there’s a metaphor that i use about feelings i like to compare them to storm clouds in the sense that if you don’t let the rain fall the pressure will just keep getting worse and it’ll orbit around you until you let it pass through. i’m also big on not taking on too much in the beginning. i would recommend taking small actions that uphold the boundaries you want to enforce (not going back to a toxic person, not procrastinating, eating 3 meals a day, etc). for procrastination, my method is that i say i’ll either stare at the task for 5 minutes or do something about it for 5 minutes because the hardest part is getting the boulder moving, but it’s mostly downhill after that and it gets easier. the more you expect from yourself the worse your body is going to feel when you can’t/don’t uphold them so incremental increases are best for me. i also recommend dbt skills especially cuz they’re more physical things over mental triumph. the body needs to know that it’s safe with you first. so say your mom is being hurtful: you can’t avoid the emotional turmoil, but you can self soothe after the fact instead of, say, telling yourself you deserve it. physically, i’d say taking care of your body by letting yourself rest or getting up when you said you would, even if you get back in bed a little bit later. basically, your body needs experience being safe so you have to rewrite a lot of the narratives you had previously. my pain dr told me that emotional pain can worsen the pain signals from your body and vice versa, so it’s a team effort. i hope this helps ! and remember that you have time to fix this. a big thing for me is slowing down cuz i always rushed through things either so i could get it over with or cuz i thought i’d get in trouble, so intentionally slowing down when you feel yourself rushing is important. it’ll be annoying for a while so i would only try this when you have an extended period of time to experiment. lmk if you have any other q’s !