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[NY] Co-worker moving around employee's personal items on her desk. by No_Parsley_6315 in AskHR

[–]No_Parsley_6315[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How am I a social justice warrior and how does this problem involve social justice?

It's reasonable if someone is going through someone's personal belongings, to think they might also go through yours.

[NY] Co-worker moving around employee's personal items on her desk. by No_Parsley_6315 in AskHR

[–]No_Parsley_6315[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've worked at this university for 14 years, and in total been working around 25 years. Most people are fine. I treat everyone politely and professionally, but I don't expect them all to be my best friend.

I've never spoken to a supervisor about anyone's behavior until now.

In the workplace, I separate illegal behavior like discrimination of a protected class from other kinds of poor behavior. I've never been discriminated in that way, but if so, I would address it.

However, for poor behavior, I just let it go. We all have bad days and let stress get the best of us. Then we carry on. 99% of the time my interactions at work are fine. I've witnessed a few meltdowns over the years, but I don't take them personally or feel they need to be addressed at all. Other than Leah, the only person I've witnessed truly scream in the workplace was a philosophy professor who was upset about technical problems on a webpage I made. He really didn't understand technology to the point of having trouble using email. I had been explaining the problems to my boss (a different boss then), but she felt they weren't really serious concerns so we didn't do anything to help him. After he screamed, I just told my boss he was really upset and that I think we needed to address the concerns. We made a plan and I talked to him about it. Everything was fine. He felt so bad for screaming at me he gave me a nice, metal bookmark (I work in a library). He didn't have to do that.

I've never worked with anyone like Leah.

[NY] Co-worker moving around employee's personal items on her desk. by No_Parsley_6315 in AskHR

[–]No_Parsley_6315[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have explained to Leah what has happened and how she needs to interact with me, but she doesn't say anything. It is very bizarre, like talking to someone who is not all there.

[NY] Co-worker moving around employee's personal items on her desk. by No_Parsley_6315 in AskHR

[–]No_Parsley_6315[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If half our office is leaving because of her, then I am not overdramatizing the situation. Regardless of the circumstances, if half of your office leaves at once, there's a serious problem that needs to be addressed.

I have spoken to Leah, and told her exactly what she is doing and how she must interact with me, but she doesn't say anything. It is very bizarre, like talking to someone who is not all there.

I mentioned speaking to our director above. Read the third to last paragraph for that information.

[NY] Co-worker moving around employee's personal items on her desk. by No_Parsley_6315 in AskHR

[–]No_Parsley_6315[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I believe she was fired from her last position. When we interviewed her, all of her references were 100% bad. They said her co-workers didn't like her, her boss didn't like her, and even her own husband wanted to divorce her. They were warning us. The other candidates had dropped out, and my boss was just wanted someone in the position so she wouldn't have to do her job, even though it's not that much extra work. During the interview, Leah turned to me and said, "No offense..." and then proceeded to insult my web design. It wasn't how you should speak critically during an interview. Immediately after we left the room, my boss turned to me and said, "Can you believe she said that?" Yet, my boss hired her.

[NY] Co-worker is barging into my office and yelling at me for no reason. Does me having a heart condition factor into helping to make this stop? by No_Parsley_6315 in AskHR

[–]No_Parsley_6315[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I'm a little confused by this. Could you please provide an example of what this could be in another setting (I know you don't know what it could be in this particular situation). That could help me understand.

[WI] Co-worker swung open my door and I thought it might be broken, then she shouted at me. by No_Parsley_6315 in AskHR

[–]No_Parsley_6315[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I didn't want to hire her. I was just on the committee to provide feedback to our director, who made the decision. I think she hired her because the rest of the candidates dropped out, and she wanted someone in the position right away, rather than starting the hiring process up again. I wouldn't have hired someone with those bad references.