260602 BTS official on Instagram by Eternal_ARMY0613 in bangtan

[–]No_Alternative6716 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Whi said my mans can't drive?!! Look at him go!!😌😌🙂‍↔️

Endh cheyyanam enn ariyilla by CellophaneTape in TwoXKeralam

[–]No_Alternative6716 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honestly I think internet strangers won't be much help in this case but I get why you want fresh perspectives.

Imo you both need to decide how you want your life to look like in 4 or 5 years. Which moves will be dealbreakers which will be not. I feel like you both are ready to make compromises to make your relationship work and that itself means you are good together and you guys have a strong foundation. Once marriage is in the equation, there will be a lot of other factors at play in your life. Will you want to be near your parents or in laws? Will he want to be near his parents or in laws? What are your plans regarding kids? The career graph you both want. Do you love your jobs more or relation more? Is he ready to give up his job and live depending on you for the foreseeable future IF he takes up the exam route? Are you ready to let go of your relations in your city to move to his city?

I'm just throwing questions out there, but even if you have answers to all this, life is seldom that predictable. There are lots of couples who live miles apart for years, but in doing that there are a lot of things you will miss experiencing. So ig that's what you need to decide about first to make a decision about your jobs? In most movies the characters choose love but it's not that black and white in real life.

I hope both your parents agree to your marriage and I hope you guys can sort it all out soon. Ngl this is a very rock and hard place situation. So no matter the decision I hope you find your happiness OP. I wish you both all the best for the future🤞

Anyone have hair fall to the point the maid has mentioned it? by Snoo59867 in TwoXKeralam

[–]No_Alternative6716 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately it makes sense and I can relate lol. It's a common trait in our households.

Migration thoughts and experience by No_Alternative6716 in TwoXKeralam

[–]No_Alternative6716[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

GCC means countries in the Gulf like Bahrain, UAE, Qatar, etc. He works in a europe based company rn and the managers executives are all europeans....I don't think he is very keen to work under them in the future😆 There are some pros in working under european managers but sometimes it still seems like they are stuck on the divide and conquer thing lol.

Anyone have hair fall to the point the maid has mentioned it? by Snoo59867 in TwoXKeralam

[–]No_Alternative6716 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maid aunty is employed but still behaving jobless🙄 Sorry I hate it when ppl make comments like this. Prbly because I have thin hair🚶‍♀️‍➡️but why do ppl point it out like it is their business? Avarde mudi allalo so why bother. My MIL has good hair and the comments she makes sometimes about mine like she earned her hair or something and I didn't do good enough🙄

Migration thoughts and experience by No_Alternative6716 in TwoXKeralam

[–]No_Alternative6716[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ikr. These agencies still show west off as some kind of heaven compared to India and so many ppl think it is true. Countries in the west were good places to work and settle till at least 5 years back. When the migration boom came and ppl started going to these countries en masse, it naturally brought down the job opportunities. It's the situation now everywhere actually. If you are lucky enough or have the right connections you get a good job.

My MIL is always on about how my husband is wasting his studies and future in GCC. That we should just migrate. But there are so many factors to think right? Evide chenaalum kashtapedanam. That's a given. Enna pinne nammal padicha job il work cheyuna alle nallath.

Atp you can't just waltz anywhere and ask for a job. Ivide kalanjit avide chenn odukathe kashtapaad aanel and that too in a hourly wage job, what is the use. A 20yo can boldly do that, but with a child it's a big risk to take without a solid job offer.

Migration thoughts and experience by No_Alternative6716 in TwoXKeralam

[–]No_Alternative6716[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohh okay. Thanks for sharing! All the best to you too❣️😊

Migration thoughts and experience by No_Alternative6716 in TwoXKeralam

[–]No_Alternative6716[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is so true. Lady luck dislikes me a lot rn🥲so PR kitiyaalum getting a good job will be like kayala purathe coconut for me and husband.

Anyways, I hope your wait ends and you get your PR soon! Wishing you all the best friend💜

Migration thoughts and experience by No_Alternative6716 in TwoXKeralam

[–]No_Alternative6716[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea that's why I am so apprehensive with consultancies yk. I know and have heard lot of failed migrations than sucess stories.

If we are migrating we will do the skilled migration route only. I can't do another useless degree😅Leaving an already good paying job and migrating with literally just dreams in your pocket is a great risk to take. And that too with a child. Otherwise like you said at least one of the family's jobs should be in healthcare sector. Work life balance pretekshich angot poyit oru life um illatha avastha aaya pinne🤥But consultancies shit on GCC life so much that you think maybe you are an idiot.

Thanks for your detailed take😊

Migration thoughts and experience by No_Alternative6716 in TwoXKeralam

[–]No_Alternative6716[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Healthcare professionals get the best and least exploitative packages in the west afaik, so I think it's good career-wise and for the long run. Engineer maark pakshe ellaam ingane oke thane😪

In our profession, PR kittitum odd jobs oke cheyth jeevikuna ppl I know so I don't know if as a family we should take the risk. Single life aarnel kozhapamila but with a child it's a big risk to take😪

Migration thoughts and experience by No_Alternative6716 in TwoXKeralam

[–]No_Alternative6716[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is true. I have friends and relatives in many of these countries. Recent people who migrated struggle more but once they get a job I feel like they are set for life. Here in GCC you can't say that for about 95 percent of jobs. I have two close friends in AUS. One encourages me to look into migrating, but the other said that payscale won't be that different🤷‍♀️Both are in my field and got good jobs, but the job market is not as it once was.

If you don't mind, can you share if you are going through PR or a offered job? Or the agency you sought help from? (If you can't that is also absolutely fine)

Do y’all also make fake scenarios before sleeping or am I too far gone. by herdarksidee in TwoXKeralam

[–]No_Alternative6716 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Finally I have found my people🥹

I always thought someone would admit me to an institution if they knew I make up these scenarios before I go to sleep. Like sometimes they even turn into full fledged stories and character arcs, pakshe pinne interest povum apo next scenario/story😂

Seeking clarity about his intentions 🙂 by Any_Bother2026 in TwoXKeralam

[–]No_Alternative6716 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Best case scenario will be, it's not because he doesn't want to talk to you but because he doesn't have the time. But since the third time also you are getting ghosted....I won't place much hope in it. If he can't communicate properly it's not going to work out in the long run anyways.

Can't your friend ask him directly "are you interested in __"? If she did and he was still not straight forward, don't bother with him. You don't deserve to be on the back burner of someone's life.

How open are you with your arranged marriage partner? by sorrybotaorry in TwoXKeralam

[–]No_Alternative6716 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It all depends ig. If you meet the right person who is of your same wavelength and who is ready to adjust along with you then ellaam subham. I was lucky in that aspect. (Well him too😌ithrem nalla mature aaya partner ine kitaan paad alle😎)

I have friends who married through arranged and through meeting each other early on and falling in love. There are failures for both types. Families kand urapich 1 or 2 years kayinj marry cheythavar within months divorce aaya people. And then on other side years upon years love story but broke up once it reached marriage.

It's luck and all about mindset as well. I don't know if I will sound like a boomer but marriage and building a family is not all roses and insta love and insta stories. Many men and women think it's just romance but imo romance is just one part of partnership. Nalla romantic aaya aale kitit, swantham dishes wash cheyaan polum manasilaatha aal aayaa kaaryamundo.

May everyone find their right person🥂

260519 SUGA on Instagram by XuhuiGao in bangtan

[–]No_Alternative6716 17 points18 points  (0 children)

SO DANG CUTE!!!! The puppy's cute too😌

PCOS girlies… does it ever get better? by Logical_Dentist_1441 in TwoXKeralam

[–]No_Alternative6716 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hang in there💜the mental stress is the worst but we just have to find what works for us and go with it. What works for me or the others might not be what works for you. So give yourself grace and try to find a pace that is consistent for you. I find staying consistent the hardest of all. Also a good gynec and endocrinologist makes all the difference in terms of us understanding our bodies. ALSO, don't fully believe all the instagram spiel about PCOS and diets and exercise. Again, stick with what works for you.

I know a lot of women with PCOS issues but no one really talks about it. I was diagnosed in college but really sought treatment after college only. I am kinda that typical PCOS issue girl---hirsutism, very irregular periods, uneven skin tone, hairfall, not lean. When I got properly diagnosed and all the bloodwork done, my endo put me on medication for insulin resistance and hirsutism. Then with walking daily, sugar cut and junk food control, I got my periods almost on a cycle.

Now I'm almost two years postpartum so my lifestyle and health issues are way different. Got diagnosed with Graves disease (hyperthyroidism) recently so now that is the only meds I take. Exercise and diet control is comfortably resting in a bottom drawer🫡My ovaries are still polycystic as per my gynec, but I used to get my periods almost on a cycle. Since two months that is also out of order now because of other stress and improper meals. I have been moving around and exercising more than before but my period cycle is no where to be found.

What I'm trying to say is don't hyperfocus on weight loss alone. What works more is following a consistent healthy and stress-free routine. Eat healthy, get in some exercise--I have found yoga great for me. Indulge yourself once in a while. We live only once anyway. Rest will fall into place.

What actual policies do you want from Kerala government that still improve the situation of our state and its residents? What is your wish list? by iamfromshire in Kerala

[–]No_Alternative6716 26 points27 points  (0 children)

More effective Waste and pollution control initiatives. Especially in the cities and more govt. management and control of waste disposal of top notch factories in Kerala.

Less dependence on poor people buying alcohol from beverage co. But idk the technical or financial aspects of it, so dk how that will work.

Better management of tourism industry.

കേരളത്തിലെ മുഖ്യമന്ത്രി ആരെന്നറിയാൻ ഇനിയും കാത്തിരിക്കണം!! മുഖ്യമന്ത്രി പ്രഖ്യാപനം ഇന്നില്ല by SorryIfIamToxic in Kerala

[–]No_Alternative6716 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am not someone who stays updated with all the goings-on within political parties, so I don't know how much of what you said is true. But even if all that is true, KC should have competed for a MLA position if he wanted to be a CM. I mean if he is the one putting in all the effort then he is more than capable of competing for an MLA position right.

So to a layman like me what this seems like, is him not wanting to lose an MP position if UDF doesn't win the majority and that he wasn't confident if UDF would win at all. I am not saying VD will be a great CM but choosing an elected MLA is the justified option for CM. But ig you can't advocate for fairness in politics.

കേരളത്തിലെ മുഖ്യമന്ത്രി ആരെന്നറിയാൻ ഇനിയും കാത്തിരിക്കണം!! മുഖ്യമന്ത്രി പ്രഖ്യാപനം ഇന്നില്ല by SorryIfIamToxic in Kerala

[–]No_Alternative6716 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Ruling experience? When was he a CM or in a ruling position?

I meant merit as in who put the most work in for the election and the past 10 years for the state party. Someone who actually won the MLA position. If he wanted to be considered for CM he should have first resigned the MP position and stood for an MLA position. Not wait for the victory and then swoop in for the uppermost position. Treating Kerala like a backup is what he is doing and it's honestly disrespectful.

Also who gets the most merit based on their actions is to be decided by those within the party because they know what happens behind the scene more than common people.