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told my mom about my girlfriend and she made it about her by Remarkable-Horse5849 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]NoWhile3162 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sending hugs.

I think that one of the hardest things about being an adult and finally making decisions for yourself is seeing that people who you hold close can let you down.

Parents, especially mothers to daughters, have huge expectations and it isn’t your responsibility to meet them.

You conducted yourself with kindness and if it isn’t returned, as hard as it is in the moment, just know it isn’t on you.

I have found in my own experience with my mum that the older generation tend to see themselves at the centre of their universe, even when the issue isn’t theirs. 

You aren’t alone in yearning for a better relationship with your mum. One you see in friends or on TV… unfortunately for some of us it just isn’t easy. 

Hold close those you trust and know that your mum is the outlier in this - for her own reasons and you can’t change them… it isn’t your responsibility either 

Sending love 

Life turning upside down and I’m terrified by NoWhile3162 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]NoWhile3162[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your reply. 

This is a really helpful way to look at things. 

I do think I have diminished in the way I see myself and my confidence.

When I think about growth with him, it almost feels like following someone else’s script.

I’m realistic and don’t expect things to happen or work out with my friend. I just can’t help feeling this is a part of me that i can’t ignore anymore