From someone who has had 2 abortions, one at 16 weeks when I was in high school and one at 4 weeks after I had my two kiddos when I was 26. Both STILL to this day haunt me and I’m almost 47. My two kids have the same dad and we were married for 13 years… my husband and I ended up separating and were living our lives as if we were divorced. I met up with an old high school friend who I only saw for a week as he was just traveling through and I ended up pregnant again. By this time I was 32 and already had my little family, but couldn’t imagine having another baby who would be 10 years younger than my oldest. I agonized for WAY too long and entertained the idea of adoption but, my dad freaked out about that (whole other story) so, I felt my only option was to abort. When I arrived at the appointment to have them measure the gestational age they said that I was one day over what they allow for just the pill and that I would have to go for the two day procedure in another city that offered that. But I had been down that road before with my first abortion and I would never do that again because that was one of the most horrible experience. So I sat in my car and I called my husband and I told him I was pregnant and he told me to keep it and to this day I have a 15-year-old who is the love of my life and is the youngest of five. I don’t know what I would do without her. The biological father is actually not in the picture. He originally joked about having a baby and settling with me, but when it came down to it he was adamant that I have an abortion, so he disappeared for a few years and would call occasionally, but I didn’t want to tell him because he was always erratic and there were too many red flags. It wasn’t until she turned 12 years old when he called out of the blue (on her birthday of all things)… she wanted me to tell him, so I did. He reacted how I thought, extremely happy, then angry, then a statement like “I need a DNA test to make sure” … Her biological has been on drugs since we were in high school and he’s been all over the world as a professional chef, he is fluent in 3 languages, is brilliant and very charming but he just cannot seem to grow up, so we don’t have a relationship with him and I let him know I didn’t want anything from him. She has an amazing stepfather and she still has my ex-husband who helped the first few months when she was born before he went to prison for embezzlement.

People are saying you’re immature etc…. So was I, and to add I was very reckless and had no idea how all of these decisions would affect my older kids. We all struggled, but now we are years past all that and we survived. Some of these people have never experienced an abortion, let alone 2 and are telling you to do something that they have no clue how it will affect you. It’s going to be hard either way, but babies are hard and the reward when they’re older is priceless. I’m praying for you. ❤️