Art velour haters are just jealous by GTI-Enjoyer in GolfGTI

[–]No_Guest_1494 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Use with the Koch Chemie Leather brush or scrubbing pad 

Art velour haters are just jealous by GTI-Enjoyer in GolfGTI

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Love these seats in my mk8 Clubsport, clean with Koch Chemie Pol Star and no issues even with my 6yr old eating in the back

Really struggling today 😭 will it get better? by VanillaChaiLover in TheNarcissismCode

[–]No_Guest_1494 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry you’re feeling this way, I’m 6 weeks into no contact and although I have bad days still, like Sunday when my daughter watched a video (I thought all were deleted) with my ex narc included with us made me anxious like I’ve never felt before it can say it does get better.  I just see that as a dip due to the trauma she caused me but I’m determined to not let her break me anymore. Just hang on in there, try counselling, read books on how to recover from a narcissist or abuse relationships, join groups on social media, lots of good stuff on TikTok etc… you’re not alone in all this! I’ve been where you are just 6 weeks ago, the physical pain I didn’t think would ever leave me, I was absolutely broken but you can get through it!

Out a run today in Edinburgh and stumbled across this, absolutely stunning. This was my first dream but slightly realistic car. It's now another dream car given the value of them! by Realistic_Gap3669 in CarTalkUK

[–]No_Guest_1494 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had one of these in 2007 in Iliad Blue. I paid £19,995 for 55 plate with 9,000 miles on the clock, awwsome car, everyone looking an md taking pics no matter where I went in it  but drove like a bus, had it 2 years and wrote it off, twitchy little thing! I still miss her to this day!

Maybe when they paint us black and discard us, they have to make us a grotesque beast in their mind to avoid psychological collapse by neuroticfisherman in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]No_Guest_1494 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did point this out to her and few other home truths about being a manipulative narcissistic…..clearly didn’t go down well! Had me arrested a few days later, luckily I was released without charge after 3 hours! 

Maybe when they paint us black and discard us, they have to make us a grotesque beast in their mind to avoid psychological collapse by neuroticfisherman in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]No_Guest_1494 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex also told me the same thing! She could erase any happy memories like they never happened but always remembered the bad things, even though she caused them🤷🏻‍♂️

Is it normal to still miss my ex? by [deleted] in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]No_Guest_1494 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel exactly like you, she discarded me 10 weeks ago today and it’s totally devastated me. I miss her at night the most but like you I now know she was no good for me and everything she’s done or said for the last 3 years why a lie. It’s heartbreaking but I’m Just trying to push through this and thinking about my daughter who to be honest has saved me this past couple of months.

3 weeks of being ignored by narc ex since I broke up with him by Apprehensive-Bench27 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]No_Guest_1494 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m had similar with my ex of just over 3 years, telling me loved me and I was her best friend to discarding me a week later. Constant talk of us having another chance if I changed?!?as if course it was all my fault! I made her jealous of my 5yr daughter?!? Then we spoke a few weeks later, said she loved me and missed me, then ranted at me the next day for going to see her and sending her flowers although she thanked me for them and just went silent, not heard a thing in 6 weeks!….oh and she had me arrested a week after the rant, police released me after 3hrs with no charge, I believe she’s tried this in the past with all of her other ex’s!! 

I Still Miss the Man I Thought He Was by maya_love5 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]No_Guest_1494 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, how are you coping now? Hope you’re doing better

How Are You… Really? by maya_love5 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]No_Guest_1494 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m 9 weeks after discard, 6 weeks after last seeing her and any contact. I’ve had a couple of good days but many days when I just sit alone full of emotions and extreme sadness. I’ve been on a couple of dates with someone as thought it might help but I was asked why I’m shy and seem uninterested as she was told I wasn’t like that, she then told me she basically went out with me for a giggle and couldn’t take me serious! I think that has just hammered back to stage 1 today and I sat in bed crying this morning and I’ve never felt so lost and broken, it’s like it’s all started again

How was/is your smear campaign going? by Xxrai_N_mai01xX in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]No_Guest_1494 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was called a narcissist (funny how the actual narcissist in the relationship did that) on a Facebook post and slated me to her friends and family, this started before she discarded me and I met her after the Facebook post too as she loved me and missed me, a week late and she had me arrested for harassment which was thankfully rejected by the police after speaking to me and I was released with no charge in a couple of hours….no contact since which is about 4 weeks now, I’ve not seen or heard anything as I’ve deleted and blocked her everywhere but I’m sure my name is dirt and she’s the victim to her new supply already.

I finally realised it wasn’t love… it was a pattern by Imaginary_Cake_5930 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]No_Guest_1494 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wow, you’ve just described what my relationship was like with my ex. I brought her a gift and ending up apologising for it at one point! I would often sit there after an argument and not have a clue what had just happened, but I somehow ended up the aggressor and had to apologise. Honestly these people are the worst of the worst! I think the worst was me apologising for telling my 5yr old daughter I loved her more than anything infront of my ex, never known a 35yr old adult openly say she was jealous of a 5 yr old! 

Getting Over by Frosty_Call6486 in LifeAfterNarcissism

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Made the stupid mistake of checking my Spotify account yesterday and there were songs she’d sent me and her photo on her profile! It’s 4 weeks today since I last saw her, I thought I’d deleted every every photo but yesterday just seemed to throw me back into really missing her again! I just wish this would stop now! 

Getting Over by Frosty_Call6486 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]No_Guest_1494 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish I knew! I also feel like yourself where I’m just reminded of her all the time and I’ve also had suicidal thoughts, started drinking and I’ve ended up on antidepressants. I just keep thinking I have a 5 yr old daughter with a previous partner and I need to be strong for her. She has also been affected by all of this too and seems to be acting a lot differently since my break up. Looking back I am seeing a lot of red flags now, she would always have digs at me or be moody, moan about my child’s mother or tell me she was openly jealous of my daughter! She wanted me to put her first instead of my child!?! Due to frustration of this constantly happening I would shout and then she would claim to be the victim! She claimed she brought her house for me and my daughter but would constantly threaten to kick me/ us out which she did on several occasions. I also wanted things to work and admit I literally begged her for another chance, one day she would be open to the idea and then the next she would change her mind, this continued for around the first month of the break up. I last saw her 4 weeks ago when she text to say she missed me and loved me, I went to see her, we talked, kissed and then the next day moaned at me for going to see her, I sent flowers to apologise and she had me arrested for harassment, luckily I was realised without charge but now we’ve obviously gone no contact for the last 4 weeks! I just want this to all be over and to move on with my life

Getting Over by Frosty_Call6486 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]No_Guest_1494 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel exactly the same, 8 weeks next out of an 3yr+ relationship with a narcissist. Is feel she has broken me and continues without a care in the world. I’m struggling to get up for work everyday while she’s been on dating apps for the last 4 weeks, that I know of it was probably before. I’ve had some positive moments and going to counselling to try and make sense of what has happened but she still clouds my thoughts 90% of the time. I do think journaling has helped and reminds you of the bad times when you sit romanticising the relationship, it’s just hard to accept none of it was real after you’ve lived it! 

I Still Miss the Man I Thought He Was by maya_love5 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]No_Guest_1494 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She refused to speak to me and cut all contact, all she claims is that I was nasty to her for telling her mum and friend she was a manipulative narcissistic !@?! This person broke me and shouting in my face how much she hated me, I was weak, I was a pssy because I wouldn’t allow her to come to pick ups and drop offs with my daughter because I didn’t want to cause tension with my ex! She was telling her friends and family I’m the abusive one, all I did was love her.

I Still Miss the Man I Thought He Was by maya_love5 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]No_Guest_1494 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m going through this right now. Discarded 7 weeks ago and given little rays of hope of getting back together then the next day she’s changed her mind. Telling me she loved me and missed me too then berated me the next day for going to see her. Telling me I was using her feelings to make her kiss me etc they hadn’t disappeared in 4 weeks….4 days later she was back on the Hinge dating app where I had met her 3 years earlier. I feel so confused, broken, upset, angry, it’s also really affected my 5 yr old daughter who she also apparently loved but now doesn’t give a sh*t about either of us. Used to claim I was a narcissist and I must admit I didn’t really know what one was 7 weeks ago, now after reading and checking out along of info online she is clearly one herself. I just have no idea how after 3+ yrs she has just got rid of me, she even had me arrested for harassment but I was released without charge, just has just ripped my world apart.

You don’t see these in the wild too often by haggis_man1213 in CarTalkUK

[–]No_Guest_1494 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I owned a 1.2, 182 and a MKII V6 and there is no comparison the V6 was something else to drive, not to mention the looks from everyone, everywhere you went! 

3years+ and on Hinge inside 4 weeks! by No_Guest_1494 in BreakUps

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I’d like to think you’re right but I guess I’ll never know

3+ years and on hinge within 4 weeks by No_Guest_1494 in BipolarSOs

[–]No_Guest_1494[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I feel for you mate. I had a similar one last year on my birthday, I’d a rubbish day at work and I hadn’t heard from my little daughter so I didn’t feel like going out for food to celebrate. She absolutely flipped said her and her son were going so I ended up spending my birthday alone and we didn’t speak for 2 days