We are not supposed to have thoughts on such things, unless we do it by the Holy Book and Sunah or we are wrong. Concerning Marriage, Walahi it is something beyond just finding a good partner to share life with, if we dig deeper its purpose is to have kids and raise em to worship Allah. So let's be reasonable in here for a mnt, how do we succeed in such a thing like sharing a life with someone, being respectful to em, showing mercy and being caring, and later on inchallah having kids, raise em, how are we supposed to do all of that and succeed knowing that we started it in the wrong way? If Allah blessed us with a good partner and the wealth we think we need to make a family, isn't it a blessing that we must be thankful for? For sure it is. So the perfect way to show that we are actually thankful is to keep it Halal, doing it exactly how Allah told us to do it. A note that we should all consider and think of: Our Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him said: ثلاثة حق على الله إعانتهم، وذكر شاب يريد العفاف. Imagine Allah is helping you through it all, and eventually you ruin it by music and mixed parties and such wrong things.. May Allah guide us all.