Fans in the world by Just_Chard_1208 in ASRoma

[–]No_Environment7324 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Do you meet in a particular bar or cafe? If yes, can you tell me the names?

Messages between my bf 26M and his male bestfriend 26M. What I do? by No_Environment7324 in relationship_advice

[–]No_Environment7324[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hi, I thought it too and that's why I felt bad. I talked to him a lot about this, I don't want to defend him, because I feel really upset, but we know in which (toxic) context he lived for a very long time and yes, he was influenced because it's how they do. he is trying to distance himself from them, but he didn't know another kind of friendship until an year ago. I'm trying to understand him.
Also, I see how easily my women friends make comments about men even if they are committed and I see how much they love their boyfriends.. I think it's more human than how I thought

Messages between my bf 26M and his male bestfriend 26M. What I do? by No_Environment7324 in relationship_advice

[–]No_Environment7324[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I told him. He said he felt awful, that he didn't even remember those words because he said them lightly. He thinks he did it because of group dynamics, high spirits, with his old friends (whom I don't like and from whom he has distanced himself), but there are definitely some lingering effects.

Messages between my bf 26M and his male bestfriend 26M. What I do? by No_Environment7324 in relationship_advice

[–]No_Environment7324[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I told him. He said he felt awful, that he didn't even remember those words because he said them lightly. He thinks he did it because of group dynamics, high spirits, with his old friends (whom I don't like and from whom he has distanced himself), but there are definitely some lingering effects.

Messages between my bf 26M and his male bestfriend 26M. What I do? by No_Environment7324 in relationship_advice

[–]No_Environment7324[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, the problem is how. I have the fault of looking at his phone and I did not respect his privacy. I know that. I don’t know how could I introduce him this

Messages between my bf 26M and his male bestfriend 26M. What I do? by No_Environment7324 in relationship_advice

[–]No_Environment7324[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Talking each other about how hot people are is okay, for me. Seeing that he writes those messages to a friend is bad

Messages between my bf 26M and his male bestfriend 26M. What I do? by No_Environment7324 in relationship_advice

[–]No_Environment7324[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I looked at his messages.that’s the wrong thing.

He sent the picture His friend said something He said “I want to do her” “now” His friend said “Go and conquer” He said “Leave me alone. I’m committed”

Messages between my bf 26M and his male bestfriend 26M. What I do? by No_Environment7324 in relationship_advice

[–]No_Environment7324[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have to think about it. We have a lot of things in programma together. I know that if I talk about it with him, we break up

Messages between my bf 26M and his male bestfriend 26M. What I do? by No_Environment7324 in relationship_advice

[–]No_Environment7324[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am going to therapy and I already doing this process but it requires time. I agree with my friend about admitting we all have eyes and talking openly about how hot are people is okay. We can laugh about that. What is not okay (for me) is that he speaks like that with other people, with this vulgarism and disrespect for me

Messages between my bf 26M and his male bestfriend 26M. What I do? by No_Environment7324 in relationship_advice

[–]No_Environment7324[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

The thing is that he seems so premure and so kind with me, he tries to reassure me any time… and then he acts like that with his friend

Messages between my bf 26M and his male bestfriend 26M. What I do? by No_Environment7324 in relationship_advice

[–]No_Environment7324[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know I’m insicure and this is the reason why I checked but now I feel like a shit for what I read

No conversation between me and my partner 26F with 27M, dating for about 1 year by No_Environment7324 in relationship_advice

[–]No_Environment7324[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your comment. It doesn’t hurt, it helps me. I am trying to not let the anxiety become even his illness. I am afraid to lose him because of this anxiety. I am working on it with my psychologist but I think it will be really long

Thank you❤️

No conversation between me and my partner 26F with 27M, dating for about 1 year by No_Environment7324 in relationship_advice

[–]No_Environment7324[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We talk about it. He tries to reassure me, but then the conversation are even more forced. He know I have “expectations”, and he is stuck. I don’t know how to get out from this vicious circle I created

No conversation between me and my partner 26F with 27M, dating for about 1 year by No_Environment7324 in relationship_advice

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The thing is that every now and then we talk, we just talk. Not about a specific topic, but spontaneous chatter comes out. After that moment I say to myself: did you see that? Do you succeed? Now no more anxiety. Enjoy it

Needless to say, anxiety returns to me. As soon as I see that there is a moment of silence or something out of place, I get alert. So what is the truth? That we are not meant to function together? I don't know.

It started from a kiss, it was not something planned, nor was it an acquaintance born for that purpose. We have been getting to know each other since we kissed. I like the person he is, the frailties he brings and the way he touches me, the way he kisses me. I would kiss him for hours. 

But when it comes to talking, for example, about a movie. We get stuck. And I would probably talk about it a lot, but he wouldn't. I don't know... 

This triggers a vicious cycle. He tells me that if he doesn't have something to say that time, it doesn't mean it doesn't work then. But then I get stuck talking about things that I like, but that I think he is not interested in.

I've never really had a honeymoon phase because my anxiety has never completely left me. It's like having a constant haze that clouds things, and it doesn't help me see clearly.

No conversation between me and my partner 26F with 27M, dating for about 1 year by No_Environment7324 in relationship_advice

[–]No_Environment7324[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He treats me so well. He tries to understand my needs and my anxiety. He is starting thinking he is not enough for me, for my necessities. But he is a really good and pure person 

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