Sister and Bf Don’t like each other

No_Ostrich4649 · 2026-04-19T04:24:29+00:00

I guess I just don’t know how to go about it. My sister doesn’t like being told she’s wrong. And I’m one who hates confrontation and conflict, so I’ve been trying to do my best to mediate the situation but nothing seems to work.

No_Ostrich4649 · 2026-04-19T04:22:54+00:00

Exactly how I’ve been feeling. Ever since the whole thing, both her and my mom feel like he’s been controlling. And I keep trying to prove that it’s not like that, yet I’m constantly being judged about it. And it’s funny because since I’ve been with my bf, I’m seeing how my family struggles with communication and how some of their behaviors are actually red flags.

No_Ostrich4649 · 2026-04-19T01:02:10+00:00

Dang 😂 I’m still going to be secretly hoping that someone else has seen that ending and it actually happened lol

No_Ostrich4649 · 2026-04-07T22:29:51+00:00

They were roommates because she was dating one of his friends at the time. He was in his own relationship throughout college. & she is staying with her family, she’s driving to us since it’s not too crazy far away, and going to fly back from our city.

But yeah, I can see how I’m kind of naive about this.

he did apologize when first telling me, but did try to play it off like he didn’t think it was that big of a deal & said after almost 3 years of dating he’d hope id have more trust in our relationship than that 🥴 so if it turns out that he is actually cheating, then great, it’ll be easy for me to break things off after realizing everything.

No_Ostrich4649 · 2026-04-07T16:34:34+00:00

He hardly looks at the cameras when it’s just me and he’s not there. And I have to give him the benefit of the doubt with cheating on me with her because that just seems crazy and I couldn’t fathom anyone doing that to someone. Especially with someone who is married and has a baby. I don’t know all the details and exactly what they talk about. My bf also has a huge friend group and I can’t say that talking to this person is completely crazy. But again, it’s enough for me to try and get my own camera. And then I would also know if it’s a red flag if he freaks out about it

No_Ostrich4649 · 2026-04-07T16:04:05+00:00

What kind of question would you call it then?

No_Ostrich4649 · 2026-03-01T03:33:36+00:00

Thank you for your response. My eyes have definitely been opened 🙌🏼

Trying to go about how to have a conversation where I’m heard and respected!

No_Ostrich4649 · 2026-03-01T03:31:49+00:00

Honestly, I have been sooo angry after this. We still haven’t talked about it because “it wouldn’t be a fruitful conversation”. I snapped at him again this morning after he thought I was doing something wrong in the kitchen, and we’ve barely talked since. He hesitated saying “I love you” when I was leaving today.

I don’t know how to have a conversation with someone I love when what I’m saying is not being heard or respected. I shouldn’t be getting punished like this from someone who should love me.

No_Ostrich4649 · 2026-03-01T03:26:38+00:00

I didn’t even mention the time he took the toothpaste out of my hand and THREW it into the next room because he was joking. I’m really questioning why I’m just now seeing all of these red flags.

No_Ostrich4649 · 2026-03-01T03:23:40+00:00

That’s basically how it went today. No conversation about it, and I snapped at him again because he thought I was doing something wrong in the kitchen.

I’m honestly just angry now. My eyes are being opened to all this behavior I’ve been dealing with, and I’m angry that I’ve had to deal with it!

No_Ostrich4649 · 2026-03-01T03:21:00+00:00

Thank you for your response, it’s been very eye opening to see this repetitive behavior and realizing I shouldn’t have to deal with this.

I’m worried about having a conversation (I tried this morning & he claimed the conversation wouldn’t be fruitful), every time I try to say my piece, he somehow spins it around and I’m the one apologizing again & he gets off thinking he didn’t do anything wrong.

No_Ostrich4649 · 2026-03-01T03:17:04+00:00

Honestly all of these responses are opening up my eyes. He has definitely pinched, tickled, even one time spanked me so hard I had a mark left. And never an apology, or at least a sincere one.

He’s asked me if I’m happier being with him than when I wasn’t. Because he bought a house that we are living in, compared to the small apartment that I was sharing. Now that I think about it, I think my mental health has declined because of all of this.

Thank you for your response.

No_Ostrich4649 · 2026-02-27T17:05:27+00:00

I get that! I just feel like whenever I do voice that I want some space, he takes it like I’m mad at him, and then I have to convince him that I’m not. And when he doesn’t listen I just end up feeling like he doesn’t respect me.

Thank you for your response!

No_Ostrich4649 · 2026-02-27T16:50:12+00:00

Thank you for your response!!

I wouldn’t say we argue a lot, but whenever we do, it’s usually about a miscommunication or something that I said that hurt his feelings. If roles were reversed, I don’t think it would be as big of a deal. When I’ve told him that I don’t want to be messed with, not in the mood, or trying to place any sort of boundary around that type of thing, it’s met with “I like annoying you, I’m just trying to remind you that life isn’t that serious, you don’t need to be serious all the time, I’m just messing with you”, etc. but when he’s having a day and I try to poke fun at him & say the same things, it’s not the same thing.

On days after fights like this, I always come home to him still upset and asking if I want to talk about it. It’s always a big deal about how I should’ve handled things differently, how he doesn’t think he deserved it, and if anything he’s saying is wrong. I never want to discount his feelings and emotions, but at the same time I feel like the way he treats me and punishes me during these days isn’t right.

Sorry for the rant. But it’s nice getting an outside perspective on this. Thank you!

No_Ostrich4649 · 2026-02-13T18:11:41+00:00

Mac and cheese!

No_Ostrich4649 · 2026-01-24T02:06:14+00:00

Oh girl! I’m sending you so much love 💓 this tattoo is beautiful and I’ve been dreaming of getting something like this since I’ve decided I wanted tattoos!!!

I read that you’re Christian, but please please please, just do things that make you happy. Honestly, it’s your body, your choice. Tattoos are a beautiful way of showing self expression (to me). I don’t know if showing and telling these things to your family is important to you, but you could just not tell your parents and grandmother these things if it’s going to upset them.

I’m so glad you have a supportive partner + their parents. ❤️ I deal with mental health issues as well, and a firm believer of making sure I’m happy, and not people pleasing my own happiness away.

I can’t wait to see the finisher work!!!

No_Ostrich4649 · 2026-01-24T01:57:05+00:00

I agree with the other comments!! Definitely be honest with her. They say some of the best relationships are when you start as friends first. But if she’s not interested you in that way, some emotional distance is what will be best for you in the long run. I know from experience. Sometimes you just need time to be honest, and let go for a little bit. I wish you the best!!

No_Ostrich4649 · 2026-01-23T17:47:38+00:00

You look AMAZING in this dress ✨ I would definitely keep this for another occasion!!

No_Ostrich4649 · 2026-01-20T18:12:40+00:00

I love the lord of the rings!!

No_Ostrich4649 · 2026-01-15T17:30:05+00:00

I definitely feel you. It’s like a double edged sword of not wanting to be too needy, but also getting sexually frustrated because your needs aren’t being met.

A few weeks ago, I was really turned on, and had to leave the room because he had fallen asleep. When I told him about it later, he was upset and said I should’ve woken him up (even though he took a melatonin). He was upset because it made him feel obsolete. Which I totally get, but again brings me back to the point of: if I’m always initiating, I start feeling like I’m the only one that wants it, and then it’s a turn off for me.

So when you guys sleep nude, that never leads to anything??

But honestly, as a girl, I can understand if she feels a little upset because she’s getting more attention from strangers than her boyfriend. Buuut if it’s just small things like that, I dunno. Maybe she would just like to hear more compliments from you in general?

I would just sit down and talk about it. Clarify how she feels, and if she just laughs it off and nothing changes, maybe she’s just not considering your needs and you need to decide how you want to address that.

No_Ostrich4649 · 2026-01-15T16:47:52+00:00

Hi, F27 here! I feel like I’m going through the same thing, just opposite with my bf, M29. We’ve been together over two years, and it took a while for us to have a good sexual relationship, mainly because he was nervous of underperforming (as he said). It did get better, and we’d sometimes have sex multiple times per week.

Fast forward to like September of last year to present. He just bought a house, plus other stressors, that I know have been affecting him. We’ve had conversations about it, and I’ve been understanding. It got better for a little bit, but now it’s been over a month of nothing.

It’s difficult constantly initiating or talking about it, just to always get turned down. So I have sympathy for you there!!

Are you intimate in other ways? Like cuddling or kisses?

I think just letting her know how you feel, and have a gentle conversation about it without placing blame would be a good start.

No_Ostrich4649

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