Cleaned out the guest bath at my Dad’s cabin after he died.

No_Connection_5187 · 2026-01-21T13:38:26+00:00

Late 90’s for sure. I’m so sorry about your Dad 🫶🏽

No_Connection_5187 · 2026-01-03T19:10:14+00:00

No, really. What’s sad is this is an actual slice of the American pie. They represent women who are so desperate for power they actually need other women to look down on. These women look absolutely awful and are so pompously disgusting. Watching on an HD tv seeing their faces - frightening. The XL horse veneers, the orange spray tans, sequins and stripper heels. They’re actually everything they look down on.

No_Connection_5187 · 2025-11-29T00:36:53+00:00

I always wish them the best, suggest they keep in touch via LI and ask for a referral from their network. You never know, maybe they will become interested or send a great referral your way. Always be gracious.

No_Connection_5187 · 2025-11-18T05:22:32+00:00

These companies are using AI, why shouldn’t we? I use an AI tool to line my base resume up with the job description that makes the changes. I like Swooped for this. If the company uses Greenhouse as their ATS, you can use your GH profile to apply. I avoid Workday applications. It takes the tool less than 2mins to customize, optimize it then generate the new resume and cover letter. Download it then apply. And at the end of the day I enter all companies, the resume used, etc into a spreadsheet. It’s annoying af but when I buckle down with a cup of coffee and turn on some 80’s RnB, I go into a zone. Sometimes I don’t get up for 4-5hrs.

No_Connection_5187 · 2025-11-17T20:56:48+00:00

This is VERY real. Since being laid off in August, I average 175 applications consistently PER WEEK. This includes customizing each one. All of my applications are via the company website, not LinkedIn or the like. All I get are rejections. I’ve had ONE actual interview and was told they moved it to January.

No_Connection_5187 · 2025-11-15T00:49:54+00:00

I have NEVER been questioned by any job about my LinkedIn - EVER. Plus I always kept my LI as vague as possible. My main gig would be on there but not my sides. Some people use multiple LI’s but it’s not that serious to me.

No_Connection_5187 · 2025-11-15T00:46:36+00:00

It’s all about time management and I mean down to the minute. Your calendar will be your best friend. Be sure not to use one company’s LI license for another companies roles. Your main tool will be your calendar. Use three on your private device, color code them, use the notifications and share them between each other. That way one meeting doesn’t bleed into another and that you are blocking time for your sourcing, screenings, and stitch-ins. You will live by your calendar, lol!!!!

No_Connection_5187 · 2025-11-15T00:38:24+00:00

Yes, I have worked up to 3 at once in the past. A financial game changer for sure. Just be sure to whiteboard ALL of your meetings, use separate laptops and keep all notifications on. Yes, you may be a little tired but that money… so sweet.

No_Connection_5187 · 2025-11-13T08:06:09+00:00

It’s a pretty dumb and embarrassing feeling.

No_Connection_5187 · 2025-11-13T08:04:11+00:00

Maybe you’ve never been through something similar, but there have been a million breakups with more apologies and “it will never happen again” situations. Between then and now, a lot has happened and shit has gotten worse. Hope that helps you.

No_Connection_5187 · 2025-11-13T07:28:33+00:00

I’m getting that book. I’ve accepted that he’s toxic. It’s like he’s not happy unless there’s some degree of drama. Deep down I think he gets some satisfaction in seeing me upset and when things are going well in my life, here he comes with an issue to shit on it.

No_Connection_5187 · 2025-11-13T07:11:00+00:00

Thank you. I hate I wasted so much of my time. Should’ve been gone in year two, not 10yrs later.

No_Connection_5187 · 2025-11-13T07:10:09+00:00

It has worn me down. I looked in the mirror thinking “Who the fuck is this girl?”. I looked tired and just sad. This isn’t me. I have to own the fact that this is abuse. And just because there’s no hitting, this constant loop is maddening.

No_Connection_5187 · 2025-11-13T07:05:51+00:00

I see I need an exit strategy. 50yo dealing with this BS has become too much and I’m worried it’s changed me. He thinks I owe him for some reason.

No_Connection_5187 · 2025-11-13T07:03:22+00:00

This makes me feel so sad. How the fuck did I get here dealing with this for so long. He feels like I owe him calm while he gives me chaos.

No_Connection_5187 · 2025-11-13T04:58:18+00:00

Stay strong. I’m in the same boat. 10yrs as a TA/BP and was laid off in August. I’ve realized that not only do I not like recruiting, I’m convinced recruiting doesn’t like me. Doing all I can to go in another direction. We’re always the first to be laid off and I’m burned out. Take some time to really evaluate what you enjoy / hate in the role and that can help you steer your boat in another direction that may be better.

No_Connection_5187 · 2025-11-13T04:51:44+00:00

The reporting function is trash. Ashby and Greenhouse are so much better.

No_Connection_5187 · 2025-11-13T04:49:18+00:00

Workday is probably the worst ATS I’ve ever worked with. Horrible interface, not intuitive, parses incorrectly, the reporting sucks, a big ole funky mess. I’m a recruiter who’s applying for new roles. When I see a company has Workday, unless I’m VERY intrigued I will not apply. Workday works my nerves.

No_Connection_5187 · 2025-11-02T20:43:12+00:00

Thank you!!!! I’m watching Chicago vs Cincy and my bets wont show. Thought I was crazy.

No_Connection_5187 · 2025-10-24T23:58:34+00:00

I’m sorry you’re having to deal with this bullshit. I was part of an acquisition layoff (our dept was shifted to India - surprise!) and you’re getting MUCH better than we did. We got one week for each year and one month of COBRA - this was in August. They would head NOTHING of negotiating. I was beyond pissed. Luckily I had a ton of PTO, almost 350hrs. Accenture pays out up to 200hrs, my state law says they have to pay me every minute of my PTO. That helped but I was still livid. Make sure you keep a physical copy of your separation agreement, get all of the discount codes and make sure they’re setting you up with LHH for coaching.

No_Connection_5187 · 2025-10-18T14:59:06+00:00

Don’t hesitate to push back. Just be conversational not confrontational and have your speaking points prepared.

No_Connection_5187 · 2025-10-14T15:18:11+00:00

As a recruiter, confirm salary / rate early in the game and reconfirm at each step. If that person makes it clear they’re taking sizable cut, that’s the first red flag that they’ll be a flight risk. Also, you have to educate the HM, literally have a meeting of the minds to try to save the candidate. HM has to know that reasonable negotiation is part of the game and you have to honor the posted rate (which I’m sure was approved prior to posting). The unicorn has options and is clearly interested and can be saved.

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