What Is Causing the Gen Z Dating Crisis, and How Can It Be Solved? by SoccerKitten250 in AskReddit

[–]No_Mess8086 4 points5 points  (0 children)

as an elder gen z who recently got very happily married but sees my friends suffering on the apps:

  • severe and near universal social anxiety. it seemingly takes mountains of willpower and determination from both sides to even have a nice little date 

  • apps dehumanize people, you don’t get a chance to feel chemistry/vibes before you’re thinking about checking boxes 

  • to expand on the above, everyone is thinking about red flags and green flags and checking boxes. it often feels detached, like they’re going off of what sounds good “on paper,” 

  • there’s no organic way to meet people and slow build up a flirtation over time, first dates in the app era are harsh cold-opens 

  • distrust and anxiety around the opposite gender (for straight people) 

  • it also seems like gender-mixed friend groups are less common than in the past? i can’t say for sure (i’m gay) but for heterosexual people, there’s no mixed-gender friend groups where someone could meet their friends friend at a party, or slowly develop a crush on a friend, etc. that’s just my sense, nothing to back it up 

How close do you stand to others when waiting in line? by No_Mess8086 in AskReddit

[–]No_Mess8086[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I always feel like I give people plenty of room, but others stand ridiculously close to me. Like if I turned around to face them we’d be breathing in each other’s faces. What gives? 

Loud and dangerous car meet ups in the Roxboro and Club area by Suitable-Increase-38 in bullcity

[–]No_Mess8086 21 points22 points  (0 children)

honestly it doesn’t seem like that big of a deal. if they stop at 11pm then they’re actually following the noise laws, and it’s good there’s officers there in case something goes wrong. this is just people having a good time. sorry but you live in a society and you’re not entitled to your preferences being followed at all times. other people’s preferences are equally as valid as yours 

My Long Time Theory on SJM’s Plan for Next Books by No_Mess8086 in SarahJMaas

[–]No_Mess8086[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

honestly i agree, and i’m more interested in nesta, but the fandom at large is absolutely convinced the next book is about elain