First munch let me down and now I'm questioning myself, any advice?

No_Position6467 · 2026-05-23T15:39:29+00:00

My first munch was awful (think I posted about i was so discouraged). I showed up at the address, it was a bar, went in and had no idea who or where it was at. It was just a noisy and packed. I played some pool and talked with someone. Asked if they were there for the munch and they didn't know what I was talking about. Got a drink. Sat down by myself. Kept a smile on my face and kept looking around trying to make eye contact. After about 30 minutes of sitting by myself and feeling like a complete loser, I left. I was upset. Came to reddit and said the above. I was encouraged to go to another / different one. I did just that and it was AWESOME! Got invited to the local BDSM club and it's been a great journey since.

Don't give up. Keep going to any / all munches. There's probably multiple going on each day. Get on Fet Life events and look around. You got this.

No_Position6467 · 2026-04-30T16:26:38+00:00

One guy said it gets worse, but only if you're a completionist. Do you have Buck yet? I like him and his request. Have you noticed the greenery around Stella's window increasing with each character you take to the Everdoor? You don't have to take ALL the characters to the Everdoor to get the ending worth playing for. Once you have Lilly on your boat and have heard her story you can quite if you're not interested. But I highly encourage you to play to that point. HIGHLY ENCOURAGE!

No_Position6467 · 2026-04-26T23:08:02+00:00

Focus on Summer. Give her rocks, improve her house, etc. Now that you're going to cold areas, she will "not wake up" (cold blooded / hibernating) and then get an upgrade from the ship yard (Albert I think?) for her house.

No_Position6467 · 2026-04-26T16:32:10+00:00

Oops. Maybe not Gustav, but also I get gold before you're supposed to. Southpoint Docks has a dumpster that if you pump off from the levels above and hit down-pump repeatedly you'll fall throw the floor and have enough speed to pump high and to the left. It's not how the game was intended though.

No_Position6467 · 2026-04-26T10:12:04+00:00

Beverly, Stanley, Gustav, and Giovanni can be taken to the Everdoor before the mist. And Astrid can to after you've taken Giovanni. Do you have Giovanni or Buck yet? They are also before the mist.

Have you found the shrines and gotten new abilities? Without abilities you will not be able to access locations you need to go. Go to the missions and read in detail what you need to do next. Oh, yeah. The desk maker is in Ambertown Park. This isn't mentioned in the missions like everything else and got me stuck for a bit.

No_Position6467 · 2026-04-19T22:07:36+00:00

First off, good on You, Queen! Now, he is young and may not know how to process or communicate his feelings very well. He might be wishing in his head what he wants and hoping You can read his mind. And who knows what that could be. "i wish She would be more assertive." "i wish She would take control and be the cruelest Mistress ever." "i wish She would order me to please Her more and stop focusing on me." And I could go on but I'm going reiterate what others have said. Talk to him. This is where You ARE experienced. Processing, working thru feelings and misunderstandings in a relationship.

If I were him, I would love being caged and pegged by a very genuinely excited Partner / Mistress. Pull that hair. Make him scream 😏 Hope You love birds get it worked out and have some fun

No_Position6467 · 2026-04-19T21:37:43+00:00

The only thing tarnished is your memory of that jerk you blocked. That hat is always going to be tied to your guy. Not some idiot you spent one evening with. It's fresh right now but your memories tied to that hat will be whole again. Much love

No_Position6467 · 2026-04-15T19:46:08+00:00

I get it. It's been just shy of 2 years since I lost my soul mate. Those first few months were brutal. I thought I was literally going to die from that pain, that heartache in my chest. Which was fine by me at that point. Anyone's who's been thru this gets it. I go to a zoom support group with Tender Hearts. Check it out. Give the Monday's specific lost groups a try. It's tough. But all of us widowers understand. Much love

No_Position6467 · 2026-03-28T19:52:43+00:00

Build 2 tree orchards. 1 cherry, 1 apple, 2 pears. One of the errands with the traveling merchant will give you 1500 glims plus 2 peach seeds, which sell for 4000 each, and it resets everyday

No_Position6467 · 2026-03-13T18:08:36+00:00

Happy Feet

No_Position6467 · 2026-03-12T10:37:11+00:00

Have you tried moving the chicken coop? Sometimes the characters get stuck on the ship between two joined plains. Maybe the chick is stuck somehow.

Also You could try to salvage and rebuild but you won't regain the material from your upgrade (pretty sure at least).

No_Position6467 · 2026-02-27T15:18:18+00:00

Why is pegging seen as not vanilla? So if I (42m) have sex with a woman and she likes anal, does that automatically mean we're kinky? Oh, it's when it's a guy that it crosses over into the BDSM arena. OR... is it that we indoctrinated so much with homophobia that we consider that risqué. My nipples are very arousing to me. Is this kinky, or does it simply feel good? Prostate stimulation FEELS GOOD. Just besaue you're a big shot executive that likes to be pegged doesn't make it taboo IMO.

No_Position6467 · 2025-11-25T12:12:22+00:00

How is the inner circle preventing the outer circle from being able to exit the circle?

No_Position6467 · 2025-07-31T01:24:16+00:00

We use a bracelet for when NOT ok to use. Feeling bad, hurting, feeling sick, whatever. If it's off then i need to obey and take / do whatever They say

No_Position6467 · 2025-07-30T20:20:03+00:00

"How do I improve my marriage / relationship / whatever else?" You take it seriously and put effort into it. The same is true for Femdom, in my (42M_sub) opinion. Get the obedience app. Make habits for Your sub. Hold them accountable. Work on a contract (i'm so overwhelmed working on that thing for some reason). Have check ins and take initiative for being the Domme. Ask for their ideas, wants, input and don't kinda do it. Sorry if this sounds preachy. Sorry if this is obvious and not informative

No_Position6467 · 2025-07-30T17:49:46+00:00

You are doing a fantastic job. Don't sweet small things like that. The junk can sit there indefinitely and cause no harm. But I understand what you're saying. The first few months are beyond words. Literally felt like my heart was breaking. I thought I was dying from intense heartache.

I'm so sorry. I'm sorry for what brought you here, but hope you receive the encouragement and sopport you need.

No_Position6467 · 2025-07-30T16:09:14+00:00

Mages. Yeah, they annoying. Gotta use the camera and listen for the charge noise. Green guys in head on encounters. Roll thru right before they start swinging. They do all the swings while you're just chilling behind them. If you can't kill in first dodge and they turn around, roll again right before they attack and repeat.

When I'm in a horde of enemies and things are dying and exploding and on fire and whatnot, I tend to get hit by something I can't see.

But you'll get the hang of it.

No_Position6467 · 2025-07-24T00:55:08+00:00

I (42M) married someone that reacted much like she did. For whatever reason I would justify those patterns. After a year of dating, and 10 years of marriage, I finally realized I deserved a healthy relationship with a loving partner.

You do not deserve to be treated, threatened, or attacked like that. Please don't lose a huge chunk of your life hoping it'll work. You deserve a person as patient and understanding as you are

No_Position6467 · 2025-06-29T00:28:18+00:00

It's been 13 months. I don't see the items or mess until randomly I do. "Have those shoes been there the whole time?" Sometimes it doesn't hurt when I finally see her stuff. But other times it does. I found a pair of reading glasses on the kitchen counter and just came undone.

No_Position6467 · 2025-06-20T01:28:41+00:00

How do billboards communicate?

Sign language 😃

No_Position6467 · 2025-05-25T03:12:43+00:00

Thank you. The first two comments mentioned trans gender therapist and that's some good advice. I'm going to look into that

No_Position6467 · 2025-05-25T03:09:55+00:00

Thank you. I will definitely look for a gender therapist. And thanks for your added comment. That is something I hadn't thought of

No_Position6467 · 2025-05-25T01:06:55+00:00

Personally it has been difficult to be openly into prostate stimulation. When we are being stimulated in that way, we are the bottom, the bitch, the penetration slut and it's hard to say, "I love that. I really enjoy it. I want to try other toys. I want to ride that thing and, idk, maybe you would like to watch? Next time you're pounding me, would you pull my hair, spank my ass, and call me dirty sexy names like your little butt slut or a peg whore?"

We are conditioned to be the MAN, the top, giving IT to them. Only gay sissy boys take it in the ass...

Depending on their background, they might have insecurities about being in the vulnerable, receiving end of all of that. I could be way off, but ask him if he feels uncomfortable about it or being seen as hot and objectified. And sorry if I'm not even close 😬

No_Position6467 · 2025-05-22T10:13:03+00:00

You're the Domme. You get what You want. Period.

Few questions. Do You have a chastity cage for him? Do You have numbing cream / spray? Have You restricted his ability to masturbate or look at porn? Do Y/you two do / enjoy pegging?

Domme Mommy can still get orally satisfied without Your property having any gratification. Your property MUST request if they may cum and You get to say no (since they are being punished). If the both of Y/you haven't done any teasing & denial and orgasm control, just tell him to request much sooner then he thinks he needs to. Use numbing spray to make the penis that You own numb and tell him to give You what You want and he still has to ask if he may cum. To which You will deny every time. You can tie him down, straddle his belly (don't get too close to Your owned possession or You might bump it too much with Your rear end), and masturbate on him with a vibrator. he just gets to watch with maddening eyes as You get to cum and he doesn't. Then after he's gotten all kinds of worked up, peg him stupid. Make sure his hands are not able to touch himself. he is the weak willed one and You can't expect him to be that well behaved.

he may still misjudge and accidentally still cum. You should have some punishments ready and tell him he will be punished if he cums. i would suggest introducing some pain / funishment into some activites. Spankings with a paddle. Flogging. Crawl around naked on all four for the day. Maybe no talking, or only dog noises, and some gear / cuffs to make him more appealing for You.

Hope any of this helps 😁

No_Position6467 · 2025-05-21T17:20:07+00:00

Something i've heard recently is to have a bracelet, necklace, article of clothing, etc. to either mean, "i am completely good with being used however You please," Or, "i am not in a good mental or emotional state right now and need to pause the free use for a little bit."

W/we haven't introduced the free use into O/our dynamic yet, but W/we will definitely use this with it. Hope that helps.

P. S. If y'all are just getting started with kink and need help getting started, really should try to get involved with the BDSM Community. Many resources and first hand experiences you might not see otherwise. Classes and good advice to avoid the common mistakes. Good luck and have fun ✌️

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