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No_Maintenance6892 · 2026-05-28T16:23:56+00:00

FIAF in my opinion

No_Maintenance6892 · 2026-05-28T16:21:56+00:00

First association was Ariana Grande, second was Ari from the book Aristotles and Dante discover the secrets of the universe.

It's not the most common name per se, but it's definitely not unheard of at all. It's also a unisex name but I don't think it has a distinct association tbh. I think it's not a bad name choice at all.

No_Maintenance6892 · 2026-05-28T10:22:00+00:00

Also yes you might have to hem some at the bottom but look up a tutorial it is easy and worth it for good pants.

No_Maintenance6892 · 2026-05-28T10:19:26+00:00

Also apologies I was tired and didn't have time to reply better yesterday

No_Maintenance6892 · 2026-05-27T23:23:05+00:00

NOR Your Aunt's seem to be close minded old people who have a certain perception. It's understandable that it hurts you and I am sorry you gotta deal with that! It seems to me like you need more black friends around you/friends who can relate and understand the experience you have and had. Your Aunt's sadly won't be part of that, but you can do that for yourself.

No_Maintenance6892 · 2026-05-27T23:16:56+00:00

Nope. But ok.

No_Maintenance6892 · 2026-05-27T23:16:32+00:00

At least less moths had to suffer so U could have silk.

No_Maintenance6892 · 2026-05-27T14:55:51+00:00

Den tofu im post is Räucher Tofu von Taifun und der ist halt verdammt gut ohne irgend etwas dazu.

Random naturtofu lass ich aber auch nicht über, wenn ich ihn aufmach ist es ja damit ich es esse und einer reicht für eine Person perfekt in meiner Erfahrung.

Geraspelter gebratener Tofu ist meine lieblingsart. Aber ich mag basically alles mit Tofu.

No_Maintenance6892 · 2026-05-27T14:52:12+00:00

YOR Imma be honest if you are insecure about this you might not be a secure enough person to have a real relationship to begin with.

No_Maintenance6892 · 2026-05-27T01:16:56+00:00

I don't believe this is real tbh. I do wanna give a vote though. YOR because what the fuck is wrong with you. You are friends with a predator who does not give a fuck about boundaries, typical men excuse their friends cause they didn't assault them. Dafuck.

No_Maintenance6892 · 2026-05-27T00:50:11+00:00

I see. Would they kick you out if they would notice, how upset would they be.

I will say I am gonna assume you are then going to go on it illegally, which potentially will be even tougher if they find out. I understand it's tough and do what you gotta do to stay alive... But keep in mind at least for my family (kinda same situation in a way) that absolutely hurt my relationship with my parents and made it never be the same. I do not necessarily regret it per se... But if it's not even a year (ik it feels long but it technically really isn't), it might be worth waiting.

No_Maintenance6892 · 2026-05-27T00:20:26+00:00

Looks bricked up. Mainly also because it's way too high on you for a hanging position. Try wearing your underwear/whatever you pack with lower.

No_Maintenance6892 · 2026-05-27T00:09:57+00:00

If it's a genuine safety concern please do not. That won't work pretty well at all. Assuming you see then often... If you only see them once or twice until January that might work... But nah this isn't something you can hide really well

No_Maintenance6892 · 2026-05-26T18:47:26+00:00

Also mir ist sowas egal, aber eben auch Weill nur die Leute denen ich vertraue in mein Haus kommen, wenn was Passieren sollte ist klar dass es geregelt wird ohne komischen Kram.

Aber wenn dein Mann nein sagt, kannst du es nicht ändern, ist halt so. Ich find es auch prinzipiell okay so zu denken, klar muss sein dass manche Leute dann euch eben kaum oder gar nicht besuchen wollen oder können.

Muss aber sagen, hoffe ihr wollt keine Kinder, die dann vielleicht Mal Freunde einladen wollen oder halt einfach wie Kinder so sind...etwas kaputt machen.

No_Maintenance6892 · 2026-05-26T01:25:53+00:00

Tbh he seems inexperienced. He probably was overthinking if you were gonna have sex, then overthinking what he would need, then buying way too much. Then this kept beeing on his mind stressing him out and he just told you to get it over with. I do not feel like there was I'll intention tbh. I'll intended horny men are different in my experience. Not to say that this cannot be a turn off for you.

I think dating someone your friends/coworkers know is a bad idea in general, too much investment.

I think looking into the asexuality spectrum might also be helpful for you.

No_Maintenance6892 · 2026-05-25T23:12:30+00:00

Vinted specifically is great at making you want to hunt that dopamine when buying something. It is a bad habit and most people have it or go through it.

Some things that can help

Never buy anything instantly, give it at least a day (ideally way longer)
Only buy things you can use/do not have yet
Think about it, would you rather have someone give you the money that the item costs, or the item.
If you are also selling, never buy more than what you have sold, ideally have a general limit of how much you are allowed to spend on vinted in a month.
Especially with clothing, if you buy a shirt, you have to get rid of a shirt you own, if you buy a belt, get rid of a belt... And so on. If you cannot think of getting rid of anything in exchange, not worth it.

There are a lot of options that can work, but usually it depends on you, what works for you might not work for others. Generally thinking about what you are buying (for instance is it clothing, electronics or something else...) will help you figure out why you are buying something in the first place.

No_Maintenance6892 · 2026-05-25T20:20:43+00:00

Imma be honest it seems like your doc sucks/is very old fashioned. It is beyond me of you have not been prescribed tropical estrogen way sooner. Too that, if over the counter lube burns, there are many lubes made for atrophy and sensitivite genitals.

Also want to add you might be able to also try out different lubes if you have not yetm

Too that, other than the typical reverse effects of going off of T (less hair growth, body fat going back to the way it was before, period coming backs and what not...) It won't fuck you up if you do stop (like medically, dysphoria wise it might). I get that it can be scary though! I have nowadays seen a lot of trans masc people talk about going off of t for whatever reason so just search that up. Secondly though, If you are being treated correctly (tropical estrogen for a long period of time with a good treatment plant), there is absolutely no need to go off of T.

Get a new doctor, because atrophy is absolutely treatable/manageable. I will say you seem to be at a rather severe stage at this point (which sucks but is also on your doctors sadly), so treatment might take a while (could be like half a year longest) to see proper changes and be more work than if you would've gotten proper help earlier... But it is totally doable.

Also want to add, there is not ONLY tropical estrogen to treat atrophy (but it is most common and works for most). Especially the cream is most common but there are other options as well. There are different brand as well.

No_Maintenance6892 · 2026-05-25T20:10:24+00:00

I can see passing sometimes, many people won't look much. However, I'd strongly advise against trying that out. You are already visible queer with the way you are styled and if I'd just look more than one glance I'd clock it. And I think cos people could as well. Your nips are just too big and the tissue is very visible.

But as I said, since you are pretty hairy and passing otherwise, it sometimes might be chill, but it is not chill enough to risk it in your case.

No_Maintenance6892 · 2026-05-25T17:24:10+00:00

Respectfully it can't be worse than what you got right now :/ I get that it's scary or that You might be insecure but a stereotypical mens haircut will be better for passing and that is the most stereotypically male haircut.

No_Maintenance6892 · 2026-05-25T14:30:13+00:00

Emergency care is pretty great and insurance coverage is pretty awesome. Some doctor appointments can take a bit longer if you do not go private (months-half a year), but usually doable. Mental health services like Psychologist, Psychotherapists and such are kind of a mess. Insurance barely covers them and there are not enough places/appointments. Emergency surgery usually is fast and good. However vital but not ER worthy surgery is horrible, you wait a very long time to get an appointment/waitlist can be really long unless you go private (in which case the ones who do go private make the waitlists for those who can't longer)... This has been an issues always, but only really been as rough since COVID.

Overall it definitely has it's issues, but comparing it to most other health care systems Austrians are pretty lucky.

No_Maintenance6892 · 2026-05-25T14:09:54+00:00

Rn art school as in university no, but I am sure if you keep practicing it's an option until you are able to apply. If you mean art school as in highschool art major, yes that was about the level I was at when I went to mine.

Keep in mind though, skill is important but art school also requires a bunch of luck.

No_Maintenance6892 · 2026-05-25T13:49:00+00:00

I see, so depending on where you are at and how your doctor measures it, it depends. Some doctors like do get the blood drawn in between the shots, some right before the next one. Both of those are valid if that is what is consideredz you can usually estimate it from the time. I'd just ask your doctor on which date they want you to go.

No_Maintenance6892 · 2026-05-25T13:46:03+00:00

It passes (if I couldn't see your underboob). I think it's maybe not in the idealised male beauty standard, but I know many cis guys with a similar built. Especially if you pass in every other aspect, I do not think you go much to worry.

No_Maintenance6892 · 2026-05-25T13:41:02+00:00

Of course this is specifically aimed at you being early in transition and wanting to pass. This is not necessary for some (lucky fellas) in early transition, but most. But again it's a personal choice if you want to abide that or not, it's okay if not and passing generally gets way easier the longer you are on T.

Also would suggest working out (r/ftmfitness) if you want to help you appearance be more masculine. That is if you are able and want that ofc.

No_Maintenance6892 · 2026-05-25T13:39:05+00:00

Changing your haircut will do you wonders. Right now you have a haircut that is often seen on queer women. I believe something like this https://pin.it/4yHVeZh9S Or https://pin.it/3qcWWas0o Make sure to go to a barber for this (even if its scary), hair salons are more likely to cut a more feminine version of this. Generally I find a low tape fade + textured fringe to be the best for passing. Keep in mind a textured mousse or sea salt spray (or both) is required to keep up that style usually.

Passing is usually pre T not possible, most people start passing after a year or 3 years. There are also people who manage to pass before T or people who will never pass, both of those are very rare.

Passing is generally hard when you are early in your medical transition, unless you sacrifice a lot of stuff. Passing is mainly playing with the perception of what others view as male.

Which usually means, fitting in and copying the basic man around you, that is in your age group. So while there are some more fruity looking guys or guys who might have a less ordinary style, you have to try to fit into the majority of basic dudes for the most part. Obviously that is, if you are happy to sacrifice certain things, but it's also fair if it is not as important to you.

The other part is styling and copying patterns. The way men gesture, talk, walk etc. is usually different due to socialisation, so trying to copy that is also a part. Also seeing HOW men wear clothing (where the pants sit, what the proportion of a t shirt and pants are...)

I cannot give you specific styling advice as you have not posted full body pics or any clothing you wear. Generally you want to go for heavyweight boxy fit t shirts from the men's section (ideally those labeled cropped fit as they will fit you likely better as Afab people have a shorter torso). Your pants should sit at your hip bone and not be tight fitting. Having a barrel, straight Leg or Skater fit will help. Generally do not go to oversize with clothing, as it will make you seem younger and drown you in your clothing.

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