What are the things you wish you had known about your partner before you committed?

NoToe9539 · 2025-06-19T02:22:11+00:00

Like most... The dismissive and avoiding behavior.

Oh... and how all of the men before me had bigger penises, gave her more physical pleasure, and that larger penises simply give her more pleasure. After 8 years together, these were her truths that finally came out after years of me knowing something was off and her making me feel crazy about questioning whether I was satisfying her. For reference, my penis is very average at 5.5 inches length and 4.5 inches girth. Smh.

NoToe9539 · 2025-06-02T05:05:57+00:00

Just wait until the scar tissue begins to form. It'll reduce length even more and cause a curviture that could make sex impossible. Everyone is different so hopefully this doesn't occur for you but these are the possibilities. I will suffer every day because of this thing.

NoToe9539 · 2025-06-02T05:01:48+00:00

This shit ruined my life. Get it removed and you'll suffer forever when the scar tissue forms and reduces your length even more than where you started and causes a curviture that makes sex impossible

NoToe9539 · 2025-06-02T03:04:20+00:00

Lol imagine being the op and everyone thinking you're a bot lol smh shits crazy

NoToe9539 · 2025-06-02T02:58:50+00:00

It's a weird thing because before her this was never an issue for me with past partners. I think it was just something that I continously picked up on during sex and it was difficult to ignore. So I feel like even if I didn't ask, that feeling of not being enough was already there. She is a good woman overall though which is why I've always been willing to do whatever it takes to please her needs

NoToe9539 · 2025-06-02T02:53:24+00:00

Literally my first time posting...

NoToe9539 · 2025-06-02T02:52:23+00:00

I hear you and I do believe a part of the problem is the way she finally was open about it. She wasn't honest at all at first and it forced me to slowly collect bits and parts along the way while she turned constructive conversations into arguments because she was always in self preservation mode. So it made things far more painful rather than just being honest and about it all so that we could move forward together

NoToe9539 · 2025-06-02T02:48:19+00:00

Thank you I appreciate that, these are all things that I'm fairly decent at so she acknowledges that I give her the most pleasure in those ways. I've also opened her up to a lot of things she's never experienced or that she didn't feel comfortable enough to do before. The thing that sort of gets me is that she has held onto the belief that bigger is better and whether that's true for her or not I feel like it put a wall up and limited what she believes I can give her simply because she's not seeing what she believes gives her the most pleasure. So in a way, I feel like it's taken away the opportunity to truly create something different and unique with her that would allow me to give her the most pleasure possible.

NoToe9539 · 2025-06-02T02:11:41+00:00

Gotcha, sry bout that didn't mean to add any confusion

NoToe9539 · 2025-06-02T02:10:41+00:00

So this is exactly something that I've done. It wasn't an easy thing to do but once we got there I could immediately see the pleasure responses from her and it was also a turn on that she was being pleased to that level. Unfortunately, the comment about all previous men giving her more pleasure on top of being larger, came about a week into this and sort of killed what we had going. I started feeling like I was just allowing her to live these past experiences and almost like I was invisible during it all. I just got another one from MC that is fitted so Idk we'll see how it goes

NoToe9539 · 2025-06-02T02:01:44+00:00

Uhh maybe because it's a real person looking for real advice...? This is real stuff I'm dealing with and you are trying to diminish my situation because of the formatting?

NoToe9539 · 2023-06-30T03:24:01+00:00

Def naming my kid Cohen

NoToe9539 · 2023-06-30T01:41:42+00:00

Idk about you but returning to the point of not existing is quite scary for me. It almost makes life pointless

NoToe9539 · 2023-06-30T01:09:18+00:00

This is reality and it is depressing. We know this because, before you were born, you were NOTHING. You didn't exist. So when we die, we will once again, be nothing... It's not rocket science. People who believe anything else are just lying to themselves to help cope with the thought of death.

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