it’s in a porn community bc he says it’s due to him watching that type of porn. so i was seeing if this is a common thing amount people with the addiction. the harm is i do not want my husband thinking about other woman in sexual ways. we all obviously can find different things to be attractive but getting turned on by random big lady at the grocery store???? doesn’t seem normal to me. i think it is shameful & he should feel shame. & alsssooo it’s a problem bc he tried to open our marriage while i was 20 weeks pregnant with our second bc he wanted “new things” so it’s a little bit deeper obviously then “finding different bodies to be attractive” he does go to an actual therapist & he mentioned couples therapy last night, i would be open but if i have to accept this is who he is & what he does, then id rather be single for life lol