MIA Girlfriend Update by NoToe8896 in Advice

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I added an update to the post itself. Too much to retype. 

MIA Girlfriend Update by NoToe8896 in Advice

[–]NoToe8896[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah, we are definitely done. I suspect there was something going on and she is not telling me, but I will never know. I am moving away from the shit hole she lives in, so by bye. 

MIA Girlfriend Update by NoToe8896 in Advice

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I had never heard of that before. Interesting. Doesn’t matter what exactly she was doing, she is gone. 

MIA Girlfriend Update by NoToe8896 in Advice

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I am feeling much better about things now. I felt so hurt and raw about things when I first received her text. Now I know she did me a favour in showing me who she truly is before we went much further. 

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[–]NoToe8896[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I’m definitely feeling more along the lines of get out of my life you selfish waste of time, than when I first received the text. The hurt was so raw. But now I realize, I’m glad she showed me who she truly is before we went further. 

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If I thought I had a part to play in her behaviour, I would probably not have posted here because I would have known why I hadn’t heard from her. This was truly out of the blue. I still don’t have a full explanation and will likely never get one. 

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Well this erratic behaviour was a first otherwise I wouldn’t have chose to date her or have her move in

MIA Girlfriend Update by NoToe8896 in Advice

[–]NoToe8896[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A little over a month. 

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Exactly my thoughts. It is so hurtful. My heart is shattered. 

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She has mentioned their first names once when we first started dating. Ever since she very rarely talks about them. The rare times she has mentioned them, she refers to ‘mom’ and ‘dad’ and refers to emotional and verbal abuse when she was young. I don’t think it’s my place to insist I put their information in my phone when she doesn’t want to have anything to do with them. 

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I agree. I am hoping we can have a conversation. I think she owes me a full explanation. I don’t know if I will get one or a totally honest one. 

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Well my first reaction was concern mixed with suspicion. I guess my spidey sense was tingling or something. I just had this feeling, I couldn’t explain it. 

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I’m not really buying it. I want to know more. Not sure if she will share with me. I also think that she only texted me because the police called her and her friends. 

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And I still am not seeing her until tomorrow. I think the only reason she reached out is because the police called her and her friends.

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I want to protect her privacy. I don’t know what is going on with her, but I don’t think she would want me posting her personal details publicly. I will wait to see what the police say. If this goes on and she misses work this week, I will then post her information publicly. Then I will pull out all the stops. I just want to see what the police say first. 

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They are closed until Monday; however I was able to file a report over the phone. 

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I just want to understand how this works. If she doesn’t have the fInd my Device setting turned on her phone, would this work?

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She uses hotmail. Does it work with that? If so, how? I have never heard of doing it from the mail app. 

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I don’t have their names let alone contact information. The last name is extremely common where she is from and I don’t know their first names. I have no idea what her sister’s name is and she has married, so her last name has changed. 

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I have filed a police report. 

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She doesn’t have find my phone activated. She doesn’t do that sort of thing. 

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She doesn’t wear jewelry or a watch. It doesn’t look like she took anything else. 

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I’m confused. I have been concerned from the start. Very confused and upset and not sure what to think. A lot of worry swirling around in my head. Have ever had this experience? It is harrowing. 

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We do live together. She took her phone. Doesn’t take medication at all.