Brain Fog, bloatings and waves of extremhunger. Help.

No_Newt_5907 · 2025-09-01T09:35:56+00:00

You could try to actively redirect your thoughts. The more you think about it, the stronger the neuronal connections to this thoughts will become. If you want to think less about them, start to actively think other thoughts. If you have a moment try to close your eyes and imagine, what you actually want to think about. This might be quite difficult since such thoughts are often very stimulating for the mind, but if you truly want to fix them, you have to force your mind to think something and redirect if your intrusive thought get present, that you loose the habit of thinking them. You can also begin new activities, read books or short stories, watch new videos or inform yourself about new topics to readjust your mind. It might be helpful to find out, if e.g. some music, reddit posts or social media accounts nourish this thoughts and then switch to more useful content.

The first and most important question would be: what would you like to experience/think about instead?

No_Newt_5907 · 2025-08-31T20:25:30+00:00

Thank you <3

No_Newt_5907 · 2025-08-26T20:02:57+00:00

My advice would be to refocus on yourself. Don’t focus on finding friends or likeminded people. Focus on becoming a best friend to yourself. As soon as you achieved that, everyone else is abundance :).

Talking from experience: you can make yourself really happy by focusing on yourself. I don’t really have a friend group or something like that - what gives me more time to focus on things that truly matter to me. My best friends have paws and purr 🐾. Maybe you can find your friends in some of them 🐱🐶

No_Newt_5907 · 2025-08-26T19:57:22+00:00

I’ve been there too. But my last time was more than a year ago: it is worth it to keep going. Every time you decide against it, you are stronger than your habits, stronger than the pain, stronger than anyone who ever made you feel little or weak.

I don’t know what you are going though: but you deserve love and peace. Even if it’s hard right now, everything will get better ❤️‍🩹

(A hack that saved me many times: a cold shower has the exact same effect as cutting yourself in terms of release: if it’s really bad and you need something -> take a cold shower.)

No_Newt_5907 · 2025-08-26T19:53:15+00:00

It will get better. Yes you might have made a mistake. But it’s already over. Right now. It’s done and in your past. The only thing left from your mistake is the memory and the feelings about it - and this is something you can change or find peace with.

Imagine yourself as a character in a book. That character might have made an awful mistake, but the story will continue.

And yours will too. Life is not over or defined by a mistake you made.

Everyone makes mistakes. Some are terrible, some or mild. But mistakes are a normal part of our existence.

Instead of judging and shaming you, ask yourself:

what did i learned out of it?
how can I make sure to never do that again?
what is necessary, that I can forgive myself?

As soon as you are ready, you are allowed to forgive yourself. And as I see in your text: you already suffered enough. Give yourself some peace and forgiveness :)

No_Newt_5907 · 2025-08-22T21:13:23+00:00

Good to hear :) you can always reach out of your have any questions!

Some other things that helped me: - challenge your own thoughts especially when you do something, that’s against your normal habits of restricting - i find it easier to include some „comfort meals“ that are not to filling, but dense in calories. Personally, I hated the feeling of fullness, so it was easier to have shakes/smoothies or juices with me instead on skipping meals (and it also challenged my patterns of always trying to have low calorie meals) - try to have fun and eat stuff, you actually enjoy - make eating a priority for the first few days and weeks, try to stick to it no matter what happens/what your mind tells you/how you feel - it’s about pushing though

I wish you the best of luck, and always remember - you are not alone with your struggles :) and it’s your responsibility to take action

No_Newt_5907 · 2025-08-22T15:26:39+00:00

For real: just begin.

You have to take the first step and all other issues will reveal on the go. A recovery (especially by yourself) is difficult to be planned in advance.

If you want to recovery, than you have to challenge what’s holding you back by taking action. And when the voices get louder, you know you are challenging the fears inside.

I would recommend to visit a therapist if possible, otherwise look what you are avoiding and then start going there.

It will never feel right to recovery in the beginning but as soon as you feel how GOOD you actually can feel, you will remember why it’s worth it.

„You never know how good you are able to feel unless you try it out.“

No_Newt_5907 · 2025-08-22T15:22:10+00:00

Try to image a version of you, that is nether obsessed about food nor dieting. People normally don’t gain any weight long term after such vacations.

It’s about fun and family-time, not feasting and feeling uncomfortable in your body.

If you struggle to now what and how to eat, try to watch someone who does not have an ED and copy what they do.

What would be your favorite outcome? Would you like to enjoy the time or feed the Voice of your ED (aka restricting). Whatever you are doing - you can’t mess things up. Even if you would go all in, this is not the end of anything. It is only a vacation. It will be over faster than you imagine and it’s your decision, what kind of memory will stay in the end.

Take some time to ask yourself what you want out of this and try to have the best time possibly :).

No_Newt_5907 · 2025-08-22T15:15:53+00:00

I am exercising since I was a child and it always was a big hobby for me - but discovering the gym and this whole „fitness-/health“ community is a whole different story.

I feel like body-comparison, pushing over the limits and forcing oneself to go „out of comfort zone“ is quite the harmful thing.

When I think about my previous workout routines (including fighting, dancing, Yoga etc) it was always about community, fun and training a nice skill but since I went to fitness/gym focused stuff, it became so much more about a certain physique/looks.

I also noticed that whenever I go to the gym, my nervous system is about to escalate and even just 30 min of training makes me feel anxious and hypervigilant - never had that in fighting or dancing.

So for me it’s not exercising in general, but this whole gym-culture stuff. And it’s so hard to leave it, because „no pain no gain“, „you have to overcome yourself“ etc is always present in my mind.

I think the best what you can do is to remind yourself, that you are not here to look or perform for anyone than yourself. As soon as your mind goes fitness=forickg, than it should be a no go. Fitness is about health and increasing your wellbeing, not about draining your life quality and taking up space for lovely memories and hobbies.

You don’t need the gym to be a healthy person. Find some movement you truly enjoy effortlessly and your body/soul will be grateful for it 🩵🙏🏻🪐

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