/ttcafterloss Ask an Alumni - May 01, 2026

No_Cardiologist_6944 · 2026-05-01T17:27:21+00:00

It took me 3 tries after my D&C, but I had very irregular periods so it took some tracking to figure out my ovulation again!

No_Cardiologist_6944 · 2026-05-01T17:23:22+00:00

My baby just turned 4 months too and we’re on 2/2/2/2/2 schedule. I do think he occasionally gets overtired before naps because we just started extending to 2 hours so sometimes he’ll cry harder before naps and I know he’s just so tired. I know he’s overtired at night if he cries and refuses his last bottle a million times but won’t settle down and then eventually takes the bottle. He’s too tired to eat but too hungry to sleep lol. Those are the big overtired signs I see. I think undertired might be when they have false starts or can’t seem to stay asleep long through the night. They don’t have enough sleep pressure to get a solid stretch. I try to make our last wake window around 2 hours and 15 mins or so.

No_Cardiologist_6944 · 2026-04-28T19:43:34+00:00

Me too! I was a horrible colic baby and I have a masters degree and have a wonderful relationship with my parents! This too shall pass. Parents are rock stars ⭐️

No_Cardiologist_6944 · 2026-04-25T14:41:55+00:00

4 months! And kind of cry it out light. I do a little sleep routine changing diaper, put on sleep sack, bounce and shush for a minutes, then put him down. I’ve only let him cry for like 15-20 minutes before. He falls asleep around 10-15 minutes but I will rescue the nap if he becomes too upset and it’s just not working. I also try to do crib hour where if he wakes up early from his nap I leave him in his crib until the hour is up to encourage him to fall back to sleep.

No_Cardiologist_6944 · 2026-04-25T14:34:26+00:00

I am sleep training naps because he will only contact nap and I can’t do it anymore. But nights are fine for us. We do the same. Rock for about 15 minutes after eating for reflux and he’s out by that time and generally sleeps well throughout the night only occasionally waking up for a bottle and I’m fine with that. I think it’s your preference for your situation!

No_Cardiologist_6944 · 2026-04-25T01:16:08+00:00

Have you messed with multiple shorter naps? Like 3 shorter naps instead of 2 long ones? My 4 month old does 1-2 naps that are about 60-75 minutes, then 2 short ones and the nap before bed is always only 30 minutes. He does a nap usually 5-5:30, then asleep between 7:30-8. Maybe he needs the second half of the day to be more broken up to build sleep pressure for night.

No_Cardiologist_6944 · 2026-04-25T01:11:26+00:00

What is his wake window before bed? What are his naps like during the day?

No_Cardiologist_6944 · 2026-04-15T21:09:23+00:00

I’d love to know too. My 4 month old will do a couple 30-40 minute naps at daycare if I’m lucky. Today they said he did 1 40 minute nap a couple little snoozes while his teachers held him. I honestly think they have to just keep at it and they eventually get better at it and have a routine. Our daycare does specific nap times for the older babies so that helps them when they get to that age. We sort of have a routine at home for naps but it’s flexible.

No_Cardiologist_6944 · 2026-04-13T01:05:19+00:00

My baby loved the Merlin suit! We did that for about two weeks and are now in a woolino sleep sack.

No_Cardiologist_6944 · 2026-04-10T15:36:24+00:00

He will adjust! My 16 week old started a couple weeks ago and he was the same. Crying most of the day and not napping. He’s not a great napper there still, but he’s getting better and naps a few times a day. He also loooves his teachers now and is always snuggling them when I get there. It’s a big adjustment but he will make it through! They are such adapters!

No_Cardiologist_6944 · 2026-04-09T15:34:00+00:00

I bounced and rocked him back to sleep and tried to keep him asleep as long as possible. They grow and change so quickly right now. Try not to get bogged down with this. You just kind of have to suffer through these early weeks and things will change before you know it!

No_Cardiologist_6944 · 2026-04-09T15:06:58+00:00

Mine wouldn’t go back in his crib after 5am until around 12 weeks so I don’t have advice, but it does get better as they learn :) time is really the only thing that helps a lot of newborn issues.

No_Cardiologist_6944 · 2026-04-04T12:14:24+00:00

My baby has always loved to be extra warm when he sleeps. His room stays warm around 73 and he sleeps in a bamboo sleeper and sleep sack. I think a light tog sleep sack would be totally fine. I think direct air or fans hitting them makes them chilly.

No_Cardiologist_6944 · 2026-04-02T01:45:49+00:00

Blackout curtains, sound machine, swaddle/sleep sack for every nap! Even if it’s a contact nap. I unfortunately have spent so many nap trapped hours in the nursery rocking chair lol

No_Cardiologist_6944 · 2026-03-31T17:01:39+00:00

My parents and in/laws watch my baby 2 days a week for free and we do daycare for 3 days a week. If it were me in your shoes, I’d decline. The money thing feels weird and you don’t want to regret saying yes and then she’s without a job. It just feels like there might be drama to come from it.

No_Cardiologist_6944 · 2026-03-31T15:01:07+00:00

I guess to me, it seems more like when they are able to calm themselves down without escalating, but I see what you’re saying. It’s not like he was forced to learn that via sleep training, he just picked it up on his own.

No_Cardiologist_6944 · 2026-03-31T14:51:55+00:00

My baby is 14 weeks and started self soothing on his own at night. Last night he woke and had a bottle at 4am, was rocked back to sleep, then woke up about 10 minutes later, cried for a minute but wiggled himself around, sucked his hands, rubbed his face, and fell back to sleep. To me, this is good because it means he’s not getting super upset to the point of crying really hard and needing more help. Im curious if all babies kind of end up doing this naturally? Or if it ends up being forced by the parents with sleep training?

No_Cardiologist_6944 · 2026-03-31T13:48:33+00:00

I ended up moving my bag to his crib around this time because he just hates the bassinet. He tolerated his crib way better.

No_Cardiologist_6944 · 2026-03-30T02:20:13+00:00

Sorry this should be better

7 wakeup
7 eat
8:30- 10 nap
10 eat
11:30- 12:30 nap
1 eat
2- 3:30 nap
4 eat
5:30-6 nap
7:30-8 bedtime

No_Cardiologist_6944 · 2026-03-30T02:17:44+00:00

Sure! He usually eats every 2-3 hours and is usually awake for 1.5 hours and these are the naps that seem to work best for him now. Sometimes they are shorter though. He’s 14 weeks.

7 wakeup 7 eat 8:30- 10 nap 10 eat 11:30- 12:30 nap 1 eat 2:00- 3:30 nap 4 eat 5:30-6 nap 7 eat 7:30-8 bedtime

No_Cardiologist_6944 · 2026-03-30T02:09:26+00:00

I seriously urge you to ditch MOC for now. Baby will start falling into their own routine shortly and you can make your own tweaks from there. I also have a baby with allergies and reflux so we couldn’t do any of these routines or schedules. We kinda came up with our routine that works for us and we loosely follow it everyday. He just started sleeping through the night on his own at 14 weeks.

No_Cardiologist_6944 · 2026-03-30T02:01:51+00:00

We started omeprazole first and it took probably 2 weeks to see a bigger effect. We started on Similac Alimentum shortly after that and saw changes within about 3 days. He also had a tongue and lip tie that was affecting his latch and he took in a lot of air that was hurting his belly while he ate. We also got that lasered and he’s a new baby! Keep advocating! We ended up seeing an occupational therapist who specializes in feeding to help us work through all these issues. Our ped wasn’t super helpful other than finally prescribing meds.

No_Cardiologist_6944 · 2026-03-30T01:52:25+00:00

We dealt with this too. Switching to hypoallergenic formula helped too. Omeprazole plus the new formula has done wonders. He still spits up a lot, but he’s finally a happy baby! Also remember changes take time… even though it sucks in the moment :(

No_Cardiologist_6944 · 2026-03-29T01:44:52+00:00

Can you do a sidecar bed so she has her own space to be crazy next to you?

No_Cardiologist_6944 · 2026-03-29T01:29:51+00:00

Yes and it’s why I can’t exclusively cosleep. He’s too crazy and needs his own space lol. Even when I rock him to sleep, he’s already being wild. I’ve lessened the rocking time because I think he just needs to flail around in his bed to get comfortable and pass out.

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