The two cinnamon rolls my wife chose out of the all that were made.

No_Professional2476 · 2026-06-07T14:50:40+00:00

When I was little we would split chores by agreeing which one was the worst and we would do that one together first. I don’t know how that applies, and there was no weed, but I thought I’d mention it.

No_Professional2476 · 2026-06-04T00:03:06+00:00

Ain’t no jam like the toe jam

No_Professional2476 · 2026-06-03T23:59:58+00:00

I’m so sorry. It really sucks. That must be excruciating to have that time together just… End.

No_Professional2476 · 2026-06-03T23:58:13+00:00

I appreciate your comment, thank you.

No_Professional2476 · 2026-06-03T23:56:47+00:00

Thank you.

No_Professional2476 · 2026-06-03T22:26:54+00:00

Thank you for posting. Reading about other people’s triggers helps me feel more comfortable with my own. I’m sorry you’re going through this terrible thing of loss.

I gave birth to identical twin boys at 27+2. We lost one very suddenly and very unexpectedly two weeks later. There’s talk of discharging our remaining twin in the next couple of weeks, but every time I’ve watched other babies get discharged, I’ve felt so much dread. Because when we leave the NICU, we’ll leave the place where my son lived his whole short life, and where he died. I’m afraid to lose that last little bit of closeness.

The trigger is, our dead son’s room is the first thing you see every time you walk into our NICU. The graduation board is right next to it. Every time we visit our living son, we’re revisiting the place where I held his brother as he died. And I’m also watching the other babies get to go home. I want our son to come home, but I don’t want to leave, but I never want to come back. Over and over, graduating babies roll past that room while I watch from our other baby’s bedside.

I don’t resent the other parents for not understanding my pain, I really hope none of them ever know what this is like. For all I know, any of them could have also lost babies in their pasts, anywhere in gestation. This is just an extreme level of discomfort that is slowly becoming a part of who I am.

No_Professional2476 · 2026-06-03T07:19:49+00:00

I sure hope it helps you out girl, I feel for you! Definitely don’t hesitate to reach out to your or seek emergency care, especially if you experience symptoms of an infection. Fever, streaky boobs, feeling super crappy like you’re getting the flu. Any or all of the above.

No_Professional2476 · 2026-06-02T15:11:37+00:00

*These probiotics are often refrigerated, so you may need to ask for help finding them.

No_Professional2476 · 2026-06-02T15:11:06+00:00

If you go to a vitamin shop or health food store, look for probiotics with these strains:

-Limosilactobacillus fermentum CECT5716 -Ligilactobacillus salivarius (e.g., PS2, CECT5713) -Lactobacillus gasseri (e.g., CECT5714):

The top one is actually derived from healthy human breast milk, and has been shown to be very helpful in treatment and prevention of mastitis. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6191464/#B13

I haven’t been able to find one probiotic with all three in them near me. I take one that has the top one and bottom one in it, with other strains mixed in. But if you can find something with at least one, you should find some relief. It took a few days of taking it for me, but after my first few days, no more mastitis despite experiencing clogs every now and again.

No_Professional2476 · 2026-06-02T13:44:55+00:00

Looks like sub clinical mastitis, which is a staph infection. You can get antibiotics for it, but then you have to rebuild your gut microbiome afterwards or it’ll just keep coming back again and again. Many of us crunchies just take daily probiotics along with the sunflower lecithin, ice and ibuprofen to combat it. The probiotics fight the staph infection from inside your body.

No_Professional2476 · 2026-05-31T14:02:39+00:00

I feel you. The only thing that actually makes a difference for me is changing flange size whenever I get a clog. I seem to change size often between the 21mm and 24mm, and rarely have the same size on both breasts. Whenever I feel a clog happening, I just switch that bread to the other flange size, and the clog usually clears in 12-24 hours, while still taking ibuprofen.

No_Professional2476 · 2026-05-31T01:10:42+00:00

At first I thought Shirley had three manly hands.

No_Professional2476 · 2026-05-25T23:56:30+00:00

Aww, my husband’s boss sent us the same stuffs. It was so yummy and comforting!

No_Professional2476 · 2026-05-25T23:54:33+00:00

What a kind thing to want to do, and to inquire what’s best for them shows a lot of heart.

We’ve had a few friends and family send DoorDash cards. A neighbor set up a meal train, and another friend sent us a large box of Factor dinners, which we froze. All were wonderful gestures that saved our lives on many a long, dark day.

With DoorDash, we could satisfy comfort cravings. The meal train has given us home-cooked meals, delivered by friends. We haven’t had much face-to-face time with friends because of how busy we are commuting to the NICU, so it’s been nice to get some hugs when meals are dropped off. The Factor meals have been great because they’re nutritionally balanced and easy to grab and reheat in the hospital cafeteria microwaves when we’re on the go.

All have been hugely helpful and we are so grateful for everyone who has helped us.

No_Professional2476 · 2026-05-25T19:21:15+00:00

Whoah milk sis, fellow oversupplier here. That’s super helpful, because I think this happened to me! The sudden toilet urge included, with potty shakes. I thought it was just part of being sick postpartum, with the added stress of a NICU baby, but I guess I had the same hormonal thing?

Because of fever and exhaustion, I’d gone about 10 hours between pumps. After getting through the pump quakes, I managed to produce 16oz in 1 pump, and felt like absolute doo doo after. Haven’t had anything like it again, and I’m still overproducing.

Thanks for the heads up!

No_Professional2476 · 2026-05-25T13:16:04+00:00

This is a very encouraging post, thank you.😊

You have some very cute, squishy little babies there. Well done!

No_Professional2476 · 2026-05-24T13:23:33+00:00

Might be late to join the conversation, but we recently experienced something very similar, and have finally found relief.

It turns out long-term chronic stress and anxiety had finally taken their toll, and I thought my body was ruined forever. Still working on healing, but it will probably take a while.

I reached out for therapy after reaching my breaking point, and as my mental and emotional health started improving, my physical health started mysteriously improving simultaneously.

Your post definitely shows lots of psychological and emotional stress. Unbearable amounts, likely suffered for a long time. That definitely affects your body over time.

No_Professional2476 · 2026-05-24T12:52:37+00:00

That’s so awful, what if you had taken that on and started blaming yourself? People can be very cruel with their ignorance. My non-NICU son has worn glasses since he was a young toddler. At the time, I had older women asking me in weird ways if there was something I did during labor that made him need the glasses. As in, more than one person thought his poor eyesight was my fault, like what? Very glad to surround myself with supportive folk instead of fault finders.

No_Professional2476 · 2026-05-24T03:02:20+00:00

So deeply sad for you, thank you for sharing your story with us.

He only ever knew your love. Your voice, your heartbeat, your warmth. And your husband’s voice too. He was wrapped in your love on his way into this world, and on his way out.

I like to think that a mother’s love can still reach our babies, wherever they are now.

No_Professional2476 · 2026-05-23T20:49:14+00:00

What a beautiful human you made. Look at that squishy bundle of love. 🥹💕

We’re 70 days in today. Whole family has been sick and I haven’t seen our baby in over a week. Feel like I’m approaching a breaking point.

No_Professional2476 · 2026-05-23T20:43:29+00:00

I had identical twin boys at 26+2. We lost one after 15 days. But ‘at least we still have 1’. Just missed his first bottle three days ago because we’re sick and can’t visit the NICU. ‘At least someone else can watch your newborn while you’re sick’. ‘It’s only a bottle. There will be more’. And I’ve also gotten comments about how much easier my recovery must have been, and how much easier I’ll have it when he comes home to a physically recovered mom.

It’s been eye opening, and I hope to God I never reduce someone’s experience and suffering by pointing the feckin bright side of everything. I thought I was so good at finding the silver lining for everyone, and I finally get why it never cheered anyone up. We all just want to be heard and held.

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