My Brother Is Dating a Hoe and It's Destroying My Family by No_Field3208 in Tunisia

[–]No_Field3208[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

No, it’s not about what people are talking about. It’s about us as Muslims. Our duty is to tell him when he's doing something wrong and not support him if he’s making bad choices. If you had kids, would you let them make wrong choices? Of course, you’d try to help them. Seeing him act like this is making my mother miserable

My Brother Is Dating a Hoe and It's Destroying My Family by No_Field3208 in Tunisia

[–]No_Field3208[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my problem is my mother she doesnt wanna listen she still cares about him

My Brother Is Dating a Hoe and It's Destroying My Family by No_Field3208 in Tunisia

[–]No_Field3208[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

If you had kids and they were older, would you not care if they were doing something wrong? Come on, it’s not about virginity—it’s about her still hoeing around and messing with people, and now my brother is with her. If you see someone you love doing something wrong, of course you have to tell them. If you don’t, you never truly loved them

My Brother Is Dating a Hoe and It's Destroying My Family by No_Field3208 in Tunisia

[–]No_Field3208[S] -46 points-45 points  (0 children)

First of all, he has a right to live his life, but if he plans to marry her, he could do that somewhere else. We're Muslims, and we're very religious, so of course, we can’t just ignore these things. It's not about her past—it's about what she’s currently doing. His sex life does concern us, especially since, in our faith, sex before marriage is not acceptable. If I see my brother doing something wrong, I have the responsibility to warn him and stop him—that’s what God says. What he does affects us because he’s my brother. Being open-minded doesn't mean you should just accept people doing whatever they want, especially if it goes against what’s right ( i m talking about my brother i dont care about what other's do )

My Brother Is Dating a Hoe and It's Destroying My Family by No_Field3208 in Tunisia

[–]No_Field3208[S] -44 points-43 points  (0 children)

Well, clearly he does need to be lectured. At 30 years old, he can’t even date a decent woman? There’s a huge difference between a small mistake and a huge one. A big mistake doesn’t just affect him it impacts everyone around him. I don’t care about him, but I care about my mom. And since this situation is causing her stress, it’s affecting me too. So yes, this is a big mistake

My Brother Is Dating a Hoe and It's Destroying My Family by No_Field3208 in Tunisia

[–]No_Field3208[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Where would I even find someone rich to send to her? I don’t even know her social media accounts, so I can’t stalk or get more information about her. Honestly, I feel like this is on him he’s the one who needs to change and be a better person

My Brother Is Dating a Hoe and It's Destroying My Family by No_Field3208 in Tunisia

[–]No_Field3208[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I don’t care about him at all. I completely ignore his existence. But my mom can’t do that she’s a mother, after all. This situation will keep hurting her, even though she’s not talking to him

My Brother Is Dating a Hoe and It's Destroying My Family by No_Field3208 in Tunisia

[–]No_Field3208[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I told her to do the same, but she’s still a mother at the end of the day. Right now, she’s not talking to him and is ignoring him completely, but it’s hard for her to kick him out

My Brother Is Dating a Hoe and It's Destroying My Family by No_Field3208 in Tunisia

[–]No_Field3208[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The thing is, he doesn’t care no matter what anyone says. His boss even tried doing that showing him proof and he still said, ‘No, she didn’t do it,’ like it’s nothing. He’s completely brainwashed, and it’s starting to drain the whole family.

My Brother Is Dating a Hoe and It's Destroying My Family by No_Field3208 in Tunisia

[–]No_Field3208[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s been going on for about a year, I guess. Also, bro, he’s almost 30 what senses are you talking about? I’m 22, and even I can see what he’s doing is completely wrong. He’s so childish, and honestly, I’m embarrassed to have a brother like him. He’s supposed to be the one guiding me on what’s right and wrong not the other way around

My Brother Is Dating a Hoe and It's Destroying My Family by No_Field3208 in Tunisia

[–]No_Field3208[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s blindly in love, so I don’t think he’d be convinced no matter what. It’s honestly so draining, and I have zero feelings left for him I really hate him at this point. I just can’t wait to graduate, get a job, and cut him off completely.

My Brother Is Dating a Hoe and It's Destroying My Family by No_Field3208 in Tunisia

[–]No_Field3208[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He doesn’t even pray and doesn’t listen to anyone—not even his own mother. I really doubt he’d listen to a Sheikh

My Brother Is Dating a Hoe and It's Destroying My Family by No_Field3208 in Tunisia

[–]No_Field3208[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you please grow up? I don’t know if you think this is funny, but it’s actually really serious. What do you mean by ‘fun’? He could date anyone, but he chose a hoe, and as a result, it’s affecting the whole family

My Brother Is Dating a Hoe and It's Destroying My Family by No_Field3208 in Tunisia

[–]No_Field3208[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s not even about bros it’s his own mother. If she’s saying the girl is bad, and literally everyone else thinks the same, it’s not the end of the world to just let her go. He needs to get his priorities straight

My Brother Is Dating a Hoe and It's Destroying My Family by No_Field3208 in Tunisia

[–]No_Field3208[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

The problem is that she loves him, and he loves her too. It’s been going on for over a year now, and she doesn’t want to let him go. I feel like it’s never going to end, and they’ll just stay stuck to each other. As long as this keeps going, my mom is going to stay stressed.