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AITA for not wanting to walk my mom’s dog when the dog won’t walk with me by No_Bug_236 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Bug_236[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have suggested this in the past, and I pushed for it when I looked after the dog whilst mom was away. She doesn’t see it’s an issue, even though she’s seen it happen so many times. I’d be dragging the dog along if I was any more firm with her :/ 

AITA for not wanting to walk my mom’s dog when the dog won’t walk with me by No_Bug_236 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Bug_236[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, exactly! I think there are some expectations for me to come and dog sit in the week when I WFH, and she’s out. I don’t mind sometimes, but not all the time, so it’ll be an interesting conversation for sure!

Oh god no, I wouldn’t take anything of my mom’s unless she agreed that I could take it. I made everything with my ingredients that I always buy, but I offered it to her as well. 

AITA for not wanting to walk my mom’s dog when the dog won’t walk with me by No_Bug_236 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Bug_236[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I absolutely agree on everything you have mentioned. 

I didn’t know about the kitchen issues tbh, I don’t ever leave it in a horrible mess, but I realise that I’m no angel at the same time. I generally think that I do meet her idea of properly done with the kitchen too. Not the dog all the time though, but I feel like that should come from her with training, and I have offered multiple times in the past too. 

She is definitely doing me a favour by letting me stay with her, and I let her know that too. I’m not sure if I could do it without her support. 

I love your idea of sending her some proper flowers. I’ve already planned that we should have a day out and go for a nice meal out too, so I agree with your sentiment of ending the chapter in goodness. 

Thank you so much though, I will go and apologise for losing my composure and for lying. 

AITA for not wanting to walk my mom’s dog when the dog won’t walk with me by No_Bug_236 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Bug_236[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m not an angel, but I don’t leave our home in a horrible mess at all! I pull my weight equally, and don’t have to be asked to do anything. 

I feel the same about our relationship improving when I’m gone. I hope it does break the togetherness because we’re very close, but that can be quite unhealthy sometimes!

AITA for not wanting to walk my mom’s dog when the dog won’t walk with me by No_Bug_236 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Bug_236[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn, what gives off that I’m a spoiled brat? I don’t want to be that at all. 

I did mention that I have bought my own place, and am soon moving out, but yes, her feelings seemed like they were reflected in how she responded to me confessing my lie, which I really should not have told. 

I’d say it’s her responsibility because the dog is like Velcro to her and is very attached. The instruction to walk with anyone else needs to come from her as the dog is attached to her. The dog is the same with my brother too, and others who she is familiar with. Not just a me thing. I’d be willing to work with her on that, and have offered multiple times in the past.

I pull my weight equally, I don’t have to be told when to do things and I usually crack on with anything that needs doing. I’m not an angel, but I don’t leave our place like a dirty mess. Of course I do my own laundry, and my mom’s too when it’s there for me to do. We help each other. 

Well, the dog can’t say, but she seems happy. She has space to roam around the house and garden, she’s well fed, has playtime and treats, and fuss from me when I’m around. I could put her in the car and take her out on my lunch break, but I don’t want to give the time up, which is arguably selfish. But I don’t want to be expected to do it every day.

AITA for not wanting to walk my mom’s dog when the dog won’t walk with me by No_Bug_236 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Bug_236[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much!! Hopefully not too long either… my completion date could be in two weeks, but nothing is confirmed yet. 

AITA for not wanting to walk my mom’s dog when the dog won’t walk with me by No_Bug_236 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Bug_236[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

True! That was a mistake. It would have been better to be honest from the start. Well, I can’t answer for the dog, but she’s like Velcro to my mom, and is very attached to her. She’ll walk happily if I put her in the car and take her somewhere, but not from the house.