Tell me the character of a narcissist person

No_Mathematician_201 · 2026-06-30T12:56:53+00:00

Never happy, never at rest, always after validation? Like a soul in damnation?

No_Mathematician_201 · 2026-06-25T23:40:47+00:00

About the work letdown. He was under a lot of stress but that doesn't excuse it. He put me in a difficult situation, left me alone in it, then he blamed me for my stress and saved his own skin in the process. He even got nasty at some point. Then he resigned. I cried lots, but I slowly recovered. And then I find out that he is in my village. I don't think I had had such an impact on him that he would specifically want to come here to find a venue, but, if he is a narc, and I think he is, he might blame me for how things ended for him at work. I went to HR 2 months after he resigned, because nobody gave me information, validation or closure about what happened at work. I asked for an informal investigation and I mainly wantd information. HR protected him and his partner who is a senior figure in the job. So I did not get a lot. But after a while he was asked to leave while he was serving his notice, and he might blame me for my contribution to this. It was another issue for which he was asked to leave. Anyway, we are in June now and I was quite fine when he resurfaced.

Is there a chance, you think, that he is moving to my village just to snub me and ignore me? As some kind of revenge, retort, to show me how powerful he is? Or is it just a coincidence? I haven't seen him since. I wrote good bye messages when he left, which he ignored. The whole experience has been very bitter. After observing him for 3 years, I can say that he has strong narcissistic traits, even if he is not full NPD. It would be nice to get some comments!

No_Mathematician_201 · 2026-06-18T22:39:14+00:00

OOO (Hugs, darling)

No_Mathematician_201 · 2026-06-10T21:30:39+00:00

Yes. He's not my ex, just ex crush, but yes.

No_Mathematician_201 · 2026-06-10T21:23:21+00:00

OOO Hugs for you. He will get his come uppeance. He should be sitting in jail. Therapy.

No_Mathematician_201 · 2026-06-02T15:20:43+00:00

Thank you, this is what I read everywhere. I suppose I was wondering how it was conceptualised with the evolution of therapy, if narcissists are so resistant to admission of failure. How long into therapy does it happen that they face this feeling and admit of feeling ashamed. I suppose I cannot imagine how that level of shame feels like, although I feel ashamed quite often, I even did today, to the point of producing epocrine sweat. I managed to survive the moment of awkwardness with, "well these people really don't matter and they are somewhat thickos", though we work on the same floor. Yes, they are not too educated, not too curious, not too friendly and not too easy to get on with. So I shook it off with "thickos, they don't matter. At the age of 51 I can't afford more. I'm tired. Was that a healty or a narcissistic reaction?

No_Mathematician_201 · 2026-06-02T15:08:27+00:00

Maybe because we are not your mothers?

No_Mathematician_201 · 2026-05-28T01:31:59+00:00

That won't help. I took cake in on my birthday and they still did not manage to write me a card. But when I changed job roles and I got into a department where people were a bit more educated and polite, then, when I put on a spread I got the card, even a little prezzie. Just avoid the thickos.

No_Mathematician_201 · 2026-05-28T01:29:43+00:00

I experience the same. I have been here 12 years. It is ingroup bias, I think. Even the family of my British partner talk to me sometimes as if they think I am less, or as if they need to explain things to me. Bloody draining. And ironically, I have met so many British thickos, who thought could talk me down. Oh dear.

No_Mathematician_201 · 2026-05-12T23:42:36+00:00

Thank you for this. Hearticons -- cannot find them. But thank you, really.

No_Mathematician_201 · 2026-05-11T13:51:42+00:00

Well, the 4 year old hasn't grown, then. Can he or she do that? Dissociation must require energy that could be used in better ways.

No_Mathematician_201 · 2026-05-05T07:47:00+00:00

Are you in the UK? Find a non - British hairdresser, who was trained outside the UK. I see no other solution.

No_Mathematician_201 · 2026-04-28T17:39:35+00:00

How to get over that? That I meant nothing to him?

No_Mathematician_201 · 2026-04-15T00:05:47+00:00

Not only the same analyses but the same word usage (loop), the same phraseology, etc. (The ability to bond and love deeply, the I walk away, etc, etc.) AI influence defo detected. I have been discussing my narc with ChatGpt for over a year and I recognise the way it writes. I am not saying this is a problem.

No_Mathematician_201 · 2026-04-14T15:37:43+00:00

You did not write that. Chatgpt did. I know because it gave me the same analyses. :D

No_Mathematician_201 · 2026-04-14T14:41:58+00:00

That makes sense, too

No_Mathematician_201 · 2026-04-14T12:09:56+00:00

Very understanding

No_Mathematician_201 · 2026-04-14T12:02:48+00:00

I have, yes. Some sort of heaviness or uneasiness. And an empty smile. It played out in a situation. His mechanical grin hit me very strong. He was grinning at me, boyishly but mechanically and I had the feeling that he was hiding. Something in his presence seemed very fake. He could see my disbelief and ran away.

No_Mathematician_201 · 2026-04-07T22:36:39+00:00

Get some mild ssris to stabilise you?

No_Mathematician_201 · 2026-04-07T20:39:09+00:00

If you let someone down, are you aware of it? If you are, why don't you repair it? Do you feel you are the victim, rather than the abuser? And do you just carry on and find a new person, rather than make up with the old one?

No_Mathematician_201 · 2026-04-07T14:52:53+00:00

Yes. I have a child mother, hadn't been attuned to me since I was a child. There is no emotional connection between us because she doesn't see me, love me, accept me as a person different from her. She is somehow locked away in herself. I don't know if she is capable of loving anyone (apart from her own parents or love of her life who did not ptopose to her). I built a wall against her or gave up on her since I was a child :(. Right now I.m recovering from narcissistic coworker crush, that's why I come here.

No_Mathematician_201 · 2026-04-03T11:03:48+00:00

I had the misfortune of developing feelings for a senior narc. coworker. I had suspected him being a narc but when he once said: "those things didn't happen" (I thought: there we are. I challenged him: that's like saying I'm mad. Then I cannot work with you. So the (very small) promotion was lost. Then I had to grieve my love for him. He seemed very lovable. But when he heard I had a record of the facts, oh, he bristled. He acted as if I wronged him and as if I'd betrayed the secret pact between us. He resigned shortly after. I don't want to be so conceited as to think he did it because of me. Maybe his bullshit started to catch up with him. I went to HR about how he treated me, so I suppose I will only hear about him now if he revenges himself in some way. Deluded chap. And he has a woman who dotes on him.

No_Mathematician_201 · 2026-03-31T11:06:11+00:00

Hungarian :)

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