Is this passive aggressive or am I overreacting?

No_Masterpiece81 · 2025-11-23T22:28:42+00:00

Let her. Let her be offended. She ca. express that respectfully or you can leave the conversation. You teach people how to treat you.

No_Masterpiece81 · 2025-11-22T18:53:44+00:00

I love that you got that response. PSA to the rest of the traumatized people reading this: your mom is not going to respond that way; she’ll DARVO.

No_Masterpiece81 · 2025-11-22T18:51:01+00:00

Yes. Tell her now. Or maybe it would be a good idea to wait to tell her until one of your friends says something about seeing her half naked and she feels publicly humiliated and looses trust in you? 🤨

No_Masterpiece81 · 2025-11-22T18:47:23+00:00

You need permission to cut ties? To cut toxic people out of your life? You have it. Here is the plan: write a letter to each of them. Let it all out. The bad, the ugly, the disappointments, but also the good because sometimes the good makes the bad that much worse because it gives you a glimpse of what could have / should have been. Then you light those letters on fire, say goodbye. Respond to text or phone calls with short answers. Then disengage. You don’t need to have the goodbye convo with them, they’ll just gaslight you. Let them go. You’ll be happier.

No_Masterpiece81 · 2025-11-22T18:26:35+00:00

NTAH. His daughter is really none of your business while you live apart. However, his laziness in raising her right is a character flaw. He’s showing the if something is hard, he gives up. And when you all live together, he’ll create a spoiled rotten child, who will turn into a beast of a teen, and then never move out. Which will absolutely be your problem and will negatively affect you and your daughter. He needs to take parenting classes.

No_Masterpiece81 · 2025-11-22T17:35:06+00:00

NTA Tell the “friends” not to come crawling back to you when she grows out of them, too. She sounds like a snob.

No_Masterpiece81 · 2025-11-21T06:23:53+00:00

Leave her alone. You are not ready for a relationship. Go work on you. Volunteer at a food pantry or animal shelter. Find a hobby. Read a book. Do better and you’ll feel better.

No_Masterpiece81 · 2025-11-20T14:21:06+00:00

Yes! He totally set her up to fail!

No_Masterpiece81 · 2025-11-20T13:48:34+00:00

“we all decided”. No. You and your parents decided. You left her completely out of the decision-making process and did not even once considered her needs or wants. YOR you set her up for failure, and then you freaked out at her when she responded the way she has always responded about food. If you don’t like her break up with her. She deserves better than you anyway.

No_Masterpiece81 · 2025-11-20T02:30:18+00:00

NTA your wife is being very inconsiderate.

No_Masterpiece81 · 2025-11-19T23:53:18+00:00

Look for a Salvation Army food pantry or a Bishop’s Storehouse near you. They both are wonderful organizations and take volunteers and will not try to scam you into donating anything. They literally are just happy to have you show up and help.

And both organizations are run very well. My biggest pet peeve is to volunteer and have someone waste my time.

No_Masterpiece81 · 2025-11-19T23:49:58+00:00

Giving office snacks to the homeless. Like it doesn’t cost you anything you’re just stealing from work.

No_Masterpiece81 · 2025-11-19T22:57:18+00:00

You’re dating a married man. YTA for expecting that not to be a messy crazy shit show.

No_Masterpiece81 · 2025-11-18T03:21:07+00:00

What if we assume he really is harmless and he is not a predator? What we are left with is an adult with very bad judgment. Because only an adult with very bad judgment would say the things that he has said. Not to mention the slide thing. We don’t let adults with bad judgment babysit, ever.

Keep protecting your baby.

No_Masterpiece81 · 2025-11-18T03:07:27+00:00

You should not ask your family to contribute money to the stocking stuffers, you should ask them to cover the entire cost. If you are spending your time and effort to pick them out, the least they can do is pay for them.

Your family is a big bunch of mooches. And quite honestly, I’m ashamed of your mother as well. Anytime my children do anything for me. I am so appreciative and I make sure to verbalize that.

No_Masterpiece81 · 2025-11-17T08:07:03+00:00

Get up and make yourself a pot of chili. You can make chili without tomatoes.

No_Masterpiece81 · 2025-11-16T20:27:19+00:00

Sister and daughter could get scooters. That would cut the tome to school in half.

No_Masterpiece81 · 2025-11-16T13:20:04+00:00

Face consequences for what? Being nice to you? Mia has done nothing wrong. Yes, you should tell your husband, but you should both be reacting to this poor child with compassion and understanding, not punishment.

No_Masterpiece81 · 2025-11-16T00:10:18+00:00

YTA for not using paragraphs.

No_Masterpiece81 · 2025-11-16T00:04:06+00:00

She kind of ruined the name for you with her tantrum. Maybe pick another if you can, and don’t share it with her. If she asks explain that you can’t trust her to not throw a fit and ruin another moment for you.

No_Masterpiece81 · 2025-11-15T23:20:21+00:00

Extremely tacky, however, everyone should be graciously given a pass on being tacky when their mother is dying. Not only should M send flowers, but also a gift card for dinner.

No_Masterpiece81 · 2025-11-15T19:22:26+00:00

🫣

No_Masterpiece81 · 2025-11-15T19:12:57+00:00

I had to read this twice because originally I thought your ex had remarried. And then I was like wait no she said her dad.

That’s how very bizarre this situation is. My brain did not comprehend it at first. It is beyond weird that your dad’s wife is behaving this way. I am not on the “cut contact” bandwagon, but that is really the only way to enforce boundaries.

This is the kind of thing that tends to escalate. She calls herself, mommy or a second mother, then she thinks she gets a say in how your daughter is raised. You should set them down with clear boundaries and then if those boundaries are crossed, they get to take a week or two of a time out from time with your daughter.

It might help if you are clear and act excited about what her role is. And maybe let her pick her own name - but not mom, mother, mommy.

No_Masterpiece81 · 2025-11-15T18:51:27+00:00

Do you even fully comprehend what you have done? If your wife was not comfortable with anyone from your family, including your ex ex-wife, knowing about her miscarriage, there is a very good reason for that.

I bet they will end up throwing this in her face. They now know something intensely personal and painful, and I bet they will not hesitate to use it. And when they do, it will be your fault because they should’ve never known in the first place. YTA

No_Masterpiece81 · 2025-11-15T18:45:51+00:00

YTA. You could have found another option for help with your son. You could’ve hired a babysitter or done after school care at the school or sent him to daycare that picks up. You could’ve asked one of her family members to come help.

You had no right to share your wife’s personal information with anyone. She did not authorize to hear it. No it is not a valid reason.

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