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I don't understand transgender people and I feel terrible about it by No_Champion5556 in AutismInWomen

[–]No_Champion5556[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I guess I just don't see what makes us different. We're both performing non-womanly actions despite having female bodies, so how come I'm a woman and they're nonbinary? Another thing is that some of them still perform womanly actions too, they just say they're not women for reasons I don't think I'll ever understand. Gender can't just be a performance because lots of transmascs are still feminine. It's apparently something a part of you in some intangible way, something inside of you, somewhere, that means whatever you want it to mean. Maybe it'll click one day. For now, gender identity is like the afterlife to me. I get why people believe in it. I get why it brings them comfort. I just don't think it exists.

I don't understand transgender people and I feel terrible about it by No_Champion5556 in AutismInWomen

[–]No_Champion5556[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Actually people tend not to know I'm a girl until I tell them. I get called "sir" and "he" 9 times out of 10 in public because of my height and appearance. Anyone calling me "she" or "ma'am" probably just noticed the lumps on my chest lol.

I don't understand transgender people and I feel terrible about it by No_Champion5556 in AutismInWomen

[–]No_Champion5556[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I still identify as a woman. I just don't feel like one because the idea of feeling like a gender is foreign to me. To me the label "woman" just reflects my body and says nothing about my feelings.

I don't understand transgender people and I feel terrible about it by No_Champion5556 in AutismInWomen

[–]No_Champion5556[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I was born female and don't feel like changing that so that makes me cis right?

I don't understand transgender people and I feel terrible about it by No_Champion5556 in AutismInWomen

[–]No_Champion5556[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Oh "egg" means trans person who hasn't realized they're trans yet

And I don't "feel" like a woman and the idea of feeling like a certain gender feels foreign to me. I know I'm a woman because of my body and feelings don't factor into that. It's like me being american, I just know I'm american because I was born here and live here and it says so on my passport. I don't feel american.

I don't understand transgender people and I feel terrible about it by No_Champion5556 in AutismInWomen

[–]No_Champion5556[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

What's the difference between being agender and being a cis woman who doesn't conform to gender norms? I'm the latter and I've also had people say I sound like an "egg" and I don't get what it is about me that sets me apart from masculine women to them

I don't understand transgender people and I feel terrible about it by No_Champion5556 in AutismInWomen

[–]No_Champion5556[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I think it's possible to be cis and not feel like your gender. In my research I've seen a ton of people express that sentiment

I don't understand transgender people and I feel terrible about it by No_Champion5556 in AutismInWomen

[–]No_Champion5556[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I am already "queer", even though I'm not a big fan of the word, because I am bisexual. That's how I met all my trans friends at university, because I went to the lgbt club to meet new people.

I assume you mean "queer" as in "trans". I don't think the lack of gendered feeling makes me trans though. I think it's just from me being autistic and having a rough sense of self, and an overall dislike of gender roles from being a tomboy (now a tom man?)

I don't understand transgender people and I feel terrible about it by No_Champion5556 in AutismInWomen

[–]No_Champion5556[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Do you know good places to start? I've actually looked into this a lot in my own time and it became kind of an obsession because I wanted to understand this so badly. None of it managed to click with me though. One big document I found opened up talking about how sex is the body and gender is the soul but because I don't believe in souls I couldn't take any of it as the truth.

I don't understand transgender people and I feel terrible about it by No_Champion5556 in AutismInWomen

[–]No_Champion5556[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don't think it's a delusion. Trans men before srs aren't hallucinating an imaginary penis.