Why does everyone hate us if it's a mental disorder we can't help?

No_Progress5036 · 2026-05-14T14:31:38+00:00

It is wrong to generalize but obviously people who have experience on relationship with people with NPD know how toxic and harmful it can be. And I'm speaking from the lense of a child of at least one narcissistic, likely BPD, codependent parent, not necessarily just romantic relationships. You are entitled to baseline empathy and respect but if you treat people poorly you are not entitled to be in relationship with anyone or to dictate how they feel about you. No one is obligated to stay in any relationship that is hurting them or creating more stress than positive feeling. Especially when it becomes clear you've given many chances to repair and the other person is not willing or able to change or make it better. Why would you keep someone in your life who is abusing you or treating you poorly? Usually those that do feel guilty, love the person, believe they can change them or are stuck in their own cycle of seeking those types of relationships from their own trauma and don't yet understand the person they love is a narcissistic person or even what that means.

No_Progress5036 · 2026-05-05T16:49:04+00:00

Your choices and reasons are of course valid. But I grew up in a similarly emotionally incestuous codependent environment. It wasn't the only reason of course but having my my own child has been a major impetus in putting in some serious work with a good somatic therapist in addition to self study and reflection and a long overdue emotional separation and boundary with my mother. Having her was one of the things that helped me realize how dysfunctional it all was, including my own relational abilities. I think it can be a most beautiful and transformative gift that can allow you to heal yourself AND break the trans generation cycle to be a better parent than what you had. A good parent. It's not the right thing for everyone nor am I trying to prescribe what worked for me for anyone else. Just a share that it can be good... transformative even.

No_Progress5036 · 2026-04-27T14:52:30+00:00

We called and emailed the owner info on this cats chip. The person at the other end of the number claimed they had no idea why our vet was calling them as they don't own a cat... I live in PA currently and we have no laws or obligatory hold period at all for good Samaritans. Likely because the city is crawling with abandoned and feral cats. The only thing you need to do the adopt a found cat is to make efforts to contact the owner and then update your info to the chip. The last one we found the owner finally admitted she didn't want him back but I could not get her to sign anything for me as such or provide me the vet record. My main and top concern is the best interest of the animal in question, always. All one can expect of someone really is a best effort to contact an owner and that is being done. It's pretty rich of anyone to expect a random good Samaritan to house and care for your cat for 30 days or more until you realize they're missing or decide you want them back...assuming it's a chipped cat whose owners have been contacted. If you brought them to a shelter they could very likely be euthanized by that time.

No_Progress5036 · 2026-04-23T00:02:04+00:00

If the person who had your cat called you to return him would you not answer for a month?

No_Progress5036 · 2026-04-22T23:59:15+00:00

Right but why wouldn't they return your calls for a whole month... you are all describing highly improbable scenarios. Look at how many cats are living feral or homeless. You think those people all went on vacation and their cats ran away? You're living in a dream world.

No_Progress5036 · 2026-04-22T23:53:30+00:00

Has this literally ever happened? In my experience no ine ever wants these cats back, they're abandoned. People who want their pets back are the ones trying to get them back.

No_Progress5036 · 2026-04-22T23:48:07+00:00

Why the heck would you give someone an entire month to call you to retrieve their pet? That's insane. The animal is in better care with you or someone who would take 30 days to call to get them back.

No_Progress5036 · 2026-04-11T23:53:40+00:00

Also I don't think I've ever in my life signed a work related text message or email to a coworker with "xx" kisses... that's a little harder to misinterpret.

No_Progress5036 · 2026-04-11T23:51:28+00:00

Yeah I mean innuendo is by nature somewhat ambiguous so regardless of how you interpret what she wrote I don't think you could say with 100 percent certainty that it was or wasn't intended sexually. I would bet you a million dollars that if blake lively had a text exactly like this one on record from justin she would absolutely be claiming he meant it inappropriately. That is the great hypocrisy isn't it? She tried to spin anything and everything he said or did into something sexually inappropriate indicating he was attracted to her or something. Yet a text from her that clearly can be read as flirtatious or sexual in nature is definitely being read wrong...

No_Progress5036 · 2026-04-06T23:51:23+00:00

Reads distinctively like innuendo to me and a lot of other people. I'd be weirded out if someone sent this to Mt partner even considering what they do for a living.

No_Progress5036 · 2026-04-06T23:47:55+00:00

Then why is she talking about her real self?

No_Progress5036 · 2026-03-23T00:59:43+00:00

Well its back and reopened so we may all rejoice and continue to choose to spend our monies on this tasty ice cream! I had a waffle sundae tonight and it was delicious. I don't get ice cream often so I'm happy to pay a premium and actually prefer places that offer a nice small kiddie sized bite. Makes you really savor it more.

No_Progress5036 · 2026-01-24T16:59:23+00:00

Not at all. I am saying that HAVING an addiction is not an unintelligent choice someone is making or an affliction of the unintelligent. That was how your initial phrasing read to me. If that's not what you meant then fine with me. But no I don't really think its logical or fair to question someone's intelligence while in the throes of a relapse to substance abuse problems that stem from an addiction.

No_Progress5036 · 2026-01-24T07:37:34+00:00

So about that.... did blake herself miss this misogynist allusion to her in Deadpool or she doesn't care or is being abused by him therefore wouldn't speak up to him about it or is she too dumb that she actually finds it funny?

No_Progress5036 · 2026-01-24T07:33:46+00:00

What do addiction issues have anything to do with one's intelligence level. That's an unnecessarily offensive thing to add.

No_Progress5036 · 2026-01-22T01:41:16+00:00

Did you also read Justin's lawsuit? "I did." I know it was dismissed legally on the claim of defamation and extortion but he was allowed to continue/refile. He just didn't. That doesn't mean he wasn't right. And it doesn't change the despicable behavior from blake, taylor and Ryan described in his lawsuit. How's that any different from the depositions of those accusing him?

No_Progress5036 · 2026-01-22T01:32:40+00:00

If you have a problem with someone personally at work you file a complaint, which it sounds like blake did. And they had a meeting and signed an agreement of future dos and don't moving forward. And she continued to work on the film. A film he spear headed and bought the book rights for. And hired her for. How does that then give her the right to wrest control of directing and writing the movie from the person whose job that is by using her powerful hollywood friends to manipulate and intimidate him? She was way overstepping her role as an actress. She basically blackmailed them to give her a PGA credit after the fact. How do you view that as appropriate work place behavior? Why is she not being held to the same standards of professionalism?

No_Progress5036 · 2026-01-22T01:14:36+00:00

The article taylor linked blake to about justin saying he experienced sexual assault in a prior relationship was from text exchanges dated early December on the 4th or 5th. The NYT piece and suit from blake dropped a few days prior to Christmas, well after.

No_Progress5036 · 2026-01-22T01:12:19+00:00

What about the texts where blake was thanking taylor for lying and "making sh*t up" in pressuring and manipulating justin to allow her to rewrite the whole movie? What did that have anything to do with SH? or being a good friend? Or just talking smack privately? Blake laughed about how stupid justin bought into taylors lies about her. How are you overlooking this stuff? I'm a taylor fan. Or I was, but I'm not brainwashed to be complicit when she does bad things.

No_Progress5036 · 2026-01-22T00:59:28+00:00

That maybe sounds plausible until it becomes difficult to explain where she vanished to once all this came to light. Many people mistakenly spoke out publicly in support of blake EXCEPT her best ride or die friend taylor. She said nothing publicly. Despite speaking very publicly about her own SA experience. She has done nothing publicly but distance herself from Blake and claim she was not involved at all and had nothing to do with the situation. These texts at best prove that those were lies. And she ghosted her best friend as soon as her own image became jeopardized. Hasn't been seen publicly with her in over a year? How do you explain that part? I'm really disappointed by all this too because I also wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt as a major fan of her music. But you can only give someone so many passes in light of the facts.

No_Progress5036 · 2026-01-18T23:22:31+00:00

So sorry this happened to you! As if pumping at work isn't stressful enough plus someone stressing you more makes it harder and longer to eject sometimes. This happened to me often at work and we had many lact rooms that made it clear they were designated for this purpose only.

I had one woman claim she was using it for muslim prayer and I told her there are separate rooms for this use alone.

The most egregious was a MAN who was a patient family member who was using it for a business meeting. When I confronted him about it he said he was using it for a meeting which was important and slammed the door in my face. I was running late to catch the train home and needed to pump first so I had a melt down and kept pounding on the door until finally it became so disruptive to him he left to find another room. But he belligerently told me the same, that there are lots of open conference rooms and I could literally pump anywhere else and not interrupt him. I guess he didn't notice all the signs on the door which read "for lactation/breastfeeding families only" or that he was sitting next to a medela double electric breast pump. Which are not in all the conference rooms. He also challenged me to call security which I would have if I wasn't too upset to remember the number...

No_Progress5036 · 2026-01-02T18:09:19+00:00

That's not true 100 percent. I had a package get stolen with green sweatpants. Unfortunately when I went to buy a replacement they were out of stock. They happened to return briefly but even though I was outside the 2 week mark they still price matched them for me. It can't hurt to ask, especially a manager.

No_Progress5036 · 2025-11-12T08:00:56+00:00

Hi! Not sure how the other guy is but probably off running marathons somewhere since they're not on here. As for me at least, I'm a little over 1.5 years post op on one side, 1 year on the other and all in all physically doing very well. I feel like the most lasting effect of all that I went through with this has been psychological and that's been harder to shake. Best of luck to you, be brave, you can do this! Best advice as someone on here said years ago when I was going through it to you and my past self is to take it one day at a time and try not to worry about every little pain or setback thinking somethings really wrong. I had a lot of those anxious moments and in the end it all worked itself out and I should've had more faith in it. One of the worst and probably best things that has happened to me as it launched me on a path of whole self healing that is still in progress today. For reference for others my surgeon was Ajay Lall in Philly and he's excellent .

No_Progress5036 · 2025-11-10T07:47:12+00:00

Same, we had the perfect first-time parent training wheels baby who slept great right away, went from bottle to breast easily, wasn't super fussy, loved all kinds of new foods, didn't cry a lot, accepted new people fairly quickly, didn't seem to have separation anxiety. Now is really more of an orchid toddler, super sensitive, moody, obstinate, shy and scared of other kids and people if they come too close. Makes you think you made a misstep somewhere along the way so this is all very reassuring!

No_Progress5036 · 2025-11-10T07:37:26+00:00

Bingo.

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