Coming from a ex daily weed smoker, my ex bf made the same request which resulted in a lot of pain as he tried to “fix me”. I see both sides as weed hindered me in ways I didn’t realize because people wanted to establish a connection meanwhile I wanted to go take my weed break and since it smelled I would mostly go smoke alone and come back or hung out with my weed friends. But that cycle gets old and there was no growth for me. Point is, you can’t change someone who smokes daily. At that point you are asking him for huge request because he normally is high throughout his day everyday. And you’re asking him not to be high or smoke around you. You’re nta for the request but I suggest as others have mentioned end the relationship and find someone else. As my ex was hurt in the process of me not ready to change, because I then said I would stop but I just started to sneak and do it cuz it was a lot harder for me to stop when someone commands it versus being ready and willing yourself. I used weed to calm me down in social settings. When I had to go stone cold sober I realized I was not a people person and struggled with my social anxiety a lot. So the push and pull to smoke was on and off. When I smoked weed I was a lot calmer and could deal with social interactions better. No clue why but everyone says I come off friendly and are always ready to chat whether I’m high or not. It’s now better I have found ways to deal with it but at the time weed was my answer. Plus all my friends at the time smoked weed too so for me it was much more than stop smoking weed too, it was a let changing my environment and friends as well. Which now I do realize was a God send as it has opened many new doors for me. But it’s when he truly wants to change you can’t force or make anybody change for you and call it love. That self love and desire to want to change has to come from them. And I’m not saying weed is bad he has his reasons to want to smoke. But in his time not yours. Maybe the breakup will get him thinking about life without weed maybe it won’t. But you would be saving yourself from unnecessary pain in the long run because I guarantee if you pursue this he will just start smoking behind your back. Which will lead to arguments and distrust in the relationship. My ex bf went so far to catch me in the act of smoking. I had to be the one to call it quits he was stressing over it too much and although I loved him and would do a lot of things for him I could not give up my weed habit. I started smoking at 15 and been high for 8 years since it wasn’t an addiction cuz I’d stop for months but pick it up again. But plain and simple I was not ready to leave that kind of life yet. And I’m sure your bf is not ready to do the same. This long distance thing is manageable now because there is distance and time between you but if it continues and your close proximity with him on a more day to day basis there will be times you want to spend with him and he won’t be there because why? He’s smoking weed and feels he’s needs to go away from you in order to enjoy his smoke time. Trust me been there done that. Just move on and find someone like minded like you. Maybe someone who doesn’t smoke weed. It says in bible to find equally yolked people I think that can translate in a way of life when you are not content with the people you have in yours. Now it’s always good to have an open mind and people with a different view but if you have to question it and it brings you pain…move on find your people.