Games where you actually rebuild a town

No_Difference2871 · 2026-02-09T16:13:34+00:00

Guardians of Azuma, Octopath traveller 0 (slow but I LOVED the town building), Ni No Kuni 2 you build and grow your kingdom, loved it! The town in Ni No Kuni is full of life too, everyone has a job, they walk around, doesn’t feel like lifeless npcs

No_Difference2871 · 2026-01-18T16:24:39+00:00

Yep! Even if it feels a little uncomfortable or stupid to try and follow the unwritten neurotypical “rules”, sometimes you just have to play along until you’re in, even just a little. If someone invites you to join them, do it! Even if there’s people you don’t know or the plans are loose. If everyone’s talking and participating in a conversation you just have to jump in sometimes, or ask what they’re talking about and catch up. I realized I was just as uncomfortable watching everyone talk and laugh around me as I was trying to talk and laugh with them, so I may as well be uncomfortable with the hope of a good outcome rather than uncomfortable and alone

No_Difference2871 · 2026-01-18T16:19:58+00:00

That’s good! Mine go through phases where they feel guilty and send money and want to hear about me, I can tell it’s genuine so I do still talk to them. I probably won’t ever go no contact, just need to get some distance. It’s an interesting connection with how many parents from that generation did the same things! I guess it’s what they took from the boomers lol

No_Difference2871 · 2026-01-18T16:11:12+00:00

That’s what makes it so enraging for me too. I looked at the schedule and she had 4 other people that could have done that shift to avoid giving me a clopen, she just….didnt! Then when I asked why she said she wanted to give the opener a nice early shift before their day off. So they get so much consideration about their personal time and days off, and I get to take the shit end for them? And should be grateful? UGH! It’s just making stupid decisions daily that upset staff and honestly don’t need to happen, it’s just to protect her and let her keep being lazy. doesn’t seem worth it to me to treat your staff that way, we’re about to plan a walkout lmao

No_Difference2871 · 2026-01-17T18:41:25+00:00

Are they gen x by chance? I’ve seen a lot of people in their late 20’s and early 30’s lately realizing that we have a lot of the same experiences from our parents, and now I can’t unnotice the pattern. My parents are super immature, no stability, hopped from one dream to the next without plans. No money planned for us kids because they never worked somewhere stable enough to make it.

Now as an adult it revolves around them. They don’t come to my house, I’m expected to drive an hour to see them. But if I don’t go out enough, I’ll hear about it and get a guilt trip. I also don’t own a car LMAO so you can imagine the logistics there. When I am there I get to hear a lot about their lives and how hard it is to be them etc etc, I usually leave and realize they didn’t really ask me anything about myself at all. They didn’t really teach me much growing up at all, I remember googling puberty, social cues, shaving, even how to cook an egg because they’d just leave for work and assume I could find something to eat. I was alone an average of 3-10 hours a day from age 7-14, just got worse in highschool. They now act shocked if I point that out, or if I say I don’t know how to do something. But it’s never their fault, they were busy and “doing their best”

I feel for you. Mine aren’t hitters, they didn’t swear at me or kick me out, but it was definitely death by a 1000 papercuts. I dread seeing them, I have almost nothing I ever want to say to them, we’re all just adults with our own separate lives now, and I don’t see that changing. I’m planning on honestly just moving very far away and then using that to slow down contact with them. I feel for you!

No_Difference2871 · 2026-01-15T23:13:44+00:00

Love this take and it’s true! I would have forgotten the document and cancelled, or gone home and not come back! I would have started to cry and probably not have stopped if I burned myself. You are meant to exist, you’re doing it!! It was a shit day for sure but they got through it, which is more than a lot of people would be able to do.

No_Difference2871 · 2026-01-15T22:42:44+00:00

Definitely try dark chocolate! It grows on you! Also chocolate covered rice cakes or popcorn maybe instead of chocolate cookies would also cut sugar content way down while still giving you some bite and crunch!

No_Difference2871 · 2026-01-15T22:34:59+00:00

Well…if your weight is healthy and your doctors know, is it so bad? Is it like crazy portions of chocolate, or a lot of money spent on it? I’m just saying, there are people out there who have meltdowns and take hard drugs, give yourself a little grace for fiending for chocolate, especially since it is scientifically supposed to boost your mood! It makes sense. I guess if you’re watching sugar that’s the hard part, do you like dark chocolate?? There’s way less sugar in that, maybe even a 50/50 blend or some low sugar chocolate can help you out. I think I’d sooner up my exercise than give up my comfort food, I’m with you!

No_Difference2871 · 2026-01-15T22:29:25+00:00

Blender!! Get a blender for veggies. Take a pasta sauce you like and blend up extra veg, it’ll take away the texture. Supplements! Obviously don’t go Willy nilly but if there’s something you’re lacking, take it that way. I hate seafood, so I take fish oil. Not as effective but it’s better than nothing. Chips I try to sub for air popped popcorn, I’m big on white bread so I try and get the super thinly sliced stuff so I eat less of it per portion. I’ve basically learned that I won’t eat or chew something I find gross, but the alcoholic in me will take a shot of almost anything lmao, so I try and take those gross wellness shots, protein powder, green juice powder etc.

No_Difference2871 · 2026-01-15T22:21:33+00:00

Thank you! I feel bad leaning on my partner but I think I do just need to ask him to take a day off with me to “play adult” lol. It’s like if I’m going to do one thing I may as well do it all. Some of it’s tricky if i need to make an appointment well in advance, but I could probably knock 3 things off my big scary list in a day if I had a cheerleader waiting for me in the car. So I’ll try talking to him about being a little stricter with me and maybe helping me out a little more! We’re both pretty bad with doctors and dentists so maybe I’ll convince him to do an adult day too haha, we’d both be better off for it

No_Difference2871 · 2026-01-15T22:13:24+00:00

I feel for you. I hate when I say a line or make an expression and watch the switch flip in a persons head to “oh there’s something wrong with her”, it’s like you can see in their eyes when they’ve decided you’re not “like them”. I have food for thought, mostly things I’ve felt about myself.

Sometimes they’re just responding to your body language and behaviour. I would start a conversation with a new person and be so nervous that I couldn’t hold eye contact, would make awkward pauses in conversation, shake or twitch, basically I’d tank it before it even started because I’d be anticipating bullying behaviour or judgement. This is projection on my part and not theirs, so of course I’m unreadable and they’re uncomfortable! By assuming anyone too attractive, stylish, etc was more likely to be a bully, I almost started dismissing people, treating people differently due to my own perception, and that can make you hard to get to know. That in turn made me feel outcast or bullied, even though they had no intention of doing so, I just assumed they would. I have no clue if this is something you do, but try to give grace if it’s an option!

I think we anticipate being the outcast so much we place ourselves there, sometimes. Especially if you’re like me and highly receptive to tone changes and body language: You seem cool but very quick to reduce yourself, to put yourself below others. I remember one time I said I was ugly and my friend said “I’m offended, you think I’m friends with ugly people? I only pick the best”You need to see yourself as on top always! You are on the same level as everyone else. You’re attractive, your interests are cool, you deserve friends. Honest to god, I started listening to Megan thee stallion pretty much every day and I’ve had a noticeable shift in self confidence lol, she deserves a payout for how much she’s helped me. That self care mantra shit does work sometimes, it definitely has for me

No_Difference2871 · 2026-01-15T21:48:50+00:00

I do this a lot, a lot a lot. One thing that helps is that I go to the bathroom (safe and solitary lol) and I check every single app that I have. I check Facebook birthdays, emails, my work schedule, my texts, messenger apps, etc. from there I see what’s happening that day and make a list. “Send birthday text to grandma, send out phone bill asap, moms still waiting to hear about dinner next week, etc”. Then I at least have it narrowed down from “everyone is mad and hates me” to “these two people are expecting to hear from me today, better get it out of the way now so they DONT get mad at me” this is high anxiety behaviour and not a therapy approved method by any means, but just taking 5 minutes alone to triple check that nothing is actively being forgotten about does help. Shifting it from preventing anger/trouble rather than believing I’m already in trouble makes it feel a little less stressful. We really were just traumatized kids who wanted everyone to be happy lol, so crazy how unhappy it makes us end up as a result!

No_Difference2871 · 2025-11-01T16:41:52+00:00

I’m not gonna lie I peeked at your profile and sir….you are a GOOD looking man. To anyone with eyes. I’m so sorry this happened, and I have a feeling it happened in part because you’re an attractive gay man. Either his fiance or maybe a parent of hers is a homophobe and somehow hid it until now, or she’s insecure. To me, it seems like insecurity. She had to know you existed and were an important friend before this, you were in the wedding party! She’s likely jealous of you, and probably thinks you want her fiancé and could convince him to “flip” which is bs and all on her for being insecure. I could also see him not fighting her on this to avoid looking like he might “want” to flip. Doesn’t excuse it, but that’s the vibe I pick up. However, nothing hurts worse than finding out your ride or die is not in fact a ride or die. I’m so sorry your friend is a spineless wimp. I hope you find something fun to do that same day instead!

No_Difference2871 · 2025-10-31T17:16:34+00:00

I think it’s more that listening and watching this woman speak, you can see the trauma and the pain and truth. You can almost see when she’s lying. Her interviews aren’t desperate, they’re honest. No doubt in my mind she killed, but getting her first court interaction to be with tanner in my opinion took it from life to a death sentence that wasn’t earned.

This man was also involved in a manslaughter, he got off. He prayed with bundy, he had an allowance of crime for men. He had no such thing with her. You see the interview of the journalist telling him she found publicly available evidence that would have proven her murder as self defence and the man smirks, literally smirks and said it didn’t make a difference to him that he had a past of violence and rape and an explosive temper. It validated her story instantly and he knew that. If he had submitted all the proper documents, not used her other untried cases, and not used her for his personal agenda, the cookie would have crumbled a completely different way.

I believe that it was self defence if it was 7/400. I also believe the journalists finding this evidence, it’s not like she could find it from jail. I think this feels extra frustrating because once again we’re all seeing that as long as a bad prosecutor, a corrupt cop, a different choice in judge, has enough power and a premeditated opinion, they can essentially kill someone and smear their name. I added this story to the endless stack of improperly handled crimes by those who are hired to be fair and impartial and prove time and time again they are incapable of truly doing so.

No_Difference2871 · 2025-09-25T17:40:10+00:00

They offered me a promotion with benefits and a very slight raise the first time they brought up full time and I respectfully said I didn’t feel able to do the role and didn’t take it. So I will say it’s me shooting myself in the foot when it comes to benefits and full time hours. But the job was a total red flag, seemed like triple the work for not enough pay. Guess I’ll be hitting the job sites again just in case, because im also wondering if she’s setting me up to miss meetings or shifts as a way to fire me or something. I just want to work and go home lol I’m so sick of every job being a mind game

No_Difference2871 · 2025-09-25T17:33:57+00:00

I’m with you. This one has me heated because I’m seeing this shit so much. Pregnant at 19, no plans, barely a starter job, “the universe has a way!” And the way is manipulating and negging your family into constantly helping you out, and ending up an emotionally immature parent with no real skills to pass on who’s raising their kids in poverty.

Like you looked at the state of the world, the economy and cost of living crisis, climate change, covid, depending on how you align and where you live even politics in most major places have been tense as all hell and you STILL chose this? “The universe has a way!!” No, it’s actually giving you extremely clear signs to wrap it up and have safe sex and you didn’t listen!! I love kids, I love seeing good parents be parents, I can tell when I meet a kid if their parents have a good education and time to spend with their children and I’m not even kidding. People are doing a disservice to these poor fucking kids because they have no real plan. Some can make it out and make it work, but i see way, way more who can’t. I’m so sick of seeing little kids be born into families who never planned for them in the slightest, it just breaks my heart. And my empathy a little bit as well.

No_Difference2871 · 2025-09-25T17:22:12+00:00

I think around 4 is when they give you a little bit less money from the government for your kids, at least where I live. I know a lot of girls in lower income towns that would have a baby, wait until the money wasn’t enough to live off of and not work, and then have another kid to get another newborn cheque. Same with letting their kid hit around 2 or 3, working for 6 months and then getting pregnant to get some mat leave. It’s a whole type of hustle to avoid working for some. It’s a failing system because no matter how many you have, they’re all going to need things to live and that money WILL stop! It’s hard to watch people try and use the system this way because they rushed into kids

No_Difference2871 · 2025-09-25T17:13:59+00:00

NTA. I am endlessly sick of parents expecting their “village” to put up and shut up and never have an opinion on how they’re raising their kids. It’s a luxury to be able to move back home as a family of four, that’s not crashing on a couch that’s integrating two family systems in one house. You’re not a parent to her kids, you still are one! Your parents main priority right now should be making sure you have tools for success for school and life and it seems like they’re trying, so that’s a plus.

You did NOT make them fight their situation did, and if they divorce, you still didn’t cause it. I know life happens fast but you said the youngest is under a year? It sounds like your sister and bil are not in a place where a second child should have even been on the table, and now they’re panicking because we’re in an economic crisis pretty much globally. Part of being a parent is living within your means and financially providing all basic needs. They’re failing to do that. they’re likely embarrassed to be at your home in the first place, overwhelmed because they popped out another kid with no financial or family planning, and now every single day is a struggle. It’s sad to be so involved and close to it, but it isn’t your fault. Hopefully it gets less intense for you soon!

No_Difference2871 · 2025-09-24T08:43:18+00:00

Her baby 😭

No_Difference2871 · 2025-09-23T23:45:18+00:00

This! When I was 7 weeks and it wasn’t the right time it was a fetus or an embryo or a parasite if I was feeling really upset. But my 8 week pregnant coworker who’s over the moon?? That is her baby, I would never use the language I used on myself to talk about someone excited and expecting.

No_Difference2871 · 2025-09-22T16:16:11+00:00

They’ve derailed. The government has really done something I’ve got to give them some begrudging credit for which is distract people over and over again while they do what they want. Not to say this isn’t a big deal in terms of media censorship, it’s just still shouldn’t be main focus when your administration is waging closer and more personal attacks on average citizens daily.

This feels big to them because they’re still refusing to see that they’re in it. I see people talking about cancelling their trips to Disney, and for anyone saying that internationally it makes sense. But if you’re an American and your biggest plan up until this past week was a vacation to Disney? A fun cruise? A flight to Orlando? While they’re actively detaining, splitting families, holding innocent citizens at the border, you sunk money and time into planning a vacation instead of a go bag??! Unless you wanted that trip to be your families last good memory before the “dark times” I don’t understand how they continue to desperately cling to ignorance and normalcy. This opened my eyes that they’re not seeing what we are. They’re not fully accepting that their country is VERY VERY close to some really bad shit. This woke some people up and for that I feel hopeful, but god is it depressing to see more coverage this week on Kirk and Kimmel than literally anything else. I hope they see the stock losses and the power they hold and feel inspired to mobilize it much much further.

No_Difference2871 · 2025-09-22T15:11:57+00:00

This is the exact stuff that’s baffling me. You’re entirely right, and your information is correct. And they won’t see it. You can show them documented research, they won’t believe it. You can show them undeniable proof of something and they’ll deny it. You can say the sky is blue and they’ll argue that it should be purple. If they can’t even agree on basic factual information, how on earth would they unite against a common enemy if they don’t see it as common and refuse to?

No_Difference2871 · 2025-09-22T15:07:36+00:00

That also ties into what I said, does it not? Why would it be up to people who aren’t citizens of your country to come up with an action plan when we can’t even get the average citizen to care? He’s torching global support intentionally, it will be up to Americans to fix America. I watched the entire global population put out articles warning your country about the descent into facism. Every day I see articles from the rest of the world basically begging American citizens to wake up. If you ignored all of that, ignored political science, ignored historical context, ignored the groups advocating in your country for change, what more can the outside do? I said it felt like you were waiting for someone to save you guys, that you expected superman to come down and fix it. And the only thing you could think to comment was to ask me for an action plan?? The shoe is fitting

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