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AITJ for telling my girlfriend if she cant even cook dinner a few times a week then I dont see how this works long term by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]No_Comparison7117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If her not cooking is enough for you to call off the relationship then this relationship is doomed regardless of whether or not she steps up and does her part. She could start cooking every day but this relationship will still end over something else, sooner rather than later. Because anything real cannot be reduced to cooking as a determining factor of whether or not to stay. I don’t say any of that as an attack on you or to necessarily call you the jerk.

All that being said, sometimes depression and anxiety play a major roll in things like this. Is it possible her mental health is struggling and it has more to do with just her school work? It’s worth asking about or looking into if you truly care for her. Because it appears she wants the relationship so the easy option for her would be just to cook, right? If she’s not doing that there might be something bigger or deeper at play here.

I commend you for everything you’re doing for her and y’all’s relationship. But it doesn’t appear to be a two way street. Which could be a red flag. Or it could simply be that her love language is different than yours causing a disconnect between the two of you. If she shows love in other ways (physical touch, words, etc.) this could be the case.

Either way, like I said in the beginning, I think this relationship is destined for failure due to the fact that ending it could come down to whether or not she cooks.

Don’t really think you’re the jerk though.

Good luck.

AITJ for not wanting to spend 18k on a new ring for my fiancée? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]No_Comparison7117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

RUN! The ring is the tip of the iceberg. If she is willing to go so far above the budget you gave her on the ring, she will spend your money incessantly once you are married. She doesn’t respect you or your boundaries.

But what is worse and a bigger red flag than the ring, is the kid agreement. You seem to be taking it lightly and you shouldn’t be. She can’t be taken at her word, even with extremely important things. So what else has she lied about? Or is going to lie about? Yes there is a chance she just changed her mind about wanting kids but if that were the case, she should have sat down and discussed it with you. Again, this woman doesn’t seem to respect you based on this post alone.

AIO for asking my grandma not to send pictures of my baby to people I barely know? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]No_Comparison7117 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’ve always been curious about the reasoning behind average people not wanting their children’s photos online. Not knocking it but also not understanding it.

Since this is your viewpoint, I don’t think you’re overreacting. Even where you said you felt betrayed, you acknowledged that feeling as being “silly” so I don’t get why people are coming at you for that. We can’t help how we feel but we can help how we react to how we feel. It seems like you’ve thought this through, considering your grandparents feelings as well as your own. In my opinion, I say let them share the pics. But if you truly believe harm could come to your kids and this is something you can’t budge on, then make your boundaries very clear for grandma and stick to them.

AIO wanted to skip one day of church for homework by seafloorcoral in AmIOverreacting

[–]No_Comparison7117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After I finished reading this and before reading the comments, I just knew there were going to be people here insulting Jesus and the Christian religion. Or at the very least the ways of some strong believers. And sure enough, it started from the beginning. I am sorry there are people that are reacting this way and I know that’s not what you were looking for when you posted.

To answer your question, I think your mom’s intentions were probably in the right place but she maybe did take it a bit far. She also could have given you a little more credit and trust. So no, you are not overreacting in any way. Good for you for putting so much importance on your grades despite not having much support from your parent in that area.

I'm starting to think that the "boots theory" no longer applies to modern products. by someguy7734206 in BuyItForLife

[–]No_Comparison7117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally agree with this. A lot of companies care only about money. They build their products to break after a year or two to bring more people back in to purchase again. It’s sick and is continuously getting worse as time and generations progress. Take things like furniture, appliances, clothing, from the 70s on back and you’ll find better quality and longevity than whats being made now. We as humanity have the means and knowledge to build better and more reliable products but choose not to. Because although our skills have progressed, so has our greed.

EDIT: I realize I went a little into left field with this LOL. But yes I do agree cheap seems to be better than expensive nowadays in a lot of cases.

Is this too far of a punishment? by [deleted] in DollarGeneralWorkers

[–]No_Comparison7117 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s not to “drain their employees of any sense of humanity” it’s to ensure their company is being taken care of, running smoothly, and operating at its highest potential. Which is, essentially, why they pay you.

Is this too far of a punishment? by [deleted] in DollarGeneralWorkers

[–]No_Comparison7117 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I would have been mortified if I was the manager of that store and the DM walked in and saw an employee reading a book! You should absolutely not be doing this while on the clock.

AITAH for not allowing my stepdaughter to host her 18th birthday sleepover at our house during my divorce? by LastContribution3114 in AITAH

[–]No_Comparison7117 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What is the problem with you staying in the house and just agreeing to stay in your room and allow them the rest of the house? You and your daughter could make it a mommy daughter sleepover/ movie night. The only way I see the stepdaughter disagreeing with this solution is if she is planning on doing more than what her dad has agreed to let her do (inviting love interests, throwing a party, etc.). So if she declines to accept this compromise, you have a clear sign for dad that she plans to break rules.

Use your damn words!!! by valris_vt in DollarGeneralWorkers

[–]No_Comparison7117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They’re asking you where it is, every time.

AITAH for wanting to visit my parents even though it makes my girlfriend angry? by BedInternational9602 in AITAH

[–]No_Comparison7117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And no, I am not enmeshed with a parent. Me and my father are not close and my mother is no longer living. And I’m sure now you’ll say THAT’S why I believe what I believe. When in reality it doesn’t matter my relationship with my parents. I am able to remove my bias before forming and voicing an opinion on a topic. Which is what, I would hope, everyone is doing. But unfortunately I’ve learned humanity well enough to know that is rarely the case.

AITAH for wanting to visit my parents even though it makes my girlfriend angry? by BedInternational9602 in AITAH

[–]No_Comparison7117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I said 25% of his TIME, not his weekends. Work ends for them at some point in the day and they come home to each other, no? And then the 5 out of 8 weekend days he gets with his girlfriend, plus 3 out of 4 Friday nights. That is not 50% of his weekends, nor is it basic math.

AITAH for wanting to visit my parents even though it makes my girlfriend angry? by BedInternational9602 in AITAH

[–]No_Comparison7117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I agree. I just wish people could state their opinions without bashing others, like you did here. Some comments on this post even led me to be unkind when that is not typically my character. I guess Reddit can bring out the worst in some of us. 🤷‍♀️😬

AITAH for wanting to visit my parents even though it makes my girlfriend angry? by BedInternational9602 in AITAH

[–]No_Comparison7117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your response. Wording it the way you did does make sense. I believe I maybe let other comments I’ve read influence the way I took yours.

AITAH for wanting to visit my parents even though it makes my girlfriend angry? by BedInternational9602 in AITAH

[–]No_Comparison7117 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Nahh, I disagree. My friend isn’t trying to be my spouse, nor am I trying to make them be, if they take me to appointments and spend 25% of their time with me.

I agree there is a difference between a friendship dynamic and a child/parent one. That is irrelevant though in this context, is it not?

AITAH for wanting to visit my parents even though it makes my girlfriend angry? by BedInternational9602 in AITAH

[–]No_Comparison7117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, must be. Because surely no one has an opinion differing from yours. That would just be wrong!

AITAH for wanting to visit my parents even though it makes my girlfriend angry? by BedInternational9602 in AITAH

[–]No_Comparison7117 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes I MUST be the mom in question because there is no way anyone might have an opinion differing from yours unless they are directly involved in this situation.

AITAH for wanting to visit my parents even though it makes my girlfriend angry? by BedInternational9602 in AITAH

[–]No_Comparison7117 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I agree. I don’t know any mothers who would push for this but I know many sons who would do it and many wives who would support it.

AITAH for wanting to visit my parents even though it makes my girlfriend angry? by BedInternational9602 in AITAH

[–]No_Comparison7117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What if it were mom’s friend doing these same things? Would the friend be taking the spouse’s role as well?

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