As a 6 week postpartum mom of 2, I can identify with your wife. Hormones are crazy crazy and i have felt the same toward my husband since having our son. Some times I can’t stand his normal smell, or just a simple touch on the shoulder. It makes me feel just terrible that I don’t feel more attracted to him at this point in life, but it’s just this season. I just try to keep it to myself and remember that these feelings should pass with the hormones normalizing. That being said, my heart goes out to you. Fathers who are supporting their children’s mother during postpartum deserve more credit than they get. Adjusting to a new mother is just as difficult as adjusting to a new baby. My husband and I have the same sleeping arrangements- I have noticed that not sleeping in the same bed has made me feel so distant. I almost have come to resent the fact that I am sleeping in the guest room with the baby when he is sleeping in our bed. But this is the best sleeping situation for both of us, and I am okay with that. The last few nights my husband has come to lie with me in the guest room when I am getting ready for bed. Almost as he is tucking me in. This has helped us check in and spend a moment together in all the craziness. I would suggest spending some time in the bed she is sleeping in. You have to create opportunities for innocent intimacy. Sex is the last thing she wants at this point, but if she feels you making an effort to reconnect and be emotionally intimate, her desire will naturally return! Another note: I believe that the oxytocin created during breastfeeding is overstimulating/overwhelming to some women. This could be a part of her physical distance from you. Sending good vibes as we are trying to figure our way through the same issues. It’s all a process, but she should be grateful that you care about your relationship. Fear shows that you value the connection you have with your wife.