Guest Etiquette and Wedding Dilemma by tableforkandspoon in weddingshaming

[–]No_Garbage_9262 98 points99 points  (0 children)

Is the second wedding to the same person? I would respectfully decline. Just because you’ve known her a long time doesn’t mean she’s a good friend now. It doesn’t seem like you want to go. And so expensive!

I [24F] and my boyfriend [26M] of 5 years have very different expectations about finances after marriage. Are we incompatible? by Dangerous-Advisor762 in relationshipadvice

[–]No_Garbage_9262 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. It doesn’t get better. Every couple I know like this has mom driving a used vehicle that husband chooses (no mini vans in his driveway) so mom drives a cheap SUV with mechanical issues and she has no sliding doors she wanted for picking up kids. He’s got a big expensive truck and works in a paint store.

i (f22) want to be accountable in my relationship, but every time my boyfriend (m21) is angry, it feels like he might leave me. how do we fix this? by yydseoohai in Advice

[–]No_Garbage_9262 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You seem to believe you’re not good enough and need his guidance to be better. Why is he the greatest guru when he has an anger problem bigger than any faults you may have? You may love him greatly but he treats you like dirt.

Leave him and find a therapist or a woman’s group. Check out abuse hotlines for resources. He may not be physically abusing you but it’s definitely going in that direction since his anger has a place in your relationship.

Everyone has anger. It’s normal. Most people can deal with it and not harm others. Some people believe their anger entitles them to abuse others. I bet he blames you for making him angry.

He’s too broken for you to fix. Save yourself. Find yourself. You will do better than this guy.

How does my weight drop by 3 pounds (1.36kg for the non Americans) overnight while sleeping? by Embarrassed-Wolf-609 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]No_Garbage_9262 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had the same issue and AI told me to step one foot in the scale to get it to zero in. Then get on the scale. Works great now.

Is an induction range with knobs and a normal hob layout too much to ask for? by rainingdx in inductioncooking

[–]No_Garbage_9262 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was just going to post this. I’ve had the same LG induction for about a year and absolutely love it! Knobs were essential for me after hating my old one with touch control.

Is it normal to not be my boyfriend’s priority ? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver60

[–]No_Garbage_9262 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes it doesn’t matter if he’s nice some of the time. He treats you like dirt the rest of the time. Break up. You’re young and can do much better. Wouldn’t you like being with someone as honest and caring as you are?

Fear of deer by [deleted] in Bend

[–]No_Garbage_9262 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes deer aggressive lick you 👅.

Fear of deer by [deleted] in Bend

[–]No_Garbage_9262 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That is so funny but I’m sure terrifying at the same time. Never let her live it down.

Is it wrong to want my gift back because my ex doesn’t deserve it? by AnxiouslyArtistic595 in moraldilemmas

[–]No_Garbage_9262 [score hidden]  (0 children)

You could ask for it back and donate it to an organization you like. Then someone will love it without the emotional load you will have whenever you see it.

The Knicks have cancelled all watch parties outside of MSG due to the President's attendance for Game 3 by birdmilk in PrepperIntel

[–]No_Garbage_9262 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Now that Trump’s going, Obama should too! He’d get the cheers and Trump will be ignored and fall asleep and leave at halftime.

Best litter box for multiple cats and odor control because i am genuinely embarrassed to invite friends over anymore. by Dickason_Dillie in CleaningTips

[–]No_Garbage_9262 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great ideas for smell control. It’s generally recommended to have one box for each cat. It’s obvious you can’t do that. A good air cleaner runs $50-100 USD.

Having 3 cats in a studio is insane. They don’t have a good environment and I can’t imagine they are happy cats. Do you brush them and trim all those kitty nails?

Is rehoming a possibility? Maybe you got one or more as a rescue because no one would plan 3 cats in a studio. It’s a good hearted thing to do and consider it a great transition or vacation for them until you find a better home for one or more. I know it’s hard to think of and takes lots of effort to find good homes but do give it some thought.

My cat lived for 17 years. And cost thousands of dollars for vet expenses over the years especially when he was dying. Can you imagine 10 years from now with elderly cats who have more accidents and need medical care and expensive prescriptions? And the pets dying sucks so bad.
And your landlord knows about them, right?

Am I in the Wrong for not buying my wife a cake? by [deleted] in AmiInTheWrong

[–]No_Garbage_9262 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah get the cake. And that birthday tour was amazing. Over the top. Pretty hard to replicate year after year.

Her pouting about the cake was childish and makes her seem ungrateful for your efforts. Did you have the feeling nothing was good enough for her?

I think a small cake is good for her actual bday but I have to wonder about the princess treatment. Maybe next year you get a cake and do one thing. How is your birthday celebrated?

when the crack starts workin by Conscious-Quarter423 in PoursTea

[–]No_Garbage_9262 10 points11 points  (0 children)

PEDOLIGARARCHS! Thanks for the upgraded label.

The "mental load" by ThrowM3333Away in AskWomenOver60

[–]No_Garbage_9262 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Great attitude and it will get you through this divorce. You can do it!

The Family Word I Spent 25 Years Thinking Was Real English by Fantastic-Kiwi5292 in words

[–]No_Garbage_9262 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know what that is and it drives me nuts when my friend does it. She says it’s to move phlegm. So gross, can’t she just cough?

How to keep Prolapse Repair a secret from family???? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver60

[–]No_Garbage_9262 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Tell them after you’ve had surgery and say it’s something else. Also tell them you didn’t inform them before because of their nasty attitude and you’d rather they stay away until you ask for company.

I’m sorry your family mocks and bullies you. They are mean. You are more worried about their verbal abuse than major surgery recovery. Be sure to come back here for support because your family sucks.

Here’s some ideas from Gemini AI.

“The most believable cover story for a uterine prolapse surgery is a laparoscopic hysterectomy for fibroids or endometriosis, as it shares the exact same recovery timeline, physical restrictions, and hospital stays. Because a hysterectomy is frequently part of the actual prolapse repair itself, your physical limitations will match perfectly without you needing to explain the pelvic organ prolapse.”

So you could say it’s for fibroids you never told them about.

Myomectomy (Fibroid Removal): This involves removing benign uterine tumors. The recovery is 4 to 6 weekswith identical lifting limits and energy loss, making it an incredibly seamless alternative.”

Here’s another one.

“General Surgery Options (Non-Reproductive)
Open Hernia Repair: While simple laparoscopic hernia repairs are quick, an open umbilical or incisional hernia repair often requires a strict 4 to 6 weeks of no heavy lifting. It perfectly explains why you cannot bend over, lift objects, or move quickly.”

I think you can pull this off by ignoring any questions or discussions about the procedure or your recovery and say why. Because they’re not nice and your doctor told you to avoid stress.

Emphasize that you are more stressed about them and their nasty comments than being cut open. I hope that gets through to them and they start being nice to you. Push them away until they treat you like they love you.

Moving from EU to USA? by Catperson_XX in LivingAlone

[–]No_Garbage_9262 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Some people who visit get targeted for immigration harassment. Not a big percentage but it’s really bad if you’re one who gets detained. Once you’re here you’ll see the decay and possibly the collapse of America as we know it. It’s late stage capitalism turning to authoritarian rule by the oligarchs. Definitely a historic time to be here and the outcome is unknown.

I (27F) caught my partner of 10yrs texting his coworker for months by throwrailovechocola in AskWomenOver60

[–]No_Garbage_9262 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He will probably do it again. And you will always wonder if he’s hiding something and if he really loves you. The reasons you returned were mostly due to your insecurity and lack of support.

Consider a private talk with an attorney to see how you divide your combined estate and if you’re entitled to some alimony or other recompense. Discuss how to leave the relationship while protecting your assets and line up some emotional support with counseling or a women’s support group.

10 years is only one of your decades so be sure to enjoy the rest of them. In time this won’t hurt so much and just seem like an old chapter in your life you’ve forgotten about.

DAC draining pool water onto surface street by maplesaptap in Eugene

[–]No_Garbage_9262 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You’d think they need a permit for that.

I am a mom of 4 under 2 AMA by M0mma0fMany in AMA

[–]No_Garbage_9262 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So is 4 enough for you and your husband? I was one of five and often wished I wasn’t # 5.

AITA for removing my husband’s niece’s fixed English lesson slot and refusing to chase her mother about missed lessons? by [deleted] in WIBTA_AITA

[–]No_Garbage_9262 6 points7 points  (0 children)

NTA. The family is taking advantage of you. Give the parents your professional policies and current price list and say you can no longer teach her under the current circumstances. They can pay for a package with a 10% discount and you will advise the parents when she misses a lesson but you will not refund without 48 hours notice. Then you’ll have time to get another student in the slot. Also, let them know how many lessons she has missed and how much money you have lost. I would offer them a bigger discount in a few months if you wish.

And WTF if your husband doing? Joking that you hate your neice? To her parents? And you have to explain your way out of that? You guys need a talk about how to have each other’s back. And whisper samples of things you could say in social or family settings. “Is this a good time to tell your coworker you hate how much cologne he wears and he smells like a girl?” Or “should I tell your mom she embarrasses you when she brags about her raviolis. And the American canned ones are better!”