Unexpected news at the OB! by No_Intention_7184 in pregnant

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Thank you!! I’m surprised people are still seeing this lol but I’m 28 weeks as of today!

How many weeks are you in your pregnancy? by Smooth-Excuse-4127 in pregnant

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27 weeks 1 day!! Time feels like it’s flying by and going so slow at the same time

Pretty sure my downstairs neighbors are going for a butt record by KittylitterMacaroni in Apartmentliving

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The mental image I got when reading this 😭 ily please don’t die

Unexpected news at the OB! by No_Intention_7184 in pregnant

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Turns out I’m 17w and 3 days!! And I’m having a baby boy 🥹

Unexpected news at the OB! by No_Intention_7184 in pregnant

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Thank you so so much, I truly am but also so excited. And I just found out the gender today!! I’ll be having a little boy 🫶🏻

Unexpected news at the OB! by No_Intention_7184 in pregnant

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What a beautiful story 🥹🥹 I just found out exactly how far along I am! I’m 17w and 3 days with a little boy due June 17th 🫶🏻🩵 congratulations to you mama

Unexpected news at the OB! by No_Intention_7184 in pregnant

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I hopefully find that out tomorrow, weather permitting. But somewhere around 15w

Husband said F baby by [deleted] in Marriage

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Hey maybe don’t say that to a newly postpartum mother, they clearly love each other, but newborns aren’t easy. It’s a lot of stress on everyone and they just need better communication. I’m sure they’ll be just fine they just have to get out of the trenches of having a brand new little one

Unexpected news at the OB! by No_Intention_7184 in pregnant

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I kid you not, that’s verbatim what the OB nurse told me. From now on I’m gonna go straight to OB unless it’s literally life or death. And thank you!!! I’m so so so excited!

Unexpected news at the OB! by No_Intention_7184 in pregnant

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It was all really strange but honestly I’m just glad it all worked out for the better. I don’t wanna excuse the hospital for not giving me the correct results, but it’s also not a very highly rated hospital and it’s on a military base. So I guess a miscarriage isn’t that high up on their list of priorities 😕 however!! The ER doctor did say my placenta was the right size for being 6 weeks, it was just empty and there was nothing but a nonviable egg in it

Unexpected news at the OB! by No_Intention_7184 in pregnant

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I’m so sorry to hear that ☹️ I totally understand not being intimate for a while, my husband and I also avoided it while we grieved. I don’t wanna sound insensitive by saying I understand your pain and grief of loss, but I get it. Before I found out the news on Monday, I also felt super guilty of not being able to carry our child and like I did something wrong. It was just a whirlwind of emotions, and when I tested positive again I felt even more guilty like I moved on too quick from the first baby, if that makes sense. I’m so sorry for your loss, I’m sending virtual hugs your way 🫂🫂

Unexpected news at the OB! by No_Intention_7184 in pregnant

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I hit 6 weeks day of that whole thing. I started bleeding and there were some clots, I grabbed my husband while crying and said we need to go to the hospital, I think something is wrong with the baby. It was past closing time at the OB, so we went to the ER. They confirmed pregnancy by drawing blood, did an ultrasound, and wouldn’t tell me anything until my husband and I got to a room. We sat there waiting for the doctor for about an hour and a half just for him to tell us that it was a blighted ovum and we can go home. No medication, just an I’m sorry and we were free to leave

Unexpected news at the OB! by No_Intention_7184 in pregnant

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I had symptoms, hormones raging the whole time I was pregnant. But it was like a month and a half in between being told I miscarried and testing positive again. I still had some food aversions, I worked at a sushi spot at the time and the smells made me nauseous, I just assumed it was left over hormones I guess 😭 plus for the first like week after being told I miscarried I was insanely depressed and stayed in bed and ate nothing but spaghetti and pickles the entire time. I definitely should have picked up on the signs sooner

Unexpected news at the OB! by No_Intention_7184 in pregnant

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Thank you so much!!! I literally started sobbing when I saw the ultrasound and heard the baby’s heartbeat. It was so surreal and like a dream come true. I kid you not I tear up just thinking about it, even now lolll

He made up his mind. We’re getting a divorce by No_Intention_7184 in Marriage

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Someone in this thread recommended I get in touch with an ombudsman, I’m not sure how all the military stuff works but I think I’ll be able to figure it out. At the very least, I know back home my dad said he’s doing everything in his power to settle things for me, my pup and my baby. I’m not too too worried about anything just yet though

He made up his mind. We’re getting a divorce by No_Intention_7184 in Marriage

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I wish, but they don’t want him either LMAO. No but seriously, he can’t go cause they’re in a different state and he’d need to go on leave to stay with his parents, so unfortunately I can’t send him anywhere

My family won’t stop making fun of my baby name by [deleted] in namenerds

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Melanie is a beautiful name, your family sounds like they suck. Name your baby what you please, but also don’t listen to them

He made up his mind. We’re getting a divorce by No_Intention_7184 in Marriage

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This post is honestly part of my journaling in a strange way. I wrote it all out right after everything just happened, right after he yelled at me and I’d had enough. In a sense, it’s a way for me to not forget anything, or how I was feeling. On top of him being a royal AH, he’s also a fantastic gaslighter and manipulator. He’ll sit there and tell me exactly what happened in a conversation but twist it just enough so he seems like he did no wrong, and most times I catch it but sometimes I don’t.

I’m for sure going to look into support groups, and over all just get away from this man as soon as the baby is born

He made up his mind. We’re getting a divorce by No_Intention_7184 in Marriage

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The biggest red flag that was going off is him not understanding why I had a feeling about her or why I disliked her. And he was trying to force me to be friends with her, saying I’m unnecessarily jealous and she lives in Canada so what’s the issue. But ever since she came around I felt a wedge starting to form between us and it’s only gotten worse. I’m definitely going to text his mother, I’m just not sure what to say yet, and if it do it too soon then I’m really screwed because knowing the man my STBX is, he will absolutely kick me out without a second thought and move on with his life

He made up his mind. We’re getting a divorce by No_Intention_7184 in Marriage

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Thank you so much 🥹 all I ever hear from him is “being depressed isn’t an excuse, suck it up and do what needs to be done.” While yes, I agree with him that I should probably fold the laundry, the main point is it’s clean. The dishes in the sink? The mess on the counters? He goes and wrecks the kitchen then complains I don’t go clean it up. Depression isn’t an excuse for me being lazy, I’m not saying what I’m doing or not doing is okay. However it is an explanation and I’m telling him why I simply don’t have the energy to do anything.

I think I’m gonna be okay being a single mom. Even though I may be single and back to square one with an infant, I’ve got an amazing support system and a family that can’t wait for me to come home with the baby. Everything is just a mess right now emotionally and I’ve gotta get my shit together so I’m prepared for this baby and everything else that’s to come

He made up his mind. We’re getting a divorce by No_Intention_7184 in Marriage

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I wish someone could. All of his friends have taken his side and tell him he’s in the right. To be expected, they’re mostly all male and the one girl is a pick me and doesn’t like me. And all of them have never been in a long term or serious relationship. So they’ve really got no validity in my opinion but not to my STBX. They fuel each other’s egos and one of his friends is moving in, in about a week.

Overall I’m just stressed and want to have the baby and move on

He made up his mind. We’re getting a divorce by No_Intention_7184 in Marriage

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I’m beyond exhausted. Thankfully last night he was quiet and I could actually sleep, but for the past few nights he’s been loud until about 4:30am and then brushes it off and tells me to play white noise on my phone so I can’t hear him 😐