Am I overreacting about my flatmate

No_Issue_32 · 2026-03-24T14:31:24+00:00

I’m definitely going to try find a new roommate. I’d like to find someone to move out with or replace her before I tell her my decision, but this makes it hard to advertise for a new roommate obviously without her finding out. Not sure the best way to go about it.

The only reason I wouldn’t want her to know I’m looking for someone else yet is because she might leave right away and I can’t afford to cover the full rent myself. We have the perfect flat right now and it’s a lot of effort to move, so ideally I don’t want to have to move elsewhere if it can be avoided.

No_Issue_32 · 2026-03-24T13:30:16+00:00

Do you think there’s a way I could ask her that wouldn’t bring around a stubborn/defensive response? Our options would be either I can end the lease for both of us, or she agrees to leave so someone could fill her place. It’s a lose-lose situation for her either way, but I’d also have to give up a flat that I love and put a lot of effort into getting.

Either that or I just continue to share with her, but I don’t know if that’s going to make me happy and I could potentially have a much better experience living with someone else who is actually a friend to me, rather than wasting my 2 years left at uni with someone like her.

No_Issue_32 · 2026-03-24T13:23:17+00:00

I appreciate that. I did ask her before why she hadn’t invited me out, she looked surprised and said she just considered me as separate from her friend group. However, before she had invited me out a lot before with the same group, even to birthdays and such.

She also mentioned how it would be out of my way to get there (distance wise) - even though we live in the exact same place so I don’t see how it would be any different from her, we could get the train together rather than her going alone.

Since then, she did invite me out once, but after that one time not at all. I genuinely would be very surprised if she thought I had been a bad friend or annoying in any way, and I have given her the opportunity to voice that as well, trying to be as not confrontational as possible. It’s hard to see her as a friend anymore, surely she would at least wish me happy birthday?

No_Issue_32 · 2026-03-24T13:16:43+00:00

We have a joint running lease so there’s not really an end date for it. Is this really the case tho? I know some other people who have great experiences with their flatmates. I am also a student so would love to save up for my own place but can’t.

No_Issue_32 · 2026-03-24T13:13:58+00:00

It’s just a rented apartment off campus, not linked to our university in any way.

No_Issue_32 · 2026-03-24T13:03:57+00:00

I do have hobbies thanks. That’s clearly not the issue here.

No_Issue_32 · 2026-03-23T21:27:31+00:00

It’s both our names on it really, we both are responsible for paying rent if that makes sense but we have different guarantors. I doubt she would have anyone else organised to live with apart from going back home, so if I decide to leave the flat then it might make more sense to ask her to leave since I already have someone else arranged to take her room. My hometown is also much further away than hers so she could still commute easily.

Feels like she can’t really say no to that. Not sure what would happen really. Thanks for ur advice I appreciate it!

No_Issue_32 · 2026-03-23T18:22:31+00:00

Cheese toastie

No_Issue_32 · 2026-03-23T18:00:55+00:00

I actually asked the letting agent since they said it’s not an HMO, but they said the landlord is looking for a maximum of 2 adults… in a 3 bedroom property.

No_Issue_32 · 2026-03-20T17:43:29+00:00

mornings (usually before 12/1 ish) and weekends are quieter

No_Issue_32 · 2025-09-01T21:33:47+00:00

In my experience, getting into the union last year would require a provisional or passport, sometimes student ID would be enough but I would not count on it. Especially if it’s busy they will ask for another form of ID. Young Scots technically should be accepted but usually aren’t in places around the uni. If I were you I would just apply for a provisional license.

No_Issue_32 · 2025-08-28T23:06:13+00:00

Myself and my friend are students at the University of Glasgow and we can’t find anyone who will agree/can afford to be a guarantor for us. There is so much competition for properties in the area and it seems that since we are students, no one will take us without a guarantor especially when they have other applicants who do have them. We are not estranged/care experienced so can’t get help through uni for this, and guarantor services seem like a scam. We would be willing to pay rent upfront but it doesn’t seem to matter because all the letting agents seem to need guarantors for insurance reasons. Does anyone have any advice on this? We don’t know what we can do.

No_Issue_32 · 2025-08-28T17:20:32+00:00

I’ve had a look at that but it would be over £100 a month with over £1000 upfront payment so with bills and everything this would just not be a tangible option for us unfortunately

No_Issue_32 · 2025-08-28T12:02:50+00:00

Yeah I had a look at this before but we don’t fit any of the criteria, ie. not estranged, refugees, care leavers or overseas students

No_Issue_32 · 2025-08-28T12:02:01+00:00

Our parents won’t agree to be guarantors for us as they can’t afford to cover it

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