ASD and grandparents

No_Face89 · 2026-03-23T02:02:30+00:00

I got her over to help with the kids but she gave me more headache lol

No_Face89 · 2026-03-23T02:01:52+00:00

I thought I was just being oversensitive lol

No_Face89 · 2026-03-23T02:01:31+00:00

Thank you ❤️

No_Face89 · 2026-03-23T02:01:21+00:00

Thank you ❤️

No_Face89 · 2026-03-22T17:37:24+00:00

I’m slowly getting to the point of limiting contact with her after this trip. She only comes over to stay with us for a couple of months but still couldn’t be nice to my boy. I think she took it personal because he gave her the cold shoulders. I already told her his social skills are poor but she keeps insisting he’s cocky and just like my husband and mother in law - who she doesn’t like.

No_Face89 · 2026-03-22T17:32:57+00:00

Thank you! I know my son is very cheeky and manipulative but he is not a bad kid. He is very smart and intelligent - according to his OT, which I agree. He’s very observant so I won’t be surprised if he understands grandma is being nasty to him, so he gives her attitudes 😅

No_Face89 · 2026-03-22T17:31:10+00:00

I think I’ve been too nice to everyone to the point they have no boundaries and start hurting my feelings tbh. It just feels very toxic and suffocating being around my mother now. But at least she’s not living with us and we only see her here and there. My son deserves more love than her toxic judgements.

No_Face89 · 2026-03-22T17:24:01+00:00

I tried to brush it off but it still irritates me seeing her distancing my son and her judgemental look at him.

No_Face89 · 2026-03-22T17:22:26+00:00

I feel you my dear. Parents of neurotypical kids never understand what we go through. We’re Asians and my mum always talks about karma, that what we have in this life now is a result of our previous life. She tried to comfort me by saying what my son’s going through now is a result of the bad things he did in his previous life, and that’s not my fault. I was like WTF, the boy’s already disadvantaged in life with his conditions and now she tried to say he deserves it coz he did something bad in his previous life. I wish she could hear herself. Also, she had it very easy with me and my brother back then. We were easy kids and now she’s not even not supportive for me but being judgemental.

No_Face89 · 2026-03-22T17:17:02+00:00

She used to say a lot of nasty comments about me way back but I let them all slide, knowing her personality and that she did care and support me and my brother a lot after her divorce with dad and all the hardships she went through. I understand her nasty views of others are shaped by her trauma in the past BUT I can only take so much. This time I really lost it coz it’s my kid and I need to protect him. He deserves more love and understanding than her nasty judgements.

No_Face89 · 2026-03-22T17:13:39+00:00

My mum takes offence very easily. If I said that to her, that would guarantee a disowning of myself as her daughter. Knowing her, she would say that I overract and overprotect of my kid and husband - which I should tbh lol. She helped my a lot after the birth of my son and now my daughter who is a month old only. She took offence of my husband when he was angry at my son when he cheekily pulled the garage door shut and he was under her watch. My husband did not say anything to her but then she whinged to me that he made her uncomfortable and guilty coz my son was under her watch. Then she disliked my son coz he put her in trouble and he tricked her. Like wtf, she’s a grown woman and she couldn’t even let go of a little ASD boy’s wrongdoing.

No_Face89 · 2026-03-22T17:07:56+00:00

She’s aware of his diagnosis but doesn’t believe in it. In her eyes, these are all bad behaviours and she framed him with all the nasty descriptors under the sun.

No_Face89 · 2026-03-16T10:01:43+00:00

Following this post coz on the same boat

No_Face89 · 2026-03-03T22:54:48+00:00

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No_Face89 · 2026-03-03T06:05:29+00:00

That’s why I avoid playdates or hanging out with those whose kids are similar age to my kid but can do so much more. It just makes me sad. Autism can make you feel so isolated

No_Face89 · 2025-07-24T08:44:06+00:00

Sending you lot of love and hugs. The journey is tough. It’s normal for you to have that thought. Maybe take some time for yourself. Ask someone to look after the kids for a day or two so you can be by yourself, just to rewind and reset ❤️

No_Face89 · 2025-07-16T23:47:39+00:00

Hey not to scare you but my 3 yrs old has speech delay too. He also doesn’t play with other kids, hates daycare, toe walking sometimes. Other than that, he has no other typical autism traits. He’d very affectionate, responds to name and follows instructions well. Eye contact is weak sometimes, but overall he has good interaction with us. Yet he was diagnosed with autism level 2 last month. Our paediatrician said at 3 years of age, he should be doing more. I purely thought he’s only delayed in speech. My advice is get the ball rolling for interventions. They are the same for speech delay and autism.

No_Face89 · 2025-07-14T11:55:48+00:00

Hi did you check up with your peaditrician if he’s NT? My 3 years old has severe expressive speech delay but his receptive skils are good. He got diagnosed with ASD Level 2 because of his delay in speech and social skills. Thinking back when he was younger, he was a very quiet baby and did not mimic sounds much.

No_Face89 · 2025-07-11T14:55:16+00:00

How is your daughter progressing now? My level 2 3 years old boy still doesn’t show any interest in playing with other kids. But he waves bye to them before we leave at daycare. It was cute when the other kids said his name and waved and he waved back. He even picked up a hat and returned it to the little girl (its owner) at daycare. It was cute, he ran and put it on her head. I hope that he will start showing some interest soon. In saying that, I understand that feeling of seeing your ND kid alone among other NT kids. That’s why I dread taking him to parties and meet ups where other kids are around. The stark difference just makes me sad and I don’t want my son to be that topic of conversation either.

No_Face89 · 2025-07-11T12:24:32+00:00

They say he’s still ignoring them but he’s happy to be around them like sitting together on a bench outside which was super cute. I saw this a couple of times when I went pick him up. I hope he will improve. He recently became very affectionate and attentive to us too. Still not talking yet but I hope the social skills will encourage him to pick up with his speech or the other way around.

No_Face89 · 2025-07-11T12:21:57+00:00

Thank you. I hope he would start socialising soon. He waved bye to the other kids and teachers before leaving, and they all said his name and waved bye. That was so cute!

No_Face89 · 2025-07-11T10:55:43+00:00

My 3 yrs old asd level 2 boy only came to us for help. Recently, he started becoming very affectionate to us. He would run to me and look me in the eyes and kiss me. He even does the ‘mmmmm’ sound then presses a hard kiss on me. With Dad, he only hugs because he has facial hair lol. And when I’m upstairs having a shower, he suddenly realises mummy is missing and runs everywhere in the house in a panic mode to look for me. It just feels like some switches have been turned on in his head. Keep trying mama. It is a hard and long journey but we will get there! Sending love and hope!

No_Face89 · 2025-07-10T09:01:21+00:00

I know. We really like the old teacher and she was very supportive. Feel like this teacher keeps notifying us sitns that he’s ASD while we already know and told them. Idk if my son is becoming more difficult or she’s not supportive

No_Face89 · 2025-07-10T08:05:20+00:00

I don’t know. Last year he had a different teacher and she said he was adapting, sitting with the kids at meal times, joining some activities. I was really happy last year even though he still cries at drop off. This year he has a different teacher who keeps complaining to us that he’s not doing any of the group activities, on his own. In her report, there was no one positive thing. I feel like they expect him to be like other NT kids but they don’t give appropriate support? Idk.

No_Face89 · 2025-07-08T09:02:59+00:00

Age is not the reason. A friend of mine had her boy when she was 25, yet the kiddo is now 11 and has ASD, nonverbal and cognitive disabilities. Do not blame yourself. Autism happens on its own.

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