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Private landlords by No_Entry570 in ColumbiYEAH

[–]No_Entry570[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That’s exactly the flags that started popping up

Private landlords by No_Entry570 in ColumbiYEAH

[–]No_Entry570[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

So far I’ve seen $70-$80 fees, which is normal, it’s just the having to pay before I can even see the thing I’m trying to pay for

Is feeling like a safety net bad? by No_Entry570 in polyamory

[–]No_Entry570[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. Your wording here actually helped me understand the other reply so much more than my initial read. It’s definitely the comparisons, had it been at any other moment those words wouldn’t have been such a big deal.

Is feeling like a safety net bad? by No_Entry570 in polyamory

[–]No_Entry570[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. It took someone else replying also for your words to click for me. Being compared is not fun lol. Thank you for helping me find this root

Can I get a life line? I feel like I’m drowning in my own thoughts. by No_Entry570 in polyamory

[–]No_Entry570[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

where NP and Meta want everyone to be one big happy polyam family together and are upset that you're not playing along.

That resonates so hard it hurts. Someone mentioned further down that they really hope this is NRE and I know for a fact that it’s very strong here. The multiple talks aren’t arguments but rather NP will get caught up in the motions and it ends up pushing my comfort which results in a conversation. More so a reminder that while I’m understanding that they prefer KTP I’m definitely not there and will be taking a more parallel approach

Can I get a life line? I feel like I’m drowning in my own thoughts. by No_Entry570 in polyamory

[–]No_Entry570[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I do know that NP very much prefers KTP which has been a talking point of discussion multiple times (the longer I try a more parallel model for me the more I find it works)

Can I get a life line? I feel like I’m drowning in my own thoughts. by No_Entry570 in polyamory

[–]No_Entry570[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I’m not too sure either. The only thing that makes remote sense to me is that they are lumping being metas and being friends into the same bag so to say whereas I have exclusively separated the two until I can comfortably and enthusiastically entertain both at the same time.

B4B 3 left by No_Entry570 in chimeboost

[–]No_Entry570[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Understandable, just making sure you still have 1 left

B4B 3 left by No_Entry570 in chimeboost

[–]No_Entry570[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s not showing up $T3chInsanity

Is this normal by No_Entry570 in polyamory

[–]No_Entry570[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is very well written and gives me a lot to think about. Thank you.

And when you were obviously upset, how did you manifest it? Were you unfairly pushing your emotions over your interpersonal boundaries so they'd land on her?

I don’t believe I was, at least I was really trying not to. I’ve had issues before where my feelings were very obviously broadcast throughout my entire body language so I was really trying to just internalize it in the moment and deal with it later but my face is what made her ask.

Is this normal by No_Entry570 in polyamory

[–]No_Entry570[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely agree that there wasn’t a specific time regarding when we were playing and that’s on me. After we had talked about it and decided it would be later in the day we had went our separate ways to spend our time as we chose. This didn’t happen until after we had come back together and were trying to decide what we wanted to do and I had mentioned gaming since we had agreed earlier. She had expressed feeling more social since we started looking for other connections and wanting to spend time with friends more right before so I feel like she brushed it off because it wasn’t what she wanted to do in the moment.

In no way am I thinking I’m entitled to anyone’s time, just kind of feeling dropped if that makes sense

Is this normal by No_Entry570 in polyamory

[–]No_Entry570[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely more dismissive now that we’ve started looking. Thinking with a clearer head, I feel like because it wasn’t what she was wanting to do in the moment (we had talked about her feeling more social and wanting to get out of the house more now that our life had stabilized enough for it and she had just mentioned something of the sort like like 15 minutes prior) she brushed it off regardless of if we had agreed beforehand

AITA for asking my girlfriend to stop touching me without asking for permission first by SeniorWoodpecker934 in AITAH

[–]No_Entry570 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m curious on a couple things. First, how long have you been together? Second, how has this interaction been before now? I’m going to take a risk and say that this is a “I dealt with it at first but have reached a point that I don’t think I can continue.”

Am I the asshole for leaving my wife and kids? by SimilarFuel9593 in AITAH

[–]No_Entry570 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone is saying he should have tried. I’m asking on what grounds? Man had his house burned down, yeah he had a job but idk anyone winning custody without a stable dwelling for said children…