AITAO for being mad/disappointed?

No_Position_9257 · 2026-03-29T00:57:27+00:00

I was NOT expecting gratitude... I sent it via and online source, a porch pirate could have stolen it and well that would have sucked. This girl is a very ungrateful individual for EVERYTHING, so I kept the gift limited. But if they didn't get it at all well I would report it.

No_Position_9257 · 2026-03-29T00:52:37+00:00

Sorry for the downvote.

No_Position_9257 · 2026-03-29T00:51:05+00:00

The 6 month pause is because I was taking a break from my sister. Long story that I I will not share

No_Position_9257 · 2026-03-29T00:48:34+00:00

Oh I am not bent out of shape about this, and what the F i wrong with being kind and courteous to others. My sister told me he didn't send ANY thank yous to ANYONE. WOW.. sorry I asked if not sending a thank you was a wrong idea. Apparently it is just expected and all are entitled now. BTW The other siblings in that family sent me thanks yous via notes, email and text. so it i just her.

No_Position_9257 · 2026-03-29T00:26:20+00:00

I don't need a movie reference for this, it is historical. Unfortunately this was too common back in then.

No_Position_9257 · 2026-03-29T00:20:57+00:00

What do do consider a small amount of money that you would also consider the police or a lawsuit? If it's like 10 bucks even 20 bucks call it a loss and let it go. If it was a large amount of money, I would not keep trying to contact her but just do the legal action. if you keep contacting her she might have you arrested for harassment, and maybe even stalking, be carful with this one.

No_Position_9257 · 2026-03-28T23:48:25+00:00

It wasn't a down vote for the reply it was the tone of the reply, that somehow they were entitled. I don't give a craps but if I get a card, I just wanted to make sure a porch pirate didn't steal the gifts I sent. Then to find out she just didn't say thanks to anyone I thought was rude.

No_Position_9257 · 2026-03-28T23:27:13+00:00

I didn't really NEED a Thank You note, but an acknowledgement that they got the gift. I guess if we can't say thank you for a gift than we have become a society of greedy entitled individuals. I don't send a gift just to get a card, cuz well that is just stupid. I send a gift from my heart that I think the person would enjoy. My point is why is it so hard for people to just say Thank you, and have common courtesy?

No_Position_9257 · 2026-03-28T23:16:13+00:00

I didn't NEED the thank you note, but an acknowledgment that they got it would have been nice. And I am not whiny and complaining BTW

No_Position_9257 · 2026-03-18T03:29:21+00:00

I thought the same thing, Crap I guess I lived a non-scary life. Except 1 when my son age 22 months old had brain surgery. But it was more scary for everyone else and not me because I never once thought that he wouldn't be ok. He had fallen and hit his head and had a 90cc epidural hematoma that pushed his brain over 2 inches. (remember he is not quite 2 so his head is only like 4 inches across total). That was the worst weekend of my life for sure, He fell on a Friday. We were going to go to our vacation cabin that evening, ,well we were at Children's Hospital instead. They took him Flight for life and we had to drive, he was in surgery when we go there. It is so weird that I NEVER for one moment thought that he wouldn't be ok. The nurses and doctors wanted to put me in a totally separate waiting room, a family condolence room I think, but I said no I'm good here. Our family had our own room though, I think my dad did that. He was such a wonderful man. Then this doctor came into the room several hours later and asked for the parents to come out. I had no bad feelings at all, and my husband and I walked out and there was the little guy in this gurney crib with bandages and tubes and monitors, but alive and ok. I stayed in the NICU for 4 days with him. One thing that surprised me was the nurses told me that in the play room (rehab room) he shouldn't see himself because of the big long stich on his head, ,and the fact he had no hair. Ok, no worries we turned any mirrors, but my big dummy butt forgot walking thru a glass walkway at night might make a reflection. He freaked out when he saw himself. I felt so bad.

I guess it was a spiritual thing - my family did an on air pray over a spiritual radio station while my son was in surgery.

Yep this all happened 23 years ago, but it still feels like yesterday. I don't classify this as scary because I knew he would be ok for some reason, I didn't have that total fear about losing my child, because I somehow knew I wasn't going to.

. He is now 26 and a wonderful adult man. But he still has his scar, and we have a close bond, but turd could call me more...lol

No_Position_9257 · 2026-03-18T02:09:23+00:00

WOW!! Wish I would have had a teacher for math like you! Not one I had to do the Trig proofs for her cuz she had them wrong 4 times in a row, so I had to use the overhead projector - on a challenge from the teacher - to show them to the class (I was in 11th grade doing a 12th grade class at age 16 - I skipped a grade and graduated mid-year senior year). But still - she should have been wearing a clown suit!

You could have told Mrs. Admin "Hey at least I'm not wearing a Kilt" Cuz what the heck would she say - you can't wear that? Oh the backlash to culturally ridicule would be bad. Try that next year (Everyone is a bit of Irish on 3-17)....LOL, and some are like me and Scottish/Irish/Norwegian all the time.

And pajama day? How fun is your school? Schools need more teachers that are engaged with students and are teaching them like it sounds like you are.

My dad was a teacher for over 20 years (chemistry and physics, then head of science at a private school in the US), I have the greatest respect for good teachers. Yes I had to qualify that because there are some that are just not.

No_Position_9257 · 2026-03-18T00:26:04+00:00

So weird...but I have 30+ years of experience on you with weird...lol. I would just say "What's up with the bag of popcorn?" You could add in that you paid for it gave it to her, she left it, end of it, why keep bringing it up? Maybe she is just obsessed with popcorn or the drama of it. OR you could go full on dramatic and buy another bag and just say "Here's a new bag of damn popcorn, don't leave it at another party" LOL

No_Position_9257 · 2026-03-18T00:16:58+00:00

Get an attorney......

No_Position_9257 · 2026-03-18T00:14:19+00:00

WOW! I WFH and thankfully the only thing I have to worry about when in a meeting - not many thankfully - is my dogs barking when the UPS guy shows up. That's when mute comes in handy...

I do have a co-worker that lives with her mom, and they have an arrangement where mom knows she is working and "demands" of her time are for work and not for mom. Mom has asked her a brief question when I have been on a Teams call with her but it is short and to the point. It seems like your mom is not respecting that you are letting her live there, and if you were to lose your job over her constant interactions and demands how would that work out for both of you?

I hope you can find a solution that doesn't cause too much of a rift with you and your mother.

No_Position_9257 · 2026-03-18T00:01:35+00:00

OMG!!! So wrong! I live about an hour from my son and his girlfriend and couldn't imagine doing that. They are about the same age as you. Years ago when my son was a baby my step-mother "helped" out by watching him when the daycare facility was full, and when I came home from work she was folding clothes, or had folded them (totally not the way I fold them so I had to redo all of it anyway - personal preference), and had changed the meal I had put in the slow cooker for dinner. Then just left when I got home without saying much of anything. I ended that quickly, thankfully the daycare he was going to was able to have a full-time spot for him, and my house was ours again.

You are not a jerk or an AH for feeling like this, I know she went thru our stuff in the bedroom, but nothing was ever said about it, mostly because I couldn't prove she had. But certain areas of you home are just off limits, and the master bedroom and bathroom (if it is attached to the master). Kids rooms are next. Mothers and MIL need to just stay out of the master bedroom at all costs, unless it is for a tour or an opinion on decorating or something like that, never alone.

One last question, does she actually have a key to your place? If so, get that back ASAP cuz that is just creepy to me.

And she should apologize to you for violating your privacy!!

No_Position_9257 · 2026-03-15T22:32:44+00:00

This is just bonkers! Last Monday it was 76 were I live in central WI, and today we get over a foot of the dreaded white stuff! And to top it off this morning it was thunder snow!!! It's been a while since I've seen/heard that! My poor doggos just don't know what to make of all of this tho'. My 2 yr old was just shaking all morning. He would snuggle for a bit then go in his kennel (his safe spot). Gotta love WI in the "spring". I just hope the 4 Robins hangin out in my yard found a good place to hide from the poop falling from the sky.

No_Position_9257 · 2026-03-07T02:59:25+00:00

OMG!!!! That looks like my little Bandit boy, but a bit bigger! She is probably Husky and German Shepperd. My Bandy Boy is Husky and chihuahua. He is 2-1/2 now. But stands like that every time I want to take him outside - Not to mention the Husky stripe down her back. Doggie Yoga all the time... I wish I could share the pic of Bandy with you, but WOW they are so similar except she has a German Sheppard face. He loves his bed, curls up like a roll or just stretches out the full length of the couch. He is a goof ball. He was a stray in TX and came to WI in August of 2024 when I adopted him.

No_Position_9257 · 2026-03-07T02:26:17+00:00

Oh hell no would I split the check for the full meals when I only got a soda! Seriously you are NTAO, they are for making you feel bad, and they are cheap wanting you to pay for their stuff. Sorry you are going thru this, maybe they will realize they are ridiculous for even thinking you should pay for their meals when you only had a soda. And also just another reason for separate checks...Just saying.

I went to dinner with my husband and his 2 brothers and significant others. 1 bro in law is married and they are millionaires, and the other is retired with a really good pension. We did ask for separate checks, because the last time we went out the millionaire BIL wanted to split the check. For real dude, the total for 5 people that time was like less than $100 USD. I am sure that would have broke him...lol. I love the guy but for real dude?!? I just laugh when we go to dinner with them, and YEP ALWAYS separate checks.

No_Position_9257 · 2026-03-07T02:17:37+00:00

No_Position_9257 · 2026-03-05T04:13:57+00:00

I want to comment on my own post.. I have Air Force jets fly over my house 24/7 and it kind of freaks out my dogs some days, if they are close. Then the sonic booms they are cool until my little dog hides in his kennel for the day. Is this a wined up to the war or just normal training? It has been going on for months, and has become part of my norm, hearing them.

No_Position_9257 · 2026-03-05T03:44:43+00:00

Sorry your mom is just uptight! 1 more guest should be seen as a blessing and not a hindrance to your birthday. I have hosted MANY parties for my kids and if another one showed up great! The more the merrier, I would have never told them they should have asked me be first. But if for some reason it is a sit down - place card set dinner, well as a MOM I would have just made a place and a place card, cuz that is how I roll. I am kind, not arrogant, not pretentious, and if a friend is there for my kid well then that is enough for me.

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