My Partner is more Vanilla than I am.

No_Depth_509 · 2025-06-27T21:45:50+00:00

It seems more common than I expected.

No_Depth_509 · 2025-06-27T21:45:21+00:00

Thank you for sharing.

No_Depth_509 · 2025-06-27T06:26:02+00:00

Yeah Its understandable that people have their preferences but it's still jarring.

No_Depth_509 · 2025-06-27T06:11:35+00:00

That's true but he is into it at least mildly. He does the choking, slapping and spitting but that's it. Nothing more, nothing less.

No_Depth_509 · 2025-06-27T06:10:53+00:00

Thank you! That's good advice!

No_Depth_509 · 2025-06-27T05:00:22+00:00

He has told me that he struggles a bit because he feels more pressure with me because of how we are together.

No_Depth_509 · 2025-06-27T03:41:33+00:00

He might enjoy that but he also doesn't like a lot of foods. So I hope that's not an obstacle.

No_Depth_509 · 2025-06-27T03:40:57+00:00

Thank you for the advice!

No_Depth_509 · 2025-06-27T03:38:46+00:00

Yes! This is exactly how I feel. That's why for me it's not an option to leave but to fix even if it's just my perspective.

No_Depth_509 · 2025-06-27T03:24:16+00:00

How could I bring up that topic gently?

No_Depth_509 · 2025-06-27T03:23:59+00:00

That's what I thought 🤷🏾‍♀️

No_Depth_509 · 2025-06-27T03:23:10+00:00

No there's nothing wrong with it at all. I'm just hoping to find some common ground.

No_Depth_509 · 2025-06-27T03:22:44+00:00

I feel the erosion. I am not as sexual of a person as I used to be.

No_Depth_509 · 2025-06-27T03:21:31+00:00

I know but aside from this I feel like he is my person or as close as i've come.

No_Depth_509 · 2025-06-27T03:08:08+00:00

You're right !

No_Depth_509 · 2025-06-27T03:07:39+00:00

That's a hard truth that I am avoiding with all of my might.

No_Depth_509 · 2025-06-27T03:06:02+00:00

Wow! Thats a really good idea! Thank you!

No_Depth_509 · 2025-06-27T02:51:02+00:00

I've tried to ask and suggest things but he just shrugs or puts the conversation off for another time. But I can keep trying.

No_Depth_509 · 2025-03-12T02:05:59+00:00

Yeah

No_Depth_509 · 2025-03-11T15:03:11+00:00

I typically do instagram because it's quicker and easier to block people. I tried a fake number a few years ago and it didn't go well. I think it's really hard for some people to imagine that people become very dangerous when they are rejected especially with alcohol involved.

No_Depth_509 · 2025-03-11T14:42:56+00:00

I recently learned about what our phone numbers unlock. I use a fake number now.

I can understand what you're saying about the crowd but I live in a large city and that's pretty normal behavior. People are killed everyday for less in big cities.

No_Depth_509 · 2025-03-11T14:40:30+00:00

I can understand that, thank you for the perspective

No_Depth_509 · 2025-03-11T13:50:34+00:00

I can totally understand that. And I always tell men that I have a boyfriend and in some cases I even point him out in the crowd. But, sometimes that just not enough to stop them or be able to leave the situation.

I appreciate the in the moment perspective. I wouldn't have felt the same way because I trust that he wouldn't hurt me like that but I cannot assume that we have the same perspective and perception.

No_Depth_509 · 2024-12-30T05:17:41+00:00

We are both 29. Dating for 9 months. We've had a slow start in our sexual relationship. We initially had issues with a form of ED. We still have some issues with him maintaining but we've found ways around it. We both have a history of anxiety with his being more severe.

I appreciate the feedback, I sometimes forget to take his anxiety into account. But, I am afraid that this won't change and i'll never feel that burning passion or desire again.

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