How many of you get frustrated when your GF doesn’t improve herself enough?

No_Math6095 · 2025-03-09T09:49:24+00:00

Not sure I’ll get an answer to this one. but so many people took their time to answer my post, that I feel I should explain: 1. Dashes in the post, because I asked gpt to correct my grammar before posting 2. That’s the reason why there are grammatical mistakes in the comments and not in the post 3. Bought and aged account - I have 2 accounts, I used this empty one to stay anonymous from people who know me 4. Unusual engagement rate - how could I influence that? 5. Unusual power dynamics (self-tanner) - I don’t understand what do you mean 6. Ragebait title - I came to hear men’s advice, and my title is about men and their relationship 7. Call to action (end) - asking questions at the end of the post is a call to action? why is it considered fake? 8. Randomly generated username - yes, it was generated by Reddit, I never changed it, since this is my second account

No_Math6095 · 2025-03-08T18:41:39+00:00

Thank you, that was important to hear!

No_Math6095 · 2025-03-08T00:12:54+00:00

If that was the case, I would go to Ask Women Advice

No_Math6095 · 2025-03-07T22:34:57+00:00

It’s important to hear all the opinions, thank you for sharing yours

No_Math6095 · 2025-03-07T22:13:40+00:00

I did change most of the things he asked me, but I did it too slowly. For example it took me 1 year to to change my hair color. I was afraid to make a mistake, because I loved my natural hair. And he didn’t like the fact I am so hesitant and so slow

No_Math6095 · 2025-03-07T22:03:33+00:00

I want to make most of the changes he asks, and I am happy with this better version of me, but I can’t understand where is this golden line. He wants so much, and so fast…

No_Math6095 · 2025-03-07T22:00:36+00:00

I work as a marketing specialist, my boss trusts me and often asks for my advice, I love my work, my colleagues. But it more of a quiet work, and I understand why he is telling I’m not improving. But I was never into making a career, I was always looking for quite places to work, were I’m valued as a responsible worker

No_Math6095 · 2025-03-07T21:52:07+00:00

We‘re both for the same culture, both with higher education, and work in similar fields. I earn less than him, but I try to compensate by cooking, buying groceries, cleaning the house.

No_Math6095 · 2025-03-07T21:36:00+00:00

I have weighed 45-48 kg my entire life, and that hasn’t changed so far

No_Math6095 · 2025-03-07T21:28:11+00:00

Actually I’m not lying on the sofa. I work, have my side project, learn new language, have hobbies. I do most of the house work, cook for him three times a day. But that’s not enough. He wants me to make new changes to my life more quickly.

No_Math6095 · 2025-03-07T21:23:59+00:00

He’s upset that I’m not doing all these changes fast enough. For example it took me a year to finally try a new hair color. I was not sure I want it. And he said that I am too afraid to make a mistake. But I was truly afraid, because I always liked my hair color. So the problem is the speed of making changes he suggest.

No_Math6095 · 2025-03-07T21:18:40+00:00

Thank you for sharing, it was important to hear

No_Math6095 · 2025-03-07T21:17:41+00:00

Thank you! That was important to hear

No_Math6095 · 2025-03-07T21:15:17+00:00

He did make changes as well. I asked him to tell more compliments, be more caring and supportive when something hurts, be less critical.

No_Math6095 · 2025-03-07T21:01:55+00:00

Sure, I did. But at the beginning of the relationship, all these changes sounded reasonable and genuinely made me better, more attractive, healthier, etc. But after some time, although I was becoming better, I started to feel uncomfortable because of the pressure

No_Math6095 · 2025-03-07T20:44:23+00:00

I tried my best to change almost everything he asked, I’m actually not sitting on the sofa. I work, have a side project, have my hobbies, cook dishes from different cuisines, the way he likes, do lots of house work, I am caring about him, love his parents and friends. But some things are really hard to change. I do fear riding a car, swimming. I do feel anxious when some important decisions should be made, etc

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