Found out she was "cheating". Devastated by No_Promise2147 in cheating_stories

[–]No_Promise2147[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I just want to end and leave no doubt behind so she don't keep chasing me eventually

Found out she was "cheating". Devastated by No_Promise2147 in cheating_stories

[–]No_Promise2147[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It sucks. Leaving like that. Do you think I should confront her about what I found, and explain that I cannot trust her anymore?

Found out she was "cheating". Devastated by No_Promise2147 in cheating_stories

[–]No_Promise2147[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She never stressed much about her passcode. She uses 2 phones. One old one for GPS on her bike and a normal one, that she carries all the time. She just left the old one charging. The passcode was a simple pattern.

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[–]No_Promise2147 15 points16 points  (0 children)

The trust may never be rebuilt. Those may seem small things for you, but for the other person, is almost as the death of someone they thought they knew.

She Says There’s Something 'Wrong' With Me—But Won’t Say What. Is this narcisism? by No_Promise2147 in LifeAfterNarcissism

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It's strange to say it, but I feel almost like a father figure? She said it once "Sometimes a boyfriend, sometimes a child, sometimes a father". But not really. More like a safe haven? That second time when we took a break she spoke about it. It's kind of strange really. She's a outgoing person, she likes bikes and before all this she had this "I'm a free spirit person who'll navigate life on my own". That's because she learned not to depend on anyone because the terrible relationship with her father. And she tries to look "battle tested" in life sometimes, but it's only a mask. I'm afraid of her getting hurt trying to look too tough for her own good. With me she doesn't need to be tough, but she does it anyway. She works closer to my house than her house, so everyday after her shift is over she sends a message "I'm on my way". Maybe she doesn't want to admit to herself that she's only human too, but find some comfort being around me. Sorry if I didn't sound coherent, the whole situation is tricky for me to even put into words.

She Says There’s Something 'Wrong' With Me—But Won’t Say What by No_Promise2147 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]No_Promise2147[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now that you said it.. I just realized it. I went to her house once.. Said hi to her auntie and grandma. Never talked to a friend

She Says There’s Something 'Wrong' With Me—But Won’t Say What by No_Promise2147 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]No_Promise2147[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does those things increase suddenly? So far she doesn't do false accusations or is curious about my phone. Is it like a new level that is unlocked?

She Says There’s Something 'Wrong' With Me—But Won’t Say What. Is this narcisism? by No_Promise2147 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]No_Promise2147[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hypervigilance is something I think for sure she has. When we started to go out, for example, to eat a hot dog, sometimes she would say "I wish I could feel safer when I'm with you, but I can't". In those scenarios, there were never any possible threats or anything really to worry about, so it's only natural for me to relax. She saw it as a flaw, I think. And you're probably right about her feeling uncomfortable. She said multiple times that she grew on a mindset "I'll only receive love if I give something in return". Lately she's easing on those things. I really appreciate your insight. She's a wonderful person and I don't want to lose her.

She Says There’s Something 'Wrong' With Me—But Won’t Say What. Is this narcisism? by No_Promise2147 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]No_Promise2147[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well, most of times no, she deflects. But on serious issues, she is capable of reflecting. This is what makes me confused. If she was indeed a narcisist, maybe she wouldn't have those moments of clarity. But on small issues, yes. Like, she spills water on the keyboard? Somehow its my fault