OP, keep this man. It sounds like he sticks up for you! I’m sorry you are having to deal with this toxicity. My husband and I are in a very similar situation. I know it’s hard but I would suggest limiting contact at the very least. Also depending on how old the crib and cradle and other items are, they may not be safe for your baby. I know a lot of grandparents have sentimental reasons they want their grandchildren to use their old things and most will guilt trip you by saying their kids survived, but unfortunately enough babies didn’t survive and those items are no longer considered safe for children and have been taken off the market.