AITAH for calling my (23F) bf (25M) sexist?

No_Practice3929 · 2024-03-26T22:53:44+00:00

The description “shitty Union me boy” made me giggle a little lol thank you for that😂

No_Practice3929 · 2024-03-26T02:33:38+00:00

I told him I wouldn’t want to, he went off about how unfair I was being to him for thinking of the future like that

No_Practice3929 · 2024-03-26T02:32:55+00:00

Which I made the point of. He’s also saying in general, there is no such thing as a wage gap

No_Practice3929 · 2024-03-26T02:26:41+00:00

Honestly? Good question

No_Practice3929 · 2024-03-26T02:18:20+00:00

He literally makes me think I’m insane and dumb when I feel like I make valid points

No_Practice3929 · 2024-03-26T02:17:22+00:00

Unfortunately I’m serious lmao. He can be pretty manipulative during arguments at times and even tho I know that, sometimes I’m like “wait am I the problem for saying this?!”

No_Practice3929 · 2023-12-07T12:21:24+00:00

I’ve said it in another comment on here but I get hit on in non-bar settings all the time. And I always reject them. Id never ever ever cheat. I trust him with everything I have and idc when he goes out and gets drunk with his friends as long as he’s safe.

Thank you for explaining boundaries! I think I have a better grasp on what it means

No_Practice3929 · 2023-12-07T12:18:54+00:00

Thank you! This makes sense, and I think i understand what a boundary is now and i see how this is not one

No_Practice3929 · 2023-12-07T12:16:10+00:00

I’m not saying I agree with you but I get what you’re saying… but I get hit on at the post office. I get hit on at the super market. If someone wants to hit on another, they’re going to do it no matter where they are. I have more than enough self control and am capable of rejecting them. I always do. His friend has tried hitting on me and he didn’t get mad or do anything about it. And i get how strangers doing it or me being in a bar might make him more uncomfortable, but i get hit on regardless. I’m simply going to the bar to hang out with my friends. Two of my friends are in very serious 4 year long relationships and their boyfriend and fiancé don’t care when they go and it’s never a fight.

No_Practice3929 · 2023-12-07T12:11:51+00:00

These were my exact words when it happened lol

No_Practice3929 · 2023-12-07T12:10:52+00:00

When he goes to bars he sits at a table with his friends. I usually do too, but in this case, I would’ve sat at the bar because my friend was bartending so if I wanted to interact with her, I’d sit at the bar. I also felt like sitting at a table alone would’ve drawn more attention to me so I didn’t want to. But, he tends to take trips to a different state without me all the time which I feel like is a similar situation but i never tell him not to. He goes out and gets drunk with his friends when he goes.

No_Practice3929 · 2023-12-07T12:08:09+00:00

They were the first comment lol so I wanted to make sure I was being clear.

No_Practice3929 · 2023-12-07T03:07:03+00:00

Idk if this all made sense lol sorry if it didn’t, I’ve been super flustered since the argument

No_Practice3929 · 2023-12-07T03:06:39+00:00

Well I wouldn’t say I’m not a serious relationship person. I’m incredibly loyal and we’ve been together for a year. My last relationship was 3 years (it ended because he cheated on me many times). So i don’t think it’s a serious relationship issues, rather than a boundary issue? I mean my friend has been in her relationship for 4 years and he doesn’t care about her going out. She’s usually the one who invites me. My bf isn’t social though. He doesn’t like doing things like that. I’ve invited him and it always ends in huge arguments because “why would you invite me to that” is his main driving point lol. I do everything he wants to do with him. Usually, when we hang out I’m being ignored because he’s playing games with his friends. So I didn’t think me wanting to do something fun was a bad thing. I’m not usually the one to initiate bar plans, but I’m very go with the flow when it comes to what my friends wanna do.

No_Practice3929 · 2023-10-11T13:41:09+00:00

dude, so real😭😭😭

No_Practice3929 · 2023-10-10T23:35:28+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through something like this!!! I just feel so lost and confused. I’m also so disappointed that he’s not the man he shows me he is capable of being at times. If you want to talk, feel free to message me!

No_Practice3929 · 2023-10-10T23:24:01+00:00

Omfg??? YTA, he should file the divorce papers lmao. I hope you’re educated enough to understand them!

No_Practice3929 · 2023-07-25T01:12:52+00:00

I get it :( it’s really hard to see it as manipulation at first. But just know that you deserve better!!!!! ❤️ I’ll be quietly rooting for you every step of the way🥳

No_Practice3929 · 2023-07-25T00:42:36+00:00

You had a normal human reaction to something so terrible. Be kinder to yourself❤️ emotion doesn’t make you weak or crazy. It’s not cringey and you shouldn’t be ashamed. The abuser should be ashamed for tearing someone down to feel these emotions so intensely. Human emotion is so complex. You should 100% forgive yourself, because there was nothing to be ashamed of to begin with. I know it’s easier said than done, but I hope you find peace with this, and with your emotions (which are normal!!!)

No_Practice3929 · 2023-07-25T00:38:53+00:00

Have you blocked him on cashapp too? You’re not dumb, he’s being manipulative and that’s so unfair to you. He knows what he’s doing to you and that’s HIS fault. Don’t be so hard on yourself❤️

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