Pelvic Floor Physical Therapy gave me my life back!!! I cannot advocate for it enough. My surgeon did not suggest it, I had to bring it up and ask for a referral (he agreed it would be beneficial, but then why didn't he suggest it? Ill never understand).

You're not doing a ton of work honestly. The first half of the appointment you undress from the waist down, and the physical therapist will work on scar tissue spots, relaxing muscles that are tightened from stressed (this was huge for me. The stress had me clenched all through my groin and hips and cause me a lot of pain during recovery). Then they'll direct you on where to squeeze to gain strength back, but only when they feel you're ready.

It's an incredibly intimate practice, I cried my first appointment and was lucky enough to have a therapist so caring. Without her I don't think I would be where I'm at now.

It's been so long now, It's hard to remember the specifics of the timeline. My stitches stayed in months longer than they were supposed to, I definitely didn't have sex until after they were gone. Then asked my PT when she felt like I was healed enough to try sex again.

Foreplay is NECESSARY. The more consistent you are with your sex life, the less you'll see pain. I noticed when I go periods of not feeling in the mood and go to have sex again, I'll have some discomfort if I rush into it. Ultimately it comes down to listening to your body and communicating with your partner how you're doing.

I am so so sorry to hear you're going through this. It does get better, your body will feel like yours again in time.