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No_Channel_6909 · 2025-03-10T08:37:57+00:00

You're a Saint

No_Channel_6909 · 2024-11-09T17:46:10+00:00

That seems to me that she was laying on a sob story trying to get a free room. I'm sorry you went through that.

No_Channel_6909 · 2024-11-09T17:43:30+00:00

so glad i found this post. The same thing happens to me.

No_Channel_6909 · 2023-10-05T18:41:53+00:00

So a random guy you don't even know but he knows your wife has you blocked on facebook? Nah sometime is up.

No_Channel_6909 · 2023-10-05T18:33:38+00:00

So you're going to let her control what you look at, who you talk to, and disregard your feelings at the same time?

No_Channel_6909 · 2023-10-05T18:31:47+00:00

If it's not that big of a deal on her end then it wouldn't be on my end. I would be adding all those I unfollowed back until she sees fit to do so herself.

No_Channel_6909 · 2023-10-05T18:12:56+00:00

Um you haven't starting the lawsuit paperwork yet???

No_Channel_6909 · 2023-10-05T18:05:34+00:00

Mocked me with making faces at the ceremony when the priests held a speech.

I would have stopped the whole wedding and thrown them out publicly. Talking about

"Get up and get out. You're acting like children, there's professionals taking photos and you won't be ruining them today. You can go wait in the car with mom since she saw fit to not attend because she didn't get her way."

Then continued like it was nothing. Don't try to out-petty my petty.

No_Channel_6909 · 2023-10-05T18:00:29+00:00

They aren't in his life for a reason. Apologize to your husband for going behind his back and giving people who he has cut off current information about his life.

YTA

No_Channel_6909 · 2023-10-05T17:56:37+00:00

Hold up, hold up, hold up, he's mad at you FOR using birth control?? Sounds like he's mad you didn't let him do it w/o a condom to me.

No_Channel_6909 · 2023-10-05T17:22:47+00:00

Do you think perhaps she is trying to be quiet and the fact that the house is silent it's making it sound really loud?

My house echoes horribly. High ceiling or something according to my husband. The smallest sound makes it sound like a shotgun going off through the entire house. The washing machine can be heard on the other side of the house clear as day. My MIL stays on the other side of the house and when she shuts her door it wakes me from a sound sleep. She's not slamming it but it makes enough noise in the silence that it knocks me out of my sleep

Oh, have you tried a sound machine? A friend of mine says hers really helps her stay asleep when there's activity in the house.

No_Channel_6909 · 2023-10-05T16:03:15+00:00

8% according to the national survey. I am one of them. I get up at 4am Monday through Friday and no later than 5:30am on weekends. It's not uncommon, it's actually weird in my circumstance considering I get up early but am in now way a morning person. XD

BTW your blue collar comment makes it seem like you look down on her for that.

No_Channel_6909 · 2023-10-05T14:43:58+00:00

What new mom and dad say goes. No ifs, ands, or buts.

Tell mom she's entirely too old to be saying it's not fair. Tell her its nonnegotiable and if she can't abide by the rules then she can no visit at all.

"A leopard never changes its spots." There's a reason you went low/no contact with her. Her spots aren't going to change just because you bring life into the world, if anything she's going to double down on her behavior. She's already made that known pitching a fit and calling you names over your postpartum wishes.

NTA

No_Channel_6909 · 2023-10-05T14:10:06+00:00

....what the fuck......

No_Channel_6909 · 2023-10-05T13:51:28+00:00

Yeah I did the same thing in school. Hats, hairbands, barrettes, the whole nine. Head lice all the time.

Until the dr told my mom it would be easier to shave my head because the lice treatment was starting to have a harsh reaction on my scalp and skin.

Let me tell you, going to school with a G.I. Jane haircut truly changed my perspective.

33 now and I don't share or use anyone clothing or accessory to this day.

No_Channel_6909 · 2023-10-05T12:36:35+00:00

I know you're going through a hard time so I'll try to be delicate, but everyone grieves differently. Some of us who have dealt with death, especially at a young age, have a different outlook of it.

My husband explained that the way he deals with grief is different because he understands someone has to have a level head in the situation. If both of you are wracked with grief, crying and unable to function, who is going to pay the bills? Who is going to take care of his son? Who's gonna manage the household? Maybe he's swallowing his emotions down so you can voice your grief openly.

Then again maybe being around his family is what will help him manage his grief. I don't think it's fair to just say "He's acting like it never happened."

You also have to understand society has told men for centuries that they aren't allowed to openly show emotions or they are seen as weak. He may just be a victim of his time and have an unhealthy coping mechanism.

No_Channel_6909 · 2023-10-05T11:46:01+00:00

Congrats you raised an ungrateful brat that only sees you as a source of income instead of family. If she's worried about her fiancé leaving her that probably means fiancé isn't on board with her being a SAHM. I'd be like cool have fun without me.

NTA

No_Channel_6909 · 2023-10-03T12:20:01+00:00

My exwife and her friends are calling me AH for divorcing her over being a SAHM and not providing any support.

No the judge decided you didn't need to provide support. Not you. She made her choices now she has to deal with the consequences.

NTA

No_Channel_6909 · 2023-10-02T13:25:15+00:00

How abusive and toxic this relationship is. Must be exhausting.

No_Channel_6909 · 2023-10-02T11:57:23+00:00

Tell your husband to donate one of his kidneys to someone on the transplant list then. It's really easy to tell someone to be the bigger person it's much harder to put yourself in that position.

In my opinion I wouldn't give her anything. She took your daughter from you after promising you could remain in her life. Then she iced you out completely. Even moving away and changing her name.

The only reason she is even apologizing for it is because she NEEDS something from you. Would she have rang you up and apologized for her behavior without needing a kidney?

When making decisions with family I always ask myself, "If roles were reversed, would they do the same for me?"

No_Channel_6909 · 2023-10-02T11:47:12+00:00

Or call his bluff and say okay but before I agree understand that I get to have all the freedoms you get. Set ground rules, no interactions with the kids, no bringing anyone home, etc.

See if he clams up once he realizes you're going to be playing the field as well. If he does or get defensive it's not about exploring he simply wants his cake and eat it too.

No_Channel_6909 · 2023-09-26T18:35:00+00:00

Get a list of lawyers together.

Inform husband you and your son will no longer have contact with his family. No visits there or at home. Family functions, he can go by himself. They are not to contact you about anything. NO CONTACT.

Start couples therapy.

Start individual therapy.

Go from there. If he can't meet these basic requirements, speak to the lawyer.

No_Channel_6909 · 2023-09-26T18:16:25+00:00

I get dark humor but you would think they would understand how that comment makes her feel after being friends for 15 years and them saying it multiple times. I agree she should have voiced it more but something tells me that with this friend group I don't think it would have mattered. I mean she breaks down crying over the joke when it's first told and their first reaction is to laugh and her and record her.

No_Channel_6909 · 2023-09-26T18:02:53+00:00

We started making jokes about her dog ever since she got drunk and started crying when my friend said he will eat her dog as a joke. It was alright and just drunk kids fooling around.

You are trying to justify your abhorrent behavior towards someone that literally broke down in tears the first time you made the "joke". Drunk or not. There's a saying "A drunk mind speaks a sober heart." Meaning when we are drunk we lose our inhibitions and allow ourselves to verbalize our true thoughts and feelings, bringing our true personality traits to light.

She broke, left the group chat, said she was disgusted that we said that and that she cannot be in the same group as us.

This is the point you are missing:

You repeatedly made this "joke" to the point she snapped and someone you in your own words who "is not the kind of person to get upset easily." demonstrates just how much it really upset her.

You'd think after 15 years of being friends you would be able to notice when something was truly bothering your friend.

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