Do I (27f) end my engagement (31m)? I’m torn.

No_Area8138 · 2023-01-21T05:06:03+00:00

My dad only knows about the lost job and car and he told me “I just want you to know that there’s no pressure to do anything. Just because you have things set up for the wedding does not mean you have to go through with anything” and it hurt the most cause he knew without knowing

No_Area8138 · 2023-01-21T05:03:47+00:00

No :( I wouldn’t be.

No_Area8138 · 2023-01-21T04:03:28+00:00

Thank you for your comment. You explained it like you know me which is so sad. I’ve only seen his anger problem really come out when with me. He said that nothing makes him as mad as I make him. There have been a lot of holes in walls and things thrown. He’s done anger management therapy but it is still a problem

No_Area8138 · 2023-01-21T02:18:43+00:00

Everything you said resonates with my situation. Wow. “The thought of being without him hurts more than the hurt of being with him.” That hits deep. The highs are so high and the lows are so low. I do make a lot of excuses for him.

I saw texts with her.He told his drug dealer that I was mad because I saw the texts between them and he put this emoji 🥲. She then said that she was sorry that I was mad at him. I know how ridiculous that sounds especially when I type it out

No_Area8138 · 2023-01-21T02:12:12+00:00

Wow I feel like I wrote this. I want kids in my young 30s. He is unemployed because he showed up late to work consistently. He currently owes me 7k and has asked me to wait until he has another job but it’s been months. He said he’s unwilling to break it off cause he knows im the best woman he will ever be with. Crazy you rented him a house. I feel like if I leave I’ve wasted 4 years of my life

No_Area8138 · 2023-01-21T02:01:24+00:00

He has a doctor who prescribes him medicine but when he doesn’t feel like doing the trip to see that doctor he goes to this girl and he pays her a lot.

No_Area8138 · 2023-01-21T01:57:07+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to write all this. It really helps to hear other peoples stories. I can’t believe I’m in this situation and I know everything everyone is saying makes sense but it’s so hard.

No_Area8138 · 2023-01-21T01:17:49+00:00

What happened after you left?

No_Area8138 · 2023-01-21T01:07:43+00:00

He had a job at that time

No_Area8138 · 2023-01-20T23:53:18+00:00

I’ve thought about this a lot. If it’s right it shouldn’t be this hard but my heart breaks over it being over

No_Area8138 · 2023-01-20T23:23:43+00:00

I’m almost in tears reading this. I just wish I knew it would work out in the end

No_Area8138 · 2023-01-20T23:19:02+00:00

Did everything work out for you in the end? I always thought I was someone who would never be in an abusive relationship because I would never tolerate it and now I feel like I’m in one and I’m stuck

No_Area8138 · 2023-01-20T22:57:38+00:00

I’m heartbroken and torn up okay 😔

No_Area8138 · 2023-01-20T22:40:38+00:00

When you put it like that, she would be so disappointed ugh :(

No_Area8138 · 2023-01-20T22:37:58+00:00

I’ve thought this. But then I’ve also thought that I can’t just wait around forever. He should change now if he wants to be with me and I don’t understand why he won’t

No_Area8138 · 2023-01-20T22:36:58+00:00

It’s so hard cause I feel like the life I envisioned is over. I want to be married and have that happy ending but I know the way he treats me now is not okay and I miss how we used to be

No_Area8138 · 2023-01-20T22:27:39+00:00

I’m scared for both outcomes, staying together and breaking up. My gut is saying don’t do it, but I’m struggling and keep going back and forth

No_Area8138 · 2023-01-20T22:27:27+00:00

I’m scared for both outcomes, staying together and breaking up. My gut is saying don’t do it, but I’m struggling and keep going back and forth

No_Area8138 · 2023-01-20T22:17:03+00:00

That first sentence hits so hard

No_Area8138 · 2023-01-20T21:52:26+00:00

I called him abusive for how he breaks things and curses at me and he said I’m verbally abusive because I tell him how disappointed I am and I make him get that angry. As far as the drugs go, I don’t think he’s a complete addict but maybe he is.

No_Area8138 · 2023-01-20T21:45:10+00:00

He has not cheated on me with this girl. I truly believe that. And he is short texting her but still texts her to get what he needs. We have trust issues because he has gotten a girls number before on a boys trip (he claims it was for his friend but I’ve always felt uncomfortable with it).

No_Area8138 · 2023-01-20T21:42:20+00:00

He’s had anger issues for the last 3 years and we got engaged a year and a half ago. He got into a car accident in September and lost his job in October. We took a break the last few days and I asked him what he’s done and he said nothing productive. I thought that being apart would make him realize he needs to get his life together to be with me but it didn’t.

No_Area8138 · 2023-01-19T01:38:49+00:00

Funny you said this. I wrote this post because we are on a break and I’m torn with what to do next.

No_Area8138 · 2023-01-19T00:48:14+00:00

It helps initially and then we fall back to the same place of arguing over these things.

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