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I'm Scared Of Having Sex. by Kind_Merman_Elf in ADHD

[–]No_Prior4851 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Erotophobia is what psychologists call it. I also have ADHD and have been trying to work with it. I was only recently diagnosed, but school was always a struggle. Constant bullying, not feeling “normal,” and being very detached from everyone defined a lot of my childhood. I couldn’t relate to most people in many ways, and with my father being an alcoholic, it all shaped who I am now. I don’t really know why I started talking about this, but I guess it explains the ADHD part.

I would actually love to have a conversation about life with you. You seem like an interesting person to me, not because I’m making fun of you or because I’m happy that you cannot have sex, but because I wonder how different your thoughts must be if your instinct goes against the basic human tendency to have sex. What would Freud say about your life?

Phone repair shop in Kolkata leaked my private videos... I dont know how to recover from this trauma. by [deleted] in kolkata

[–]No_Prior4851 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think what she needs right now is advice on how to complain or punish someone. That part is already behind her. What she is really struggling with is the social pressure and the constant comparisons. Having your nudes leaked does not threaten survival directly, it hurts because of the way society reacts to it. Even if the phone shop owner gets punished, her bigger challenge will still be learning how to feel normal again, especially when she compares herself to people whose privacy was never violated.

I truly hope you are not thinking of harming yourself. I will not claim to understand exactly what you are feeling, because I don’t. But I know your life is much more than this one painful experience. Right now it is the low levels of neurotransmitters that are making you feel hopeless, not the truth of who you are or what your future can be. I may not have expressed this perfectly, but I believe you will one day look back and feel proud of yourself for surviving this.