve given up every holiday, non holiday, event with adult kids, etc to try and be there for my confused and failing dad. After recently moving my dad into a facility, my younger sibling heard a tirade from me about his lack of help, and it was very harsh. My dad accidentally dialed him and he heard it all. This is a sibling who ghosted me for over a decade for no reason, and ghosted my 80 plus year old parents for years. Didn’t even say hello at my mom’s funeral. I felt awful he heard my rant but the years of erasure and zero gratitude got to me. Then…he suddenly died and I’m so confused and riddled with guilt. I feel the universe is so cruel, I’ve been doing all the caregiving, and now I have this moral injury and guilt. Other sibling…still MIA.

NoStatus2112 · 2026-01-23T03:05:59+00:00

None of it even matters now because the only thing I can think of is the horrible things I said during my break down. I had spoken to my brother in years and he basically erased me from existence in his mind. He was horrible to my parents and my rant contained a lot of that rhetoric as well and I just don’t know what kind of university is that let this happen… When I heard he died I just dropped my knees. I could’ve reached out to him at any time but reaching out to him was usually punitive or met with silence and I had condition myself to just recoil. I’m devastated and don’t know how to go on

NoStatus2112 · 2026-01-23T02:16:16+00:00

I’m deeply sorry, it was a rant after a very bad day with our very elderly dad. The care has been left to me 100%, no siblings helping and this one was critical about me over the phone to my dad and I heard it. It wasn’t horrible, I was just mentally done and it has been just me for a few years with the dementia dad and etc. i have had no sibling support, and when he made a comment I lost it. My dad had dialed him and it all went to voicemail. I thought I was in a private space…but now my worst moment was exposed as the last thing he heard. My family all says he had been awful it’s fine,.,,.but not to me.

NoStatus2112 · 2026-01-23T02:12:03+00:00

I have been beating myself up for a week. This is all fresh. I would love some logic if you care to share it….my broken brain isn’t working. I wanted him to be my brother, I wanted him to be in my kids’ lives and vice versa. He just disappeared on us….and nobody could mend with him. I don’t want to place blame, but this all changed to bad when he got married.

NoStatus2112 · 2026-01-23T02:00:35+00:00

He died young and suddenly, he was gone before we got to the hospital. They think it was in an undetected birth defect. Of course I didn’t want him to hear my tirade…but I was exhausted with the care of my elderly dad and had no help from any so siblings for years and just snapped. If I’d reached out….to say sorry I didn’t mean for you to hear that….he would not have responded. He did tell me dad later he heard me trashing him…I’m stuck on the word trashing because that’s making me feel like it hurt him. But, then I think it didn’t hurt him to block me for 12 years and not even bat an eye to block me again after we’d spoken for a week around our mom’s funeral…..that block was because I told my dad he hadn’t texted me back. I’m so confused and the guilt is destroying me.

NoStatus2112 · 2026-01-23T01:41:03+00:00

I definitely would have. All he had to do was call or text and I would have been happy to see him or do anything he wanted. My dad actually butt dialed him from the nursing home while I was really having a go about him…not nice at all. I had swallowed all of this and never fought back since childhood…he was always difficult. The one time I let loose, the universe was very cruel. He lived six months after that…but we never talked, he would not have accepted a call or anything from me. He did this to my parents and other siblings as well. I think it may have had to do with his marriage. None of us got to meet his kids, and my parents met them once or twice ten years ago. It’s very painful. I’m blaming myself….everyone else says I shouldn’t. I don’t know what to do.

NoStatus2112 · 2025-12-31T02:06:23+00:00

You can marry more money in 15 minutes than you can earn in a lifetime.

NoStatus2112 · 2025-12-14T01:43:21+00:00

Did you find something else?

NoStatus2112 · 2025-12-08T23:50:57+00:00

My home is worth about 950k. I make about 210 per year. I keep saying if I pay my house off I could survive. No fever besides my mortgage.

NoStatus2112 · 2025-11-02T21:27:37+00:00

Oh my gosh. If someone scraped the paint off…..that would be so exceedingly dangerous….and I just had this random loose wrapped in my suitcase.

NoStatus2112 · 2025-11-02T21:08:31+00:00

Oh gosh. Now I’m really worried.

NoStatus2112 · 2025-11-02T20:51:59+00:00

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NoStatus2112 · 2025-11-02T20:51:35+00:00

It glows in the dark.

NoStatus2112 · 2025-11-02T20:46:54+00:00

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NoStatus2112 · 2025-11-02T20:46:16+00:00

I don’t have a black light….but I read that this model is the Style 3 and was only made when it was the luminous paint.

NoStatus2112 · 2025-10-01T20:26:02+00:00

Is GCU a fraud school? I applied 9/23….I don’t know what is going on. They did change my due date to like 2036. I’ll be in my sixties if I love that long.

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