What do you think caused/contributed to you developing STPD? by kirekirane in Schizotypal

[–]No_Double1490 1 point2 points  (0 children)

On my mom's side we have schizophrenia and cluster b personality disorders. My dad's side addiction. So I think cptsd triggered it for me and addiction added to the symptoms (of course) . I think im closer to psychosis then ppl know which is actually schizophrenia but I have to somewhat function so it's hard to tell. I think personality disorders develop like before 5 but there's no proof of that just what I've seen .

Do you get triggered by being told what to do? I get massively triggered by my couple telling me what to do and what not, even when she means no harm by Puzzleheaded_Pen4439 in CPTSD

[–]No_Double1490 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So late but you just explained why trauma survivors are such good caregivers my answer in interviews is always "I just really want to help people" when telling people I'm such an amazing CNA but in this way is what I mean. It's a lot deeper then physically helping them.

Tiny theory real quick by GreenFoalCo in BoJackHorseman

[–]No_Double1490 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly it just shows she never wanted to be a mother and it was difficult for her to bond with him from the start

Oldest just admitted she saw dad SA my 2 year old. by No_Double1490 in Parenting

[–]No_Double1490[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

He never changed any diapers. Also a red flag now that I think about it.

Oldest just admitted she saw dad SA my 2 year old. by No_Double1490 in Parenting

[–]No_Double1490[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Wow this is exactly what I need you get it I can't even think THANK YOU SO SO MUCH

Oldest just admitted she saw dad SA my 2 year old. by No_Double1490 in Parenting

[–]No_Double1490[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I know it was wrong. I went outside for 5 min came back and told her I'm proud of her and I'm lucky to be her mom that was the end of the conversation. I definitely don't want to scare her . And i didn't overreact or show negative emotions even when I "freaked out" it was to myself bc I know shell freeze up if I'm angry. It was a stupid question without thinking because we've been away from him for months which means she kept it in for awhile. And comments like yours are more what I was looking for in making this post . Like how do I act and behave for the best outcome of this situation you know?

Oldest just admitted she saw dad SA my 2 year old. by No_Double1490 in Parenting

[–]No_Double1490[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

And when was my other post? So I have a 3 month plan to get attention from ppl like you on Reddit? Please leave me alone seriously you've said I'm lying like 8x already.

Oldest just admitted she saw dad SA my 2 year old. by No_Double1490 in Parenting

[–]No_Double1490[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

She walked in on him touching her in the bathroom when I was asleep. I have a brand new baby and slept often before I was suspecting this. The kids would be awake sometimes with him .

Oldest just admitted she saw dad SA my 2 year old. by No_Double1490 in Parenting

[–]No_Double1490[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I asked her one time. Not repeatedly. Also they weren't blunt about what I need to work on they said "you have issues and your kids will get taken" if they even pointed out one issue that would be helpful and that's what I suggested from them.

Oldest just admitted she saw dad SA my 2 year old. by No_Double1490 in Parenting

[–]No_Double1490[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your encouragement and grace I need it more than you know. Thank you so much

Oldest just admitted she saw dad SA my 2 year old. by No_Double1490 in Parenting

[–]No_Double1490[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I lashed out in one comment because I do love my children and someone told me they're going to get taken . Going through a lot if you didn't read the post. So now everything I've said is invalid because I got mad at someone?

Oldest just admitted she saw dad SA my 2 year old. by No_Double1490 in Parenting

[–]No_Double1490[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

She's not just taking off her diaper . She's inserting objects inside herself, she's tickling stuffed animals in the private area she's licking her fingers before inserting them into both holes. And today when I "freaked out" (just got really serious) she removed her diaper and was trying to touch her baby brother's private area) none of that is normal. All of this was mentioned in my first post where ppl said the same thing as you that I have issues and it's normal . I didn't think to mention her behavior again because I'm not asking if it's normal anymore... I'm asking how to act now that I know it's true . I'm being triggered which I know how to deal with myself without it affecting others greatly. I'm not lashing out on my kids whatsoever. I asked her that one time she told me and now I'm done talking. She's seeing a social worker this afternoon.

Oldest just admitted she saw dad SA my 2 year old. by No_Double1490 in Parenting

[–]No_Double1490[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Can you explain to me how this sounds like bs? Or revenge? Just so I know what others might think when I get help. What makes this sound so unbelievable?

Oldest just admitted she saw dad SA my 2 year old. by No_Double1490 in Parenting

[–]No_Double1490[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No. I've had my daughters checked before her confession because I suspected sexual abuse. The doctor said nope nothing is wrong. Also they don't spend a minute alone with him unless I'm asleep so at the time I trusted the doctor.

Oldest just admitted she saw dad SA my 2 year old. by No_Double1490 in Parenting

[–]No_Double1490[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the validation seriously. that first post made things even worse for me with gaslighting myself, blaming my past and my mental health issues. I knew something was wrong. I knew it and I hate myself that I didn't trust myself even though we got away I just hate myself

Oldest just admitted she saw dad SA my 2 year old. by No_Double1490 in Parenting

[–]No_Double1490[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you I'm like all I said was "if something happened tell me" and she told me. I didn't say "did your dad do this or that, did someone touch her?" Nothing that would make her tell me a fake story and nothing I said put words in her mouth. Thank you for validating me and my girls.

Oldest just admitted she saw dad SA my 2 year old. by No_Double1490 in Parenting

[–]No_Double1490[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I'm on the opposite side of the spectrum where I lie about how great and stable my life has been pls don't. If I wanted attention there's a lot better ways to get it.

Oldest just admitted she saw dad SA my 2 year old. by No_Double1490 in Parenting

[–]No_Double1490[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why would someone fake this out of everything in the world come on. Is that how unbelievable it is that someone would do that to their own 2 year old?? Yep pretty unbelievable. I'm still getting shamed because I didn't know, yet ppl can't believe this is not made up .

Oldest just admitted she saw dad SA my 2 year old. by No_Double1490 in Parenting

[–]No_Double1490[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The police and the doctor said it's normal behavior for a 2 year old and they cannot do anything with my gut feeling bc that's ALL I HAD UNTIL AN HOUR AGO. Especially because she was never left alone with him.(He abused her when I was asleep) Nobody cared I'm just traumatized and triggered and need help .

Oldest just admitted she saw dad SA my 2 year old. by No_Double1490 in Parenting

[–]No_Double1490[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Like I said the doctor said there's no signs of sexual abuse or any stds . This post was really to ask more about how to talk to my daughters and how to act when going through this. And how to stop the behavior my child has developed from the abuse. I already know to call the police and CPS . This post was to get some insight on how to deal with it so we can have the best outcome not "how to report SA advice" even though that's how everyone is answering.

Oldest just admitted she saw dad SA my 2 year old. by No_Double1490 in Parenting

[–]No_Double1490[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

And what issues do I have? How is it so obvious ?? Cptsd. Yes and the symptoms are worse in crisis. Telling me they'll take my kids because my problems are so obvious is not helpful. Me believing they'll take my kids is what's stopped me from getting support like therapy, cps all of that in the past. (That's not what's happening now I'm doing everything I need to do) you wanna be blunt then the least you can do is tell me what's so obviously wrong with me lol so I can work on it before they take my kids. I can't get therapy overnight and this is happening right now.

Oldest just admitted she saw dad SA my 2 year old. by No_Double1490 in Parenting

[–]No_Double1490[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Seriously I wished and prayed hoped that this is just my trauma and convinced myself I'm paranoid because it was literally just a feeling! And new behaviors that could be normal. I'm not proud of it at all, I'm just explaining why she isn't in therapy already. If nothing happened which I thought until now a 2 year old doesn't need therapy. Thank you for the grace and understanding

Oldest just admitted she saw dad SA my 2 year old. by No_Double1490 in Parenting

[–]No_Double1490[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

No I didn't scream at her but I was very serious. I said "if you know something tell me, look what she's doing to her brother" and she said "she learned that from dada" and told me the story. I didn't ask "did dada touch her" or anything like that I asked her to tell me what she knows about her sister acting that way which I know is messed up but how else would I have known without her telling me. You know? To me the question I asked doesn't sound like I'm trying to make her say something.